The behaviour might be loud 💥 but the missing skill is usually quiet.
When a child hits, screams, lashes out or melts down, it can feel like they are choosing to be difficult…
But children are not born knowing how to manage frustration, disappointment, anger or overwhelm.
Punishment might stop the behaviour in the moment, but it doesn’t teach the child what to do with those big feelings next time.
So what is our role?
We teach the missing skill. 💡
We show them how to pause, calm their body and also how to release those feelings with safety.
That means the boundary (which is also so important!) comes with guidance… because emotional regulation is something they will learn through repeated, safe, and supported experiences with us.
So instead of asking, “How do I stop this behaviour?”
Try “What skill does my child need help learning here?”
That question changes everything. ❤️
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Sylvia Arotin
Award Winning ECE International Speaker & passionate advocate for Childhood Development. So, who am I?
Deep-rooted commitment to fostering positive change in children and families worldwide! Imagine a life without toddler tantrums…
Imagine going to the supermarket without the meltdowns... imagine a restaurant outing without the embarrassment...imagine a crayon free wall! You’re probably thinking ‘yeah right – not with my kids!’ Well, we are here to tell you that not only is it possible – it is comp
Somehow we went in for socks and came out with snacks, stickers, a drink bottle, craft supplies, a carpet and a couch 😳💵
Ok it’s funny because it’s true… but it also speaks to something deeper about parenting young children.
So much happens in the invisible details… We’re constantly anticipating needs, preparing for transitions, replacing lost items, creating opportunities, buying the things that make the day smoother, and trying to support our child’s growth in a hundred small ways.
Children don’t notice all of it yet, but these repeated acts of care become part of their sense of safety.
Be proud of yourself! ❤️
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Bedtime often brings out the biggest emotions. 🌙😮💨💥
Hi 👋 I’m Sylvia Arotin, Child Development & Behaviour Expert with over 15 years in Education.
When your child becomes angry, emotional or resistant at bedtime, they may be showing signs of dysregulation after a long day of holding everything together.
Young children spend their day managing transitions, stimulation, social expectations, learning, noise… so their nervous system can be tired, overloaded and searching for safety.
That means your child relies on you to help them co-regulate before they can settle. That may look like
✨ keeping consistency
✨ lowering your voice
✨ validating their feelings
✨ offering calm physical connection
✨ keeping the boundary around bedtime steady.
Co-regulation teaches children how to move from overwhelm back to calm. Over time, these repeated experiences build the emotional skills they need to settle with more confidence.
So if bedtime feels hard right now, take a breath and know that your child is not trying to make the night difficult… They are showing you they need support at the end of a very full day. 🩷
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and suddenly getting out the door takes 47 minutes 🥲
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As frustrating as it can feel when you’re late, carrying bags, and watching them struggle with one shoe for a while, those little moments are building confidence, capability and independence. 😍
Children learn by doing, trying, by struggling a little and by being given the time and space to participate.
Not every moment needs rushing, correcting or rescuing…
Sometimes growth looks painfully slow in real time 😅 But these are the moments that help children believe “I can do hard things.”
Even if the shoe ends up on the wrong foot in the end 🩷
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04/06/2026
Scripts for the parent you want to be 🩷
What else would you add to the list?
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In the hard moments, we don’t always need more theory. Sometimes, we just need the words… and they can be beautifully simple.
The words that help us stay calm when our child is melting down, hold a boundary without shame, and remind our child: “I’m here, and I’m still leading.”
In Montessori and child development, we talk about freedom within limits. Children need space to feel, express, explore and make choices, while also knowing the adult is steady enough to hold the boundary.
These small scripts matter because they teach children that feelings are safe, behaviour has limits, and connection stays.
This is how we raise children who feel secure, capable and understood.
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04/06/2026
Scripts for the parent you want to be 🩷
What else would you add to the list?
In the hard moments, we don’t always need more theory. Sometimes, we just need the words… and they can be beautifully simple.
The words that help us stay calm when our child is melting down, hold a boundary without shame, and remind our child: “I’m here, and I’m still leading.”
In Montessori and child development, we talk about freedom within limits. Children need space to feel, express, explore and make choices, while also knowing the adult is steady enough to hold the boundary.
These small scripts matter because they teach children that feelings are safe, behaviour has limits, and connection stays.
This is how we raise children who feel secure, capable and understood.
🩷 Save this for the moments when you need the words quickly
💌 Share it with a parent or educator who wants to hold boundaries with warmth and confidence
Parenting a toddler is basically waking up every morning to a brand new set of terms and conditions 😳😳😳
One day the banana is perfect, the next day it’s offensive.
One sock feels “too socky.”
The toast is cut wrong.
You opened the yoghurt when they wanted to do it themselves.
But also… they needed help.
🤣🤣🤣
Toddlers are not giving you a hard time…
They are having a hard time navigating a world where emotions change faster than logic can keep up!
And honestly, sometimes you just have to take notes and adapt accordingly. 🙃🩷
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