A New Pinnacle Life Coaching - Debbie Peden

*What would I do if I trusted myself?"

Sometimes we're not actually waiting for more information.

We're waiting for permission.

Permission to make the decision.
To change direction.
To say No.
To begin.

But try this:
Think of one decision you're currently wrestling with.

Ask:

"If I trusted myself, what would my next small step be?"

You don't need certainty. Just enough self-trust to take the next step.

Reflection:
"Where might I be underestimating myself?"

Perhaps give yourself permission to take that next step.

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Continuing with the thread on 'The Questions We Don't Ask Ourselves"...

"What am I giving my energy to?*

Our attention is one of our most valuable resources.

Yet it's easy to spend it replaying conversations, worrying about things we can't control, or comparing ourselves with others.

What if - instead - we notice where our thoughts keep returning today.

Then ask:
"Is this something I can influence?"

If it isn't, gently bring your attention back to something you can.

Reflection:
Where could I invest my energy more intentionally?

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The Questions We Don't Ask Ourselves

*What do I really need?*

We can become so focused on what we *should* be doing that we forget to check in with ourselves.

Perhaps you're in need of rest.
Perhaps you're after connection.
Perhaps you need a boundary, some encouragement - or simply some time to think.

Try this:

Pause today and ask:
"What do I need right now?"

Then, if it's within your control, give yourself a little of it.

Reflection:
"How often do I listen to my own needs before responding to everyone else's?"

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The Questions We Don't Ask Ourselves

*What am I making this mean?*

Something happens.

Then our mind creates a story about what it means.

"They don't value me."
"I've failed."
"This always happens to me."

But the event and the meaning we attach to it aren't necessarily the same thing.

I had a situation yesterday when my mind was oscillating around a challenge I was experiencing with a health professional and my mind had come to just one conclusion.

Until I stopped to thnk what alternative conclusions I could reach....

So, think of something that's bothering you and ask:

"What else could this mean?"

You may discover - like me - that your first interpretation isn't the only one available.

.. What changes when we separate what happened from the story we've created about it?

The Questions We Don't Ask Ourselves...

What am I avoiding?

Sometimes we know there is a conversation we need to have, a decision we need to make, or a change we've been putting off.

Avoidance can feel easier in the moment - but it can also quietly consume energy.

Try this:

Think of one thing you've been avoiding and ask:
What would become possible if I faced this?

You don't have to solve it today.

Sometimes awareness is the first step.

What is avoidance costing me?

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Looking back on the past month of Tiny Shifts...

A celebration of the journey:

What have you noticed, learned or changed during these past few weeks?

A greater awareness?
Deeper connection?
Enhanced emotional wisdom?
Refined purpose?
Taken actions to develop this growth?

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Tiny Shift – Meaning Over More...

We don't necessarily need to do more.

Sometimes we need to make more meaning from what we're already doing.

A meal shared with someone we love.
Work that contributes to something important.
A walk that gives us space to think.

Purpose isn't always found in extraordinary moments.

Sometimes it's found in how we experience ordinary ones.

Today, why not choose one everyday activity and be fully present for it?

.. What makes this moment meaningful for you?

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The Law of the One and the Many...

Tiny Shift – Your Purpose Touches Others:

Our lives are individual, but we're never completely separate.

The choices we make ripple into our families, friendships, workplaces and communities.

A small act of kindness can affect someone else's day.
A courageous decision can inspire someone else to act.

Ask:
"How could one small choice I make today positively impact someone else?"

Then do it.

What ripple would you like to create?

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Tiny Shift – Your Path Is Yours...

It's easy to look at someone else's life and wonder if we're falling behind.

But your values, circumstances, experiences and priorities are uniquely yours.

There isn't one version of a meaningful life. But there's your unique version.

When you catch yourself comparing today, ask:
"Am I measuring my life against someone else's values, or my own?"

What would change if I trusted my own definition of success?

TinyShifts

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Tiny Shift – Follow the Energy

Pay attention to the activities that leave you feeling engaged, connected and alive.

They may offer clues about what matters to you.

At the end of today, write down one thing that gave you energy.

Then ask:

"What value was being expressed?

What does my energy reveal about what matters to me?

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