The Cosmic Education

Have you ever felt that although you are not mentally ready to make a change, a new year is here and you must be changing something?

Lots of people can feel the pressure of New Year, New Me and set unrealistic goals.

Why not approach goals in a less-pressured way and set intentions instead?

If you want to find more about intention setting and surround yourself with like-minded people join my next women circle at the end of the month.

Stay tuned!

Most activities take little to no prep time and will help bring your family together in the spirit of the holidays.

If you want a copy of the 12 days to Christmas advent calendar, send me a DM.

Let me know in the comments, what do you do?

So hard to resist our urge to rescue our children when they feel frustrated.

These 3 steps will help you to help them and build resilience when they feel they can do something.

Is funny how parents expect to reap something they never sow for.

Every action we choose to take or not will has a consequence in our children's future.

What would you like to sow when your little children become adolescents or adults?

If you would like to know how to support your children now that they are little to sow what you what in the future send me a DM.

Conscious, gentle, positive, holistic parenting are all relatively new terms that are used to describe a child centre style of parenting where the focus is fulfilling children's needs in a mindful and conscious way.

It started as a contrast to traditional parenting in which the focus is on the adult's needs.

Being a relatively recent new way of relating to childhood, it could be misunderstood as we do not have a clear model to follow or experience on how to do it.

I have noticed that many mothers I work with are falling into the error of failing to take into account the needs of mothers and just focus on children's needs. In other words, they are applying the same dynamics of traditional adult-centred parenting, but in reverse. And this is generating, as happened in traditional parenting, unbalanced relationships, increasing the already high doses of guilt, shame, self-doubt and inadequacy feeling in motherhood.

These new styles of parenting left many mothers feeling “the worst mothers in the world” as they created a false image of perfect parents that never lose their calm, never lose their patience, have the right answer on every occasion, handle tantrums and any challenge in the calmest, loving way; are successful in every area of their lives; have a perfect relationship with their children.

When in reality parenting is a journey of self-discovery. Through every stage, every challenge we are learning to be the parents our children need us to be and as humans, we will get it wrong so many times.

The important thing here is for you to find the right balance for you, your child and your family and this will look different for everyone.

Let's start normalizing that we can not be perfect parents all the time but we can be good enough parents most of the time.

Let me hear your thoughts.

On October 10th World mental health is celebrated worldwide.

According to statistics
20% of adolescents may experience a mental health problem in any given year.
50% of mental health problems are established by age 14 and 75% by age 24.
10% of children and young people (aged 5-16 years) have a clinically diagnosable mental problem, yet 70% of children and adolescents who experience mental health problems have not had appropriate interventions at a sufficiently early age
Mental health problems in childhood might include depression, anxiety behavioural problems, and are often a direct response to what is happening in their lives.

These 5 tips will contribute to your children's mental health.

Do you have any other tips?

Share this information with other parents that need a reminder on the importance of mental health.

Our reaction to our children tantrums can have a huge impact on the way they manage and express their emotions.

We asked them to control themselves when they do not have the capacity to do it as their brain is not fully developed.

We frequently tend to lose our temper when dealing with a tantrum.🤬

Remember we are there to role model acceptable ways to manage their feelings

How can they learn if we ask them to do something we are not able to do??? 🤔

When dealing with your child's tantrum Do you lose your s**t or try to connect before correcting?

Do you know how your parents reacted to your tantrums?

If you constantly point out your children mistakes instead of observing where are they coming from (lack of skill, incorrect tools) you might be raising an adult that struggles with perfectionism, might be scared to do anything just to avoid failure or a hypercritical person.

Do not scold your children for their mistakes. Use them as learning opportunities.

" I need someone or something to tell me I'm doing it right" 🤔

As parents, we always question everything we do, say, think, choose, decide, questioning ourselves is our natural state.

🧠 Our mind needs recognition and validation and tries to get it from our external references, might be from our own parents, friends, society expectations, a new trend or even an influencer, we need someone to tell us how to do it.

But we do not apply the same questioning premises to that external information and just follow it, even when deep down we know there is something quite not right about it. 🤯

Most parents I work with are looking for a magic formula, a 1,2, 3 step process that will help them to have the perfect child they created in their minds without even questioning if they might have an unrealistic expectation, or realizing that the issues might be within themselves not their children.

That is why self-observation is a key element of my approach. We need to look 🔎 inside to change the outside.

What will help you to feel that as a parent you are doing it right?

Maria Montessori was born on 31 August 1870 in the town of Chiaravalle, Italy. She is well known for her education method, being a social activist, and challenging the status quo, in a society where a woman could only aspire to be a housewife and nothing else.

Every time I read her quotes, books, learn about her life I am amazed by her vision of the human potential within the child, her beliefs about the rights of women, and equality.

Everything she wrote about is still valid. Sometimes I wonder was she ahead of her time or we have not learned the lesson?

What do you think?