Grit and Grace Culture

Imagine saying to yourself that all you've experienced to this day isn't your final chapter. That you've survived 100% of your bad days, and you've done so with the resources you had available at the time.

Imagine stating, in whichever emotional state you find yourself currently in, you are beautifully strong and resourceful. You are talented and compassionate. You can and will find a community that sees the real YOU and visualise those broken moments healing with gold bonding, holding you together, stronger; and as symbolism of your beautiful graceful power.

If the pain, shame, and programming of your gritty work culture has left your energies out of alignment; a little off balance, a little deregulated, your body is reacting in a way that tries to bring you back into 'safety'.

What I've learnt is that although the grit felt like I was always able to achieve... to hold it together... to get it all done... but, without a balance of grace, I became so exhausted... a broken machine. I now need my grit left in the reserve tank to use in the healing, the unwounding. Bringing grace and feminine power into my resources to navigate the broken puzzle. To bond the pieces of my story to state with gold filling...

Experiences have hurt; I've not encouraged or deserved the pain and shame, nor has my gritty workculture supported anything other than compartmentalising the 'survival' experiences. Somedays, I still feel like a broken machine, and I'm not alone in this culture. But our souls remain beautiful, and to visualise our healing with beautiful gold repair displays the beauty in progress, not perfection.

Imagine saying to yourself that all you've experienced to this day isn't your final chapter. That you've survived 100% of your bad days, and you've done so with the resources you had available at the time. Imagine stating, in whichever emotional state you find yourself currently in, you are beautifully strong and resourceful. You are talented and compassionate. You can and will find a community that sees the real YOU and visualise those broken moments healing with gold bonding, holding you together, stronger; and as symbolism of your beautiful graceful power. If the pain, shame, and programming of your gritty work culture has left your energies out of alignment; a little off balance, a little deregulated, your body is reacting in a way that tries to bring you back into 'safety'. What I've learnt is that although the grit felt like I was always able to achieve... to hold it together... to get it all done... but, without a balance of grace, I became so exhausted... a broken machine. I now need my grit left in the reserve tank to use in the healing, the unwounding. Bringing grace and feminine power into my resources to navigate the broken puzzle. To bond the pieces of my story to state with gold filling... Experiences have hurt; I've not encouraged or deserved the pain and shame, nor has my gritty workculture supported anything other than compartmentalising the 'survival' experiences. Somedays, I still feel like a broken machine, and I'm not alone in this culture. But our souls remain beautiful, and to visualise our healing with beautiful gold repair displays the beauty in progress, not perfection. #traumahealing #militarywomen #womeninlawenforcement #womeninsecurity #gritty #gold #kintsugi #gritandgrace #culture #redefine #ptsd #healingjourney #feminineenergy #aligned #brokenmachine #nothingbutthieves

We give grace to others navigating gritty cultures, but so often overlook giving ourselves the same grace and respect... especially when you have challenges within your team, workplace, or superiors.

This is a gentle reminder to recognise that we can uplevel effortlessly and become an aligned leader, gently, and with grace, when we recognise where others are at instead of feeling an ick about them.

Our reactions to our 'challenging' or 'frustrating' colleagues provide an opportunity and insight to blackspots in our healing, but also a measure of where that person may be at, and how you can aid their personal and professional development by goal setting or tailoring courses to support mastery elevation.

We give grace to others navigating gritty cultures, but so often overlook giving ourselves the same grace and respect... especially when you have challenges within your team, workplace, or superiors. This is a gentle reminder to recognise that we can uplevel effortlessly and become an aligned leader, gently, and with grace, when we recognise where others are at instead of feeling an ick about them. Our reactions to our 'challenging' or 'frustrating' colleagues provide an opportunity and insight to blackspots in our healing, but also a measure of where that person may be at, and how you can aid their personal and professional development by goal setting or tailoring courses to support mastery elevation. . #traumahealing #grit #grittyculture #grace #alignedleader #leadership #ick #healingjourney #empathy #defenceforces #firefighter #womeninlawenforcement #womeninsecurity #womeninuniform #helpingothers

It is unlikely you recognise your true self anymore because of past experiences, the cultural patterns you've adapted to in your career or service, and the general change of the world around us.

