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Be Boldly YOU! ⁠
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Don't ever lose your sparkle, remember to always ⁠stay true to who you are. ⁠
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We just love meeting so many amazing students ⁠and helping them on their journey to be their best selves.

Have a beautiful Monday ✨

We love hearing feedback like this! ⁠
Things we never discuss these days, self-love and self-value are so important! ⁠
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You are so loved, valued, and special. Always remember that!

To nurture the relationships we tend to neglect, there's nothing like spending time with your nearest and dearest. ⁠
To rebuild and listen to each other whilst enjoying time on our specially designed retreats and workshops to create a safe space to reconnect with those most important to you!

I know that we're just over a week into December but I found this Kindness Calendar for this month and couldn't help but share it. Each day it describes a way that you can be kind. I think we could all use a little more kindness in our lives.

Do Good December: Kindness Calendar This month's theme: Do Good December

I completely understand how hard it is to see the good sometimes, especially after the last year and how so many people have been impacted in one way or another. But now, more than ever, it’s important to still find the good in things.

It’s the simples habits like gratitude and showing others kindness that can create positive change and neural pathways in the brain. Take simple consistent steps like writing down 3 things a day that you’re grateful for or open a door for someone. The little things turn into the big things so do the little things.

Above all else, know that you are beautiful, intelligent, special, and loved. 💕

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In this Newsletter learn about a study that shows how girls schools have the edge on academic and well-being outcomes, what Audrey Hepburn says is real beauty, and Her Future's upcoming Mother & Daughter Retreats in January.

Her Future's Newsletter Girls Schools Have The Edge In Academic Outcomes – Study This study shows how girls that go to all girls schools, compared to co-educational schools, overall have better outcomes in not only their academics but also in their well-being. The article explains how, “girls’ schools specialise in g...

An important message that every woman should read, about what true beauty is.

When Audrey Hepburn was asked to reveal her beauty secrets, she wrote this beautiful letter that was later read at her funeral.

′′ To have attractive lips, speak kind words.

To have a loving look, look for the good side of people.

To look skinny, share your food with the hungry.

To have beautiful hair, let a child cross it with his own fingers once a day.

To have a beautiful poise, walk knowing you're never alone, because those who love and loved you accompany you.

People, even more than objects, need to be fixed, spoiled, awakened, wanted and saved: never give up on anyone.

Remember, if you ever need a hand, you'll find them at the end of both your arms.

When you become old, you will discover that you have two hands, one to help yourself, the second to help others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, in her face or in her way of fixing her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the door open to her heart, the source of her love.

The beauty of a woman doesn't lie in her makeup, but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.

It is the tenderness that gives love, the passion that it expresses.
The beauty of a woman grows over the years ′′

Just a little reminder to appreciate and be grateful for just being alive.
Such great advice from Holly, 26 years young and sadly taken too soon. 💕

This is such an important message, “True self-care is not bath salts and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.”

If you haven’t read this post it’s definitely worth your time to. Overall, just a great reminder of what’s important in life.

“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”
-Brianna Wiest
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