05/08/2022
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When you allow a man to treat you like trash u end up losing your own normal weight. Because when you wounded emotionally you end up sick physically🥴. Qha ke nina aniva nifuna ukuhlala umntu ekubonisa Live uba awunaxabiso kuye. Kodwa uhlale. Emotional Abuse is too dangerous. I dont know how many times i found myself swerving on N3 because work wona demands elawo ixesha. Nalapha i was busy conducting a training for teachers. Had to pretend like konke kuGrand... You know xa uGowa because of a man always remember that you have other things to focus on that need your energy, it may be work, business, parenting. Take that energy of desperation for a man to love you back and invest it where it will be a seed and grow grow back. Qha aniva ke nina nitsho ngemilenze ye Ostrich nje ngamðŸ˜.
02/08/2022
We have to be adults about life - We can not expect everything to be comfortable.
Mem Ncube
31/07/2022
The past few days social media has been flooded about the news of a woman who was m*rdered by her boyfriend because she didnt want to be with him anymore and everyone is out in arms for the man of which I am too because I dont believe you can force someone to be with you anymore even after they have made it clear to you ukuthi no I dont want you around me. If I had had an opportunity to meet him I would have given him my peace of mind or is it piece? I condemn his actions with the strongest of might these actions deserves.
Anyway Im not here to talk much about him. I am here to talk about the woman and her family.
As this man narrated before he took his life....the woman had indeed told him she doesn't want to be with him anymore and there is nothing wrong with that...but she goes on to accept his gifts and money from him and then gets a PO against him after that...he goes to her parents with groceries and they accept those even after knowing that their daughter and ex fiancee are not in good books with each other. Same goes with sister with the airtime she got from him of which I understand this part because she was asked to talk to the sister on his behalf because she didnt want to talk to him hence the need for airtime - if they were not staying together.
Why did they accept his gifts? Why did she accept the car? Why would they take ANYTHING from him that he brings to them knowing that she doesn't want him anymore? WHY? And the fact that she even got a PO for him after accepting the car leaves a sour taste in my mouth. Its just off.
The acceptance of these things is what gave this man hope and reason to hold on and reason to keep following her around and believing that things will work out at some point or that she will forgive him. She was working she should have been content with that and that with enough financial discipline she could buy her own car at some point....it doesn't matter how long it would have taken her.
As people there is need to stop using each other. Stop the greed. Stop this need to live a life we can't afford. Stop leading people on when you know you're not fully interested in them or a future with them it is wrong and is the reason for such horrible things happening in our society(One of them). And I believe it could have been avoided had both of them took a step back and thought things through and then used their heads for decisions not their hearts.
As men you need to know and understand that your money doesnt always work in matters of the heart. As women we need to do away with this mentality of get rich quick or living flashy and expensive lives at the expense of men. There are people who dont know how to handle rejection and that poses a very dangerous situation for parties involved.
Was Tawanda wrong for his actions? YES very wrong I even believe this was premeditated m*rder because who goes to speak /beg to their girlfriend carrying a g*n?? And if he wanted to get her full attention why didn't he shoot in the air ke?
Was Samantha wrong as well? YES she was very wrong...you dont give people mixed signals worse someone whom you have noticed that he has a violent nature /abusive. Her acceptance of his gifts after she told him i dont want to be with you anymore was a catalyst for this mess
Was her family wrong? YES. Abantu asifundeni ukuthi nxa singela asila and samkele izimo zethu I know it not easy and its very painful ukuswela but that vulnerability puts us in possibilities of tragedies like this.
And Tawanda you're a coward for taking the easy way out!
Mem
13/07/2022
*RULES OF LIVING WITH PEOPLE*
1. When you meet young people - *INSPIRE THEM.*
2. When you meet children - *EDUCATE THEM.*
3. When you meet old people - *HELP THEM.*
4. When you meet wise people - *STUDY THEM.*
5. When you meet leaders - *HONOUR THEM.*
6. When you meet foolish people - *AVOID THEM.*
7. When you meet humble people - *TREASURE THEM.*
8. When you meet arrogant people - *IGNORE THEM.*
9. When you meet gracious people - *EMULATE THEM* .
10. When you meet aspirational people - *ELEVATE THEM.*
11. When you meet strong people - *SUPPORT THEM.*
12. When you meet godly people - *BLESS THEM.*
13. When you meet elderly people - *RESPECT THEM.*
14. When you meet weak people - *STRENGTHEN THEM.*
15. When you meet hardworking people - *ENCOURAGE THEM.*
16. When you meet kind people - *ESTEEM THEM.*
17. When you meet Honest people -
*PROMOTE THEM.*
18. When you meet virtuous people - *REWARD THEM.*
19. When you meet evil people - *EVADE THEM.*
20. And in all situation “ *Watch, Pray and wish everyone well.*
07/07/2022
IF ONE WOMAN IS NOT ENOUGH ?
If one woman is not enough for you, one hundred women will not be enough for you. Solomon had 300 wives and 700 concubines yet he wanted Queen Sheba. The problem is not your woman. The problem is you. You can look for a thousand and one reasons to justify your philandering ways, but the truth is that you're sick and you need help.
The primary essence of a relationship is not s*x. It is companionship. Being with a person who completes you; with whom you can be vulnerable, open about your feelings, share your dreams, aspirations and pains, get encouragement and support...that's a proper relationship and the essence of being marriage.
It is an error for s*x to be the primary attraction. There are 24 hours in a day. Let's say you spend 3 hours having s*x – based on say you no get work – which is highly unlikely – what will you spend the remaining 21 hours doing?
Dating or being married to a person who you can't talk with and play with is one of the most foolish mistakes you can make in your short time on earth.
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22/06/2022