05/07/2022
"In her book, Good Habits Bad Habits, Wendy Wood argues than humans have much less self-control than they think. Motivational gurus make it sound like everything is a matter of conscious willpower, but the truth is that most decisions are made out of unconscious habit, and most habits are formed simply from being put in a certain environment.
That doesn’t mean we don’t have choice. It means that environment is queen: who and what we choose to surround ourselves with will ultimately determine our lives.
Call it the Whole-Plate Principle: You are more likely to finish the contents of your plate, regardless of serving size, than you are to choose to stop eating halfway. So if you’re trying to cut calories, it makes sense to give yourself a smaller portion, rather than depend on pushing your plate away while there’s still food on it.
I know a South African bodybuilder who asks servers at restaurants to box up half his meal before it ever reaches his table. That way, he never has a chance to get used to unhealthy American portions.
This principle works for developing positive habits too. If you’re trying to finish a book you’re writing, just open up the document every day and read what you’ve written. Eventually, your mind will get involved and find the ending. If you’re stuck writing a song, just keep playing what you have over and over. Eventually, your ear will hear what’s missing. If you want to be more like the people you admire, make sure to spend quality time with them.
In other words: just make contact. Don’t try to “figure it out” — that usually means thinking instead of doing. Just put yourself in the right environments. Set up your bedroom so you can reach for what’s most important to you as soon as you wake. Set up the hours of your days that way too.
You don’t have to keep struggling on your own. Let your environment support you. As the Zen master Dogen said: “If you walk in the rain, you’re going to get wet.”
“Whatever you think is keeping you from doing your life's work is your life's work. Every distraction, anxiety, or doubt that keeps you from learning some deeper lesson is itself the deeper lesson.”