24/12/2025
âThere is no way, a man who is not married, or does not believe to be married, can file for divorce in a Court. Divorce from what? One files for divorce when they are married and want to be divorced from someoneâ â The Supreme Court tells man who sought to deny having been married to a woman with whom he had stayed with for over 7 years, had two children with her and had paid k1,000 towards elopement and dowry. (Malema v Nyondo Appeal No. 64 of 2014, Supreme Court of Zambia, Judgment delivered 28 March 2017)
In the year 2000, the Appellant âmanâ and the Respondent âWomanâ eloped (left home secretly in order to get married) which led to them cohabiting. In December 2002, the Respondentâs family convened a meeting at which the Appellant was charged ZMW 1,100 for elopement and ZMW 400 for dowry, totaling ZMW 1,500. A further meeting was held in 2003, during which the Appellantâs family paid ZMW 1,000 towards the agreed amounts leaving a balance of ZMW 500.
After paying the said deposit, the Appellant and Respondent continued to live together as husband and wife for over seven years during which period they had two children, one born in 2003 and the other in 2009. The Parties even obtained a marriage certificate from the local Court.
In 2011, the Appellant commenced divorce proceedings in the Local Court. Divorce was refused, and the parties were advised to reconcile. Thereafter, relying on the Supreme Court decision in Fenias Mafemba v Esther Sitali where the court had held that there is no valid customary marriage if dowry has not been paid, the Appellant withdrew his divorce case and instead instituted proceedings in the High Court seeking a declaration that the relationship between him and the Respondent was mere cohabitation and not a customary marriage on the basis that he had not paid the dowry price. The High Court dismissed the claim, prompting the appeal to the Supreme Court.
Before the Supreme Court, the Appellant contended that no valid customary marriage existed because no dowry or marriage consideration had been paid. He argued that the ZMW 1,000 paid was solely for elopement (damages for running away with the lady to secretly get married) and not marriage dowry. He argued that under customary law, marriage only comes into existence upon payment of dowry relying on the holding in Fenias Mafemba v Esther Sitali among others.
Although there was no opposition filed against the appeal, the Supreme Court found that the Appellantâs conduct was fundamentally inconsistent with his claim that no marriage existed. The Court held that a person who does not consider himself married cannot logically seek a divorce, stating that divorce presupposes the existence of a marriage. The Appellantâs initiation of divorce proceedings was therefore strong evidence that he regarded the union as a marriage.
The Court further examined the documentary evidence and concluded that the payment of ZMW 1,000 could not reasonably be construed as elopement only given that at the time the sum was paid, there was no mention of whether the sum was for elopement or dowry. The Court took the position that the deposit was made towards both dowry and elopement because if the Appellant had intended to pay for elopement only, he should have specified when paying.
The Supreme Court upheld the High Courtâs decision and dismissed the appeal in its entirety. It held that a valid customary marriage existed between the parties and that the Appellant was still the husband to the Respondent.