28/05/2023
It all begins with showing up, with being present. This past weekend, there was no other choice for me but to show up. How could I not, when my friend had endured unimaginable hardships in recent months?
I wasn't fully prepared – life happens and I have just had a bit too much on my plate.
Yet, despite my lack of readiness, I made it to the starting line and eventually, the finish line. The latter was an arduous 42km of near-hell on my bike, but it paled in comparison to what my friend had gone through. This challenging and humbling experience made me realize, even more deeply, the importance of surrounding yourself with good people - those who have your back. They may laugh at you when you're reduced to tears, not because they're mocking you, but because they genuinely don't know how else to help. When your body gives up at the 20km mark, and you still have another 23km to go, reaching the end feels like an impossible task. Yesterday, this happened to me. I suffered the worst cramp of my life, turning my legs into unyielding rocks from quads to glutes. I couldn't bend, couldn't move. To lower myself to the ground, I had to assume a downward dog position, ensuring a gentler fall when I inevitably toppled over. I cried like a baby, and my friend, unsure of what to do, ended up laughing. I was given the option to turn back and seek help at the last water point, but I refused.
There was another choice a little further on: take the easier route or tackle the mountain we came to ride. Again, I CHOSE to do what I set out to do. My body may have been failing me, but my mind remained resolute.
I didn't care if I had to walk with legs that wouldn't bend. I had set out to accomplish something, and I was determined to finish. What I endured in those four hours was nothing compared to what my riding partner had faced in the past few months - battling cancer, coping with family losses, and caring for parents suffering from Alzheimer's. It would have been easy to give up, but how could I, when my pain was temporary and not life-altering?
So I limped across the finish line, silently declaring, "You have been through hell and back, but I support you."
This experience reinforced the idea that the mind is one of our most powerful assets. We must care for it, nurture it, and never take it for granted. Give your mind the attention and stimulation it needs to stay strong and to serve you well during those moments when you feel you can't go on.
When everything else fails, including your body, remember that with a strong mind, you can overcome almost anything.
This weekend solidified my belief that your mind is one of the most formidable tools you possess.
And learn to be KIND, you have no idea what the person next to you is going through.
And here's the finger to cancer, Alzheimer's, and all the hardships we encounter.
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