Without realising, that little part inside you that makes you YOU has shrunk, and you've learnt new ways to survive the gritty environment.

Showing up big is taking one step in a direction, at your own pace, and that makes that little part inside you question why... why do you fear 'x', ...why do you feel safer by doing 'x', why does everything feel urgent/dangerous/reactive?

Shrinking is no longer an option once you take a step towards healing. You'll fear it. Your body will do all it can to revert to old behaviours to make you feel more at ease. Showing up big will mean listening to your intuition/gut as you move with grace, with fierce self-compassion and lean into healing with love. Slowly. Gently. This is you beginning to redefine and uplevel effortlessly, in a way that protects your nervous system and aligning your feminine power.

Keep going. There is no time limit to healing. Just one step when you feel the PULSE to take it. Fear is a normal experience in the healing process. Anger is a gauge of reaching healing milestones. Exhaustion is your body flowing past traumas, shame, and learnt patterns.

You are allowed to fall back into old habits, but I promise your mind/body/soul will begin to recognise why you've chosen that action as a coping pattern. That little piece inside of YOU will reclaim its healing power and transcend shaming yourself for being human because change is all a part of the non-linear, healing pathway!

It is unlikely you recognise your true self anymore because of past experiences, the cultural patterns you've adapted to in your career or service, and the general change of the world around us. Without realising, that little part inside you that makes you YOU has shrunk, and you've learnt new ways to survive the gritty environment. Showing up big is taking one step in a direction, at your own pace, and that makes that little part inside you question why... why do you fear 'x', ...why do you feel safer by doing 'x', why does everything feel urgent/dangerous/reactive? Shrinking is no longer an option once you take a step towards healing. You'll fear it. Your body will do all it can to revert to old behaviours to make you feel more at ease. Showing up big will mean listening to your intuition/gut as you move with grace, with fierce self-compassion and lean into healing with love. Slowly. Gently. This is you beginning to redefine and uplevel effortlessly, in a way that protects your nervous system and aligning your feminine power. Keep going. There is no time limit to healing. Just one step when you feel the PULSE to take it. Fear is a normal experience in the healing process. Anger is a gauge of reaching healing milestones. Exhaustion is your body flowing past traumas, shame, and learnt patterns. You are allowed to fall back into old habits, but I promise your mind/body/soul will begin to recognise why you've chosen that action as a coping pattern. That little piece inside of YOU will reclaim its healing power and transcend shaming yourself for being human because change is all a part of the non-linear, healing pathway! #trauma #healing #femininepower #womeninlawenforcement #defenceforces #firefighter #police #healingjourney #fiercewomen

💛We will heal as soon as we feel safe to regulate our nervous systems.

♥️We will talk as soon as we have space to be heard and the language to support our voice to break through the trauma lump in our throat.

💙We will allow all emotions to flow as soon as the stagnant shame is forced to surface through reclaiming our love and respect for self.

💜We will learn that their apologies do not hold the permissions for our healing as soon as we can remove the power from the abusers and reclaim for the survivors.

🍍So many of us power through our gritty work cultures, pushing for outcomes and attaching self-worth to the achievements. The ego may feel protecting at a point in time, but the ego isn't you or serving a balanced or aligned purpose in your life.

☣️Your pain, experiences, memories, and reactions are valid and true to you. There is no scale to measure trauma and shame severity, except for the weight that you apply to it.

⚠️What if you let some light in** on what feels so ick, on the not-so-bad, life changing, etc, event? Because... YOU CAN take the first step at any time when conditions are right, regardless of time passed...

⚠️What if the ick, the it's not-so-bad, life changing, etc, event, was something that many of us experience, but we are only begining to release our power begins when we actively decide we are safe and supported to talk about it? Because... YOU WILL find your community! Your feminist fight club makes space, holds space, or takes space FOR YOU, especially in the times you feel like you just can't anymore...

💫YOU ARE LOVED. YOU ARE SEEN. YOU ARE DIVINE. Together, we will learn to balance our grit with grace and reclaim our feminine power.



**trauma and mental health are much more complex than a social media post. Engage with appropriate services and professionals to aid your healing in a safe and secure pace that suits YOUR needs. I will help connect with helplines should you be in need.

A lot of deep-seeded, stagnant energies are beginning to shift. I've been leaning out of situations subconsiously for far too long to sustain a pace in my gritty work culture and have been shocked in my inability to press it back in its compartmented box... It's worked for over 20yrs!

The process of choosing grace has unlocked something in me that feels I'm at my edges and rediscovering pain, but instead of it draining me, I have an effortless flame to feel the PULSE, and allow comfort for self, the discomfort. I'm no longer PUSHing for the outcome.

I'm leaning into feminine leadership, starting with my healing.

Through all the pain, shame, and programming magic is still mine to claim. I choose to part with the old keys. They no longer serve my future.

Because without we are .

Throw in a little full moon magic and watch all three come to life!

At the end of the day, as long as you've gone to bed knowing you've tried, then be kind to yourself. Being an aligned leader isn't about losing who you are for the benefit of others.

Being a trailblazer comes from a passion within to create change; pathing the way to allow others to be heard, achieve, or succeed.

Being a mess, a little wild, or radiating your feminine power doesn't define the quality of your impact in the gritty culture you serve...

Every day, you're trying, and THANK YOU for being you! YOU make a difference.

You are not on this earth to solve all the problems. Nor, are you here to carry the problems either.

The power lies within the ability to let go! Letting go doesn't mean not caring. It means caring enough for your own health, safety, and boundaries to ensure you continue to respect and love yourself.

Beat your own drum and move at the speed you need. Your mind needs to sense safety to allow for healing to occur.

Finish the following sentences and use them as a flash card when you're in system-overwhelm...

I can...
I will...
I am...

Do you need a mental image of grit with grace? Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg was (and still is) the imprint for me!

💥Stop the narrative of needing to fix women... because we're not broken!

💥Change your thinking... because how we speak to ourselves matters

💥Get ready to kick arse in the unequal gritty workplace

❗️We're going to lean out to lean in... we won't fall over

❗️We will build a community of trailblazers who will redefine what it means to be an aligned leader

❗️We will learn how to uplevel effortlessly by integrating feminine power in the daily grind

✨️We will balance our grit with grace!

✨️We talk openly about this fight club, and we raise a community of untethered, untamed, and unapologetic sistas in the process!

💥Stop the narrative of needing to fix women... because we're not broken! 💥Change your thinking... because how we speak to ourselves matters 💥Get ready to kick arse in the unequal gritty workplace ❗️We're going to lean out to lean in... we won't fall over ❗️We will build a community of trailblazers who will redefine what it means to be an aligned leader ❗️We will learn how to uplevel effortlessly by integrating feminine power in the daily grind ✨️We will balance our grit with grace! ✨️We talk openly about this fight club, and we raise a community of untethered, untamed, and unapologetic sistas in the process! . #feministfightclub #jessicabennett #catherinefox #womeninuniform #womeninsecurity #military #alignedleader #uplevel #womeninlawenforcement #femininemovement #feminineenergy #feminineenergy #gritandgrace #gritty #trailblazer #lizzo #mileycryus @lizzobeeating @mileycyrus

My page is fairly new, but a concept of wanting to help people start the conversation of gritty cultures and the effect they can have humans is certainly not.

If you have already found this page, welcome and thank you for following along. I am a trailblazer who has been navigating gritty work culture for two decades. Grit had become my primary driver to achieve and overcome whatever 💩 or injustice was happening in workcultures and providing that grit, with grace, to people around me.

Over time, and without realising, I lost my grace for myself (and my personal relationships). Love and compassion were absent, and I had become a 'broken machine' programmed with pain and shame.

This post is to authenitcally show up to my community that I am absent from posting and sharing loving interactions with you because I'm in need to focus on grace for myself. It won't be long, but this image represents my ghosting in a period of grace because if I don't, I'm no better than the skeleton.

I'm not here for the algorithm. I'm here for aligned healing and REintergrating feminine power.

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