25/08/2026
Small changes can make a BIG difference
Let's start communicating better
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π COMMUNICATION CHEAT SHEET: Small changes can make a BIG difference π¬
When a child is struggling to listen, follow instructions or regulate big emotions, our first instinct can sometimes be to repeat ourselves, add more instructions or correct the behaviour immediately.
But how we communicate can make all the difference. π§ π
Try these simple shifts:
π Before you speak, STOP.
Ask yourself: Do I have their attention? Am I calm? Is my instruction clear? Am I asking too much at once?
π Get their attention first.
Say their name, move closer, make eye contact where appropriate, and wait until you know they are listening before giving the instruction.
π Keep instructions simple.
Instead of: βGo upstairs, brush your teeth, put your pyjamas on and get your school bag ready.β
Try: βPlease go and brush your teeth.β One step at a time.
π Tell them what TO do, not only what NOT to do.
Instead of βStop running!β try βPlease walk next to me.β Clear expectations are easier to follow.
β€οΈ Validate the feeling while holding the boundary.
βI can see youβre angry. Itβs okay to feel angry, but itβs not okay to hit. Letβs find another way.β
π¬ Use βIβ messages instead of blame.
βI feel frustrated when toys are left on the floor because someone could trip over them. I need you to put them away.β
βοΈ Offer limited choices.
βWould you like to brush your teeth before or after putting on your pyjamas?β Two acceptable options can give a child a sense of control without removing the boundary.
π€ And after conflict, reconnect.
Arguments happen. Repair matters. Connection before correction.
And this is exactly what Sea of Yellow is about: creating greater understanding of ADHD so that children are met with support, inclusion and strategies that help them thrive. ππ
On 11 September, join us:
π Wear yellow
π Donate R10 (https://payf.st/e0dy6 or link in bio)
πΈ Share your yellow and tag
π Help us paint South Africa yellow for children with ADHD.
One day. One colour. One powerful statement. π