Blue Kites

I strive to understand my clients with great depth and scope and to converse with them in a way that

Loss (or grief) in its essence is experienced as a result of changes in familiar things. Breakups of a close relationship, losing your job or your business or even death of someone significant are some example of a significant loss. Often these losses, if not completed, are causing us to repeat destructive or unhelpful patterns and develop 'emotional baggage' build-up that has negative consequence

27/08/2021

Absolutely true…

14/04/2021

"So often we're seduced into believing that events control our lives and