23/04/2021
This happens, these scenarios can happen in small snippets of your day or week. I'm focusing on when they become habits and reoccurring habits. It is up to you to be self aware and find what triggers you and then recognizing behaviours you are inhibiting when reacting to a feeling or emotion that is surfacing.
Example; You are feeling underappreciated and juggling too much and your partner is not pulling his end of the bargain. Reality is your partner is not a mind reader so what we tend to do is react and explore behaviours to try and make it obvious we are unhappy. This could be snide comments or being belittling saying things like " You wont no what to do let me just do it , I do it all the time ". Its not okay and the issue is within you and not your partner. We need to be self aware and recognize that there is a lack of communication on your half.
We need to be able to find a medium where we can discuss and communicate things that arent serving us. Then we need to address that you need YOU time. Not having a shower or getting the groceries but time to focus on yourself and recharge and refocus. This will create you to live more in the present and be kinder to yourself and others.
Also, we are not perfect and there are going to be times when we do say things and act in ways that can be hurtful to our children and partner. We are human, this is a time after reflection to apoligise. Apologising to our children displays a strong message that adults can make mistakes too and just because we are an adult doesnt excuse negative behaviour.
I hope that you are kind to yourself this weekend. If you are feeling overwhelmed, annoyed, deflated find an activity that will bring you joy and try and create space for yourself.