Coach Zaid Ismail

07/09/2026

Arrogance is born when humility is actively pursued.

In our efforts to avoid arrogance, we become arrogant, because it is the belief that we must avoid it that is born from the belief that we have something of goodness for which we may grow arrogant.

Connecting with the value of what we are capable of is infinitely more important than contemplating our standing compared to others, or trying to be humble from fear of arrogance.

When we connect with the value that we're capable of creating, we'll find joy in creating it regardless of any acknowledgement or recognition that we receive for doing it.

In other words, when we do something because we love the beauty, the peace, the ease, or the joy that it creates, we won't measure the effectiveness of our efforts based on what others think.

Instead, what others think will become a means to determine if we achieved our goal, and not a reason to decide if it's worth doing it again or not.

Humility and arrogance, happiness and sadness, fulfilment and despondency, are all outcomes of what we appreciate about who we are and what we're capable of.

The moment we set out to achieve or avoid any of them, we court the worst of them.

Connect with gratitude that is grounded in substance and conviction, and happiness, humility, and all those other virtuous attributes of life will take care of themselves.

Anything less is a distraction from the beauty of who you are.

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Judgement is not always harsh. But, judgement is always focused on an external standard that we think others respect.

External standards give us comfort because we don't run the risk of making a bad decision by ourselves. If things don't go well, we can always say that everyone thought that it was the right thing to do.

More than this, when we live up to a standard that we know others respect, we automatically feel respected. That way, we don't have to go through the difficulty of earning respect by ourselves.

This mind set conditions us to judge right or wrong, good or bad, better or worse, rather than to seek understanding of why we, or others, may fall short.

This, more than anything else, undermines the quality of the relationships that we have with others, and especially with ourselves.

And remember, seeking to understand bad behaviour doesn't mean we condone it. It just means that we have a better chance of addressing the reason for it, rather than responding to its symptoms.

Most people go through life reacting to symptoms while yearning for fulfilment.

Fulfilment is found in living purposefully, with conviction, based on hope of what is possible rather than the fear of what must be avoided.

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