Building the Bond

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The acting out is a symptom of a need not being met. We have to decode what the need is, instead of assuming they are 'pushing our buttons on purpose' or 'just looking for attention.' These judgements do not serve you as a parent, and they disregard the fact that your child is searching for connection in the only way they know how.
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Yes! This is a very important distinction. We CAN put in limits for our children while making space for all of their feelings (not just the acceptable feelings). When our children know that we can sit with them in an uncomfortable, vulnerable space it creates a deep knowing that they can come to use at any point in their development with difficult experiences and that we will be there for them.

Emotional isolation is a terrifying experience at any age- but for our children who desperately need an adult in their lives- it can change the course of their entire trajectory as they learn that they are alone, that the adults in their world are cold and distant, and that the world is a lonely place.

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Let your calm be contagious...When we are able to calm our stress response, we are helping to nurture how our child responds in a stressful situation. Their stress response often mirrors our stress response. Think carefully about the type of experience you want to model for your child...and remember that it is repeated experiences that shape the brain.

Delaney from Screenagers is a great resource for all kinds of tween/ teenage stuff
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🎁 2021's Mostly Non-Tech Gift Guide While compiling this list of mostly non-tech gifts for this holiday season, I so enjoyed the distraction from the complexities and uncertainties of COVID — and I thank my film partner Lisa for her contributions as well. 

To Co-Regulate or Co-Dysregulate. What to do when their feelings or behaviour get big. - Hey Sigmund All children can behave in ways that are … not very adorable. Big behaviour can be exhausting and maddening for even the calmest of parents. There’s a good reason for this. Children create their distress in their important adults as a way to share the emotional load when that load gets too heavy...

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