09/19/2020
HEY, YOU SELF-HELPER, LISTEN CAREFULLY.
BE CAREFUL OF THIS DANGEROUS MISTAKE ALL PEOPLE MAKE.
Self-help is amazing, but be careful.
You know, self-help is a tool, like any other.
Self-help is the tool of people who do not find the help they need in the people around them.
The problem with that is that it sometimes teaches people to rely only on themselves, even when this is simply impossible.
You must discover whether your fixation on self-help comes from resentment towards others.
If that is the case, you are likely to fall into the trap of extreme self-reliance and of fantasies of tyrannical dominance.
If your independence of thought and action comes from your resentment towards others or society, then you are likely to use self-help as a tool to dominate others.
Be careful: this leads you down a path of self-destruction. Self-help is meant to be a tool. You muse use it—do not let it use you.
The good self-helping approach is the one where you make yourself grow and at the same time make others grow with you—this is the essence of true leadership.
Peace