Parents Leading

😍 Mostly that person judging us is ourself! How does fear of judgement hold you back? What could you say to yourself instead?⁠
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🌱🌱How growth-oriented in your mindset? If you're feeling like things are never going to change, that your stuck in a rut, or just not feeling good enough, chances are you need a recipe for a growth mindset!!⁠
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💡 Try this and experience the difference ⁠
☕ 1 cup of leaning into challenges⁠
🥐 1 dollop of seeing failure as a learning experience⁠
🍇 1 sprig of curiosity.....ditch the judgement⁠
🍎. 1 sprinkle of focusing on the process over the outcome⁠
🍒. 1 spoonful of taking time to reflect and 'be'⁠
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🦋 Are you ready to spread your wings and fly? Check out my linkin.bio and lets have a chat ☕⁠
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Have you ever had a parenting situation where you felt out of control? Triggered?🤯 Yep...it's part of being human. Most of us feel we don't have any choice in these situations, that the problem actually lies somewhere outside of us. Here's the thing though...in the words of Victor Frankel (Man's search for meaning), "Between stimulus and response there is a space, and in that space lies choice." When we bring awareness to our thinking in these moments, we give ourselves choice on how we want to respond🌸. Our thinking directly informs our response, but in these trigger moments because we're reacting, what we're thinking is pretty much out of our conscious awareness. That's why I call it parenting on autopilot. Bring awareness to your thinking and you get to choose your response...that gives you the power to parent the way you desire 🤩 🙌 ⁠
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Do you give yourself permission to make mistakes? Chances are most of us feel bad about making mistakes, yet they are fantastic learning opportunities and we can't grow without them. Same goes for our kids. Try these 5 ways of helping your kids learn from mistakes⁠
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🌸. When you make a mistake, be accepting and open about it with your kids. Bring some lightness to the situation. Explain what happened, what you learnt from the experience and how you could do things differently next time.⁠
🌸. Give children (...and yourself :)) 'safe-to-fail' boundaries. These are guidelines that step them (and probably you) slightly outside of their comfort zone, with enough risk to stretch them so they can make a mistake and learn.⁠
🌸 Practice forgiveness and avoid the blame game when things go pear shaped! Remember there is a positive intention in every action - people are not their behaviour.⁠
🌸. Practice compassion...and avoid personalising the experience. Focus on what happened through an objective lens.⁠
🌸 Engage your child in the alternatives where you can. Ask questions like - what would you like to do differently next time. Why would that be important to you?⁠
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Are you struggling with the juggling? What needs to change for you? Some tips to consider:⁠
👉. Remember balance is not about time management, it's about how you're managing yourself ⁠
👉. Ask youself - what is truly important to me that I choose to invest myself in? Then with that answer ask youself....and what do I value about that?⁠
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Are you partial to people pleasing?⁠
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INSTEAD OF DOING THESE:⁠
🔥. Over-committing yourself⁠
🔥. Expecting others to meet your needs (because you are diligent in meeting theirs) - we call this giving to get in return 😟⁠
🔥. Seeking validation from others - we call this conditional self-esteem, because we look for others to value our worth⁠
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TRY THESE:⁠
💗. Reflect before saying yes. Ask yourself what is the positive intention of saying 'yes' here (e.g. is it to receive appreciation and feel acceptance, or because intrinsically it feels true for you to do so?)⁠
💗. Prioritise your needs....maybe first you might need to discover these if you've been neglecting them 🥰⁠
💗. Connect with your intrinsic human value - stop looking on the outside for it....it's not there!!!⁠
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🙏 🦋 Ahhh....Brene Brown.....love your words and wisdom!!💚⁠
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💗. Let us know in the comments section 💗⁠
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Holding onto what we're used to can give us a feeling of certainty, yet it can also stop us from spreading our wings and growing into our potential. Mostly what stops us is the fear of uncertainty when we actually let go. But if we can accept and acknowledge our fear, it can pass as we begin to experience the freedom and joy of moving towards what we desire.⁠
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🌟 What is your recipe for resilience? Follow this simple recipe and notice how small everyday changes can start making a positive impact on how you experience yourself and the world around you.⁠
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🍏. 1 cup of "I can" and "I could's"⁠
🍓. 1 dollop of growth mindset⁠
🍍. 1 sprig of accepting imperfection⁠
🌶️ 1 sprinkle of achievement reflections⁠
🥨. 1 spoonful of positive self-talk⁠
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💗 It's so easy to feel the pressure of trying to be the person we think people want us to be, and give into that on behalf of needing to be accepted 💗⁠
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...and yet what is happening is we aren't acknowledging and accepting ourselves for who we are.⁠
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💚 Is it time to stop trying to be someone you're not, and start realising your limitless potential to influence and make a difference to the world around you, by being you?💚⁠
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🦋 Offer: Stop 'trying' and instead 'be' - you'll feel the weight of the world lift off your shoulders!🦋⁠