Julie Shafer, PhD

If you're a people-pleaser, you try to be easy and fun, but did you know it MAKES YOU INVISIBLE? Not the thing you want when you're dating!

That’s why I’ve teamed up with Madeline Charles and 20+ top love experts for The Irresistible Woman® FREE Virtual Learning Series + Daily Gift Giveaway.

You’ll get exclusive 30-minute audio trainings with specific insights for high-achieving women ready to create immediate results in love.

Plus 20+ bonus gifts you’ll actually use.

If you’re ready to stop carrying the connection and start being pursued, this was made for you.

But don’t wait, we’re starting soon.

Join us here →https://madelinecharlescoaching.com/theirresistiblewomanseries/drshafer

If you’ve been feeling discouraged or uncertain in your love life…

I want you to know you’re not alone — and there is a way forward. ❤️

I’m excited to share that I’ll be a guest speaker in the “Ready For Love Virtual Summit, a FREE online event created to support singles who are truly ready to welcome healthy, lasting love. The summit runs from February 9th - 15th with replays available!

The summit is hosted by Jaime Bronstein, LCSW, who was named “The #1 Relationship Coach Transforming Lives” by Yahoo. You’ll hear from 35 of the most respected relationship experts, including Dr. John Gray and Arielle Ford, and I’ll be sharing my unique insights and teachings to help you move toward the connection you’ve been longing for… and DESERVE!

If your heart is ready for LOVE, I’d love for you to join us.

✨ Register now for FREE! https://readyforlovesummit.com/?speaker=julie

Have you been ghosted? Here's why it hurts and how to move on.

Why Ghosting Hurts So Much — And How to Move On Learn why ghosting triggers intense emotional pain and what steps help you move on. Covers brain pain, attachment, identity wounds, and real recovery tools.

📣 Calling all high-achievers! Are you tired of feeling like you are constantly burning the candle at both ends? Are you ready to step away from perfectionism and people pleasing?

It’s time to:

👉 Discover how you can THRIVE at work and home

👉 Learn why balance is actually bullsh*t (and what’re actually wanting!)

👉 Get your schedule under control so you have more TIME and ENERGY to do the things you LOVE – without the mom guilt.

👉 Get off of autopilot and step into a more fulfilling life where exhaustion and overwhelm are no longer the norm.

Join me alongside 20+ other speakers and experts for The ROCKSTAR Mom FREE Virtual Event, hosted by Megan Caldwell ()

Each 30-minute audio session fits right into your busy life – perfect for your commute, walks, or cooking! Plus, every session includes a FREE gift to support your love journey. 🎁

Don’t waste any more time searching for the next new thing, reading tons of books, or just hoping this is the year you’ll figure it out….

During The ROCKSTAR Mom you’ll get fresh, powerful tools NOW to step into the life you truly desire. Walk away with action steps and tools from experts, doctors, authors and speakers.

Ready to feel like a ROCKSTAR in both mind and body?

Join us here → https://megancaldwellpdx.com/therockstarmom2025/julieshafer

💡 Here's what nobody tells you about loving someone with addiction:

Both the "indirect helper" approach AND the "direct confrontation" approach can lead to the same painful outcome.

Your loved one ends up resenting you. The relationship suffers. And you feel stuck between being the "enabler" or the "bad guy."
But what if there was a middle way?

Join my free webinar with Jeff Jones, MA, LPC, CRNC1—Family Recovery Coach and founder of Family Recovery Solution. We're sharing how to change your side of the communication pattern to create space for everything to shift.

🗓️ July 18, 2025 at 9:00 AM PT
🔗 Register here: https://www.drjulieshafer.com/webinar-get-heard-addiction-family

🤔 Do you feel like you're having the same painful conversations with your loved one over and over again?

Whether you try to help indirectly (sharing resources, fixing things behind the scenes) or go direct (honest conversations about what needs to change), somehow it always leads to the same outcome: resentment, arguments, and hurt feelings.
There's a third way. And I'm sharing it in a free webinar with Family Recovery Coach Jeff Jones, MA, LPC, CRNC1.

🗓️ Join us July 18, 2025 at 9:00 AM Pacific for:
“You’re Not Crazy—They’re Not Listening: How to Get Heard in a Family Impacted by Addiction”

👉 Register here: https://www.drjulieshafer.com/webinar-get-heard-addiction-family

When someone takes space for themselves, it’s easy to misinterpret it as distance or rejection. But in reality, they might just need time to recharge 🌿. At the same time, the person affected by this space may feel confused or hurt 💔. This is why effective communication is a must—without it, assumptions and misunderstandings can creep in, leading to unnecessary tension or even toxic behaviors. Both sides need to express their feelings openly 🗣️, so space doesn’t turn into disconnection.

Life is too short 🫣🫢

Yes 💕