James Lloyd - Core Attraction

𝗜𝘀 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗠𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆?

I was in Warsaw, Poland last weekend. I was sitting back smoking sh**ha in a bar with a few close friends, all sharing about our lives and our businesses.

There was a friendly Irish guy sitting across the table for me, and he asked what I do for a living.

“I help men find self-confidence”, I said. His ears pricked up with curiosity, and he then asked “Isn’t confidence all just about money? I find that when I am making a lot of money, I am confident. When my business is in a down period, my confidence then drops, and the cycle continues.”

“Absolutely not.” I responded. He then leaned forward with more curiosity. I then explained…

“The fact that your confidence moves up and down depending on your money shows that you have ‘conditional confidence’. In other words, you have an internal script in your head that is telling you, ‘I can only be confident if certain conditions in my life are met. Specifically, I am only worthy of confidence if I have a certain amount of money’.

You see, this is an extremely common misconception among men. They believe that a certain amount of money will fix their life, and that the confidence and fulfillment that they have always craved will magically appear when the number changes in their bank account.

When I go deep into this issue with the men I coach, we often find that this is a ‘script’ that they learnt from their childhood. A script saying “I must be successful to be worthy of love, acceptance and confidence”.

There is a dangerous irony of this script. It means that we can become desperate and needy for money, which can actually mean we are less likely to gain it.

So, what is the solution?

We need to find ‘Unconditional Confidence’. This means we have a deep internal belief that ‘I am Worthy of Love, Fulfillment and Confidence as I Am’. This especially needs to be communicated to the child within us, as our childhood is where we developed many of our deepest beliefs.

Now, this ‘Unconditional Confidence’ does not mean that we stop trying to make money, and find success in our life. On the contrary, many of my coaching clients who have found this Unconditional Confidence have told me that it is now easier and more exciting to take greater action in their lives. To take more risks, make more money, meet more people. This all starts to come naturally once we heal the wounds of the ‘Conditional Confidence’ and instead replace it with an unshakeable, unconditional confidence and self-worth.

So, do the work to find your deep internal confidence, and then enjoy the process of moving forward to the money and relationships you always wanted.

If you want help with this, simply DM me with the word ‘Money’ and I will send you a free Video training that will help you transform your mindsets about Money.

Big Love,
James

Congratulations to the 2 Legends from England & Ireland that joined the Unshakeable Confidence Program this week!
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Let it Go. Then, you will be Free.

One hour ago, I started a Video Call with one of my clients.

He was angry.

Angry about people who had let him down. A breakup that had almost destroyed him.

His voice was tense, frustrated and his energy was resentful.

I listened for about 15 minutes to give him the space to vent.

Then, I simply said 'You need to allow yourself to Let Go'.

Letting Go is not about justifying what the other person has done. It is about allowing yourself to regain control and power back in your life.

The person who can Let Go of whatever he feels, is in complete control of his life.

That person can be hated, betrayed and even ridiculed. It will not even impact them, because of the one key power.

The power to let go.

Now, nothing can control him.

I'm not saying it's a quick fix. But step by step, you can learn to let go.

He just messaged me with a picture of his notepad with the words...

'Let Go. I want to be Free. Then I control all situations, and become powerful again.'

This is the kind of simple brilliance I live for. The men I coach start to become their own Coaches. They regain full control over their life.

What can you let go of today?

Big Love,
James

People perceive us based on how we feel inside.
No clothes can hide your insecurities.

No mask can change the way your eyes look at this world.

Heal yourself first, and then you will see how society will look differently at you.

How do you understand the definition of an "alpha male"?
Do you consider yourself an ALPHA?

Does it even exist?

Ready to hear your thoughts!

Do you know your purpose? What power fuels you and gives you the motivation to achieve your goals and dreams?

Share with me in the comments.

There is no shame in loving yourself. It's not egoistic or negative in any connotation, despite what you may have constantly heard.
It's NORMAL to take care of your mind and body wellbeing, to say no when you don't want something, and ACT right away when you hear your heart calling.

Love yourself first - and you will learn that your love still is enough to love others even more than before.

Our bodies are strongly connected to our minds. Our fears, anxiety, and stress are mirrored by the body.

By crossing our hands or legs we give the signal to the outer world that they're not welcomed.

But is it so? Do you want to isolate yourself from all these opportunities and priceless life experiences?

Find the true reason why you hide behind your "body armor" - and set yourself free.

Confidence comes from your inner power. You may try to add to it with your clothes or accessories, but if your inner Light is dimmed, you won't be able to highlight your TRUE confidence.

Be the man you dream to be. Not tomorrow, not next month, but NOW.

Even a small step towards your dreams is an achievement that you have to celebrate.

Be proud of yourself: you chose to move forward.

You chose to change your life! Enjoy the process and appreciate your own efforts.