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Are You Scared Yet? The Role of Fear in Growth and Expansion

Have you ever felt scared of making a big change in your life? Maybe you’ve considered a career change or moving to a new city, but the fear of the unknown has held you back. It’s natural to feel scared when we step outside our comfort zone, but many people believe that if they are on the right path, they should feel happy all the time and never feel scared. This is simply not true.

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https://www.compellingleading.au/are-you-scared-yet-the-role-of-fear-in-growth-and-expansion-alexis-jane

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Good advise!

The pessimist complains about the wind.
The optimist expects it to change.
The LEADER adjusts the sail.
- John Maxwell

Great article from a great coach

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡
𝙀𝙣𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙋𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙂𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙩𝙝 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙌𝙪𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨

Have you ever taken notice of how you respond to advice given to you? Whether you keep it to yourself, or you’re a little more vocal, it’s important to remember that another person’s solution can only be based on their experiences which, naturally, cannot fully match yours.

We don’t like it for lots of reasons. Another person telling us the answer doesn’t help us build our confidence in ourselves or enable us to discover our own resources.

But as someone who wants to help change or enhance people’s performance, support them in discovering more resources, or just find more enjoyment in their lives - I confess: I still want to offer my help.

But how can we do that without giving advice? What most effectively enables this? What supports someone to discover their own internal resources and solutions?

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐀𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡

The answer is as simple as ‘a question’… Well - not just one. Lots of questions!

Only a very small amount - some say less than 1%- of what we experience is available to us consciously. Luckily, much, much more is available just beneath the surface of our conscious thinking.

More good news? is that the underlying structure of our answer is revealed in our communication. Therefore, by asking questions about what people say (and how their body moves) in their communication, they will discover this hidden treasure in themselves.

𝐔𝐧𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐏𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬

So, which questions are the right questions?
There are lots of questioning tools that can help us access the deeper structure of the unconscious mind, such as: NLP Meta Model Questions, Clean Questions, Motivational Interviewing, Precision Questions, and Motivation in a Moment.

Here are a few examples:
❓ How do you know that?
❓ What would happen if you did?
❓ What will that allow you?
❓ For what purpose?
❓ What does that mean to you?
❓ What do you believe about that?

But what I have found most effective is genuine curiosity.
Once you know that you cannot ever truly know the fullness of what another person is experiencing, you can be genuinely interested in how they come to say what they say and what it really means to them at a deep level.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐀𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬

When you get curious, questions will come to you, and as you ask them respectfully and with permission, they will more fully explore beneath the surface. As they do, they discover more truthfully the structure of their “problem” and the many possible solutions.

And at the same time, you gain a fuller understanding and appreciation of them as a person. This, in my experience, is a beautiful by-product of their self-discovery – one that makes my heart sing.

𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧

So, the question begs … Where will you use this powerful tool?
Whether you're a coach, a mentor, a parent, or just someone who wants to support others in their personal growth, asking the right questions is a powerful tool that can unlock potential and lead to self-discovery.

By setting aside our own need to provide answers and instead focusing on asking questions, we can support others in discovering their own internal resources and solutions.

The result? Greater personal growth, increased confidence, and a deeper understanding of ourselves and others.

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Happiness is not a goal, it's a by-product of a life well lived
- Eleanor Roosevelt