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28/04/2020

We choose to quit jobs, get married, adopt an animal, but of course there are many life events we don’t choose—a divorce, economic difficulties, loss of a job, or the death of a loved one . Yet we can still choose how we deal with and react to these occurrences in our lives.

During tough times, our emotions run the gamut: denial, anger, fury, despair, numbness, isolation, desperation. In order to heal, we must feel. But we have a say in what we do with our feelings.

There are no right or wrong reactions, only what serves us and what doesn’t.

It may help you to be angry and express your rage; it may help to be alone for some time. What is crucial when moving through a crisis is maintaining self-awareness.

Check in with yourself daily, perhaps through meditation or journaling, and ask yourself: Where am I today? Is this helping me? What might be the next phase of this transition?

While we have to relinquish control over the circumstances, we can still maintain our connection to ourselves. We can work with this knowledge, to paraphrase Victor Frankl, to face the challenge of changing ourselves.

“Change” has become a dirty word in today’s world; advertisers avoid it because consumers associate the word with challenge and difficulty.

But whether we like it doesn’t really matter—life-altering events will change us, in one way or another. Instead of tuning out to avoid the pain, dealing with and even embracing tragedy and its consequences gives us an active role in guiding our own change and growth.

Transformation is all around us. Transitions are the birthing pains, alternately exhilarating and difficult, that can bring wondrous, challenging, beautiful changes into our lives