05/10/2026
Sometimes, you’re the trigger.
That can be uncomfortable to admit as an adult.
We often focus on the child:
Why are they so irritable?
Why are they yelling?
Why won’t they listen?
Why is everything becoming a battle?
But sometimes, we need to look at the energy **we’re bringing into the room.**
If we’re rushed, they often become rushed.
If we’re frustrated, they can become defensive.
If our voice gets louder, theirs often follows.
If we approach them expecting a battle, sometimes we create one before it even begins.
Children are incredibly responsive to the adults around them.
That doesn’t mean we never get frustrated. We’re human.
And it certainly doesn’t mean children shouldn’t have boundaries, consequences or expectations.
But sometimes the fastest way to change the interaction is to change our own energy first.
Lower your voice.
Slow down.
Get closer.
Say less.
Be clear.
Hold the boundary without bringing anger into it.
You might be surprised by how differently a child responds when the adult in front of them feels calm, predictable and in control.
We spend so much time trying to regulate children.
Sometimes, we need to regulate ourselves first.
Change your energy, and you may just change theirs too. ❤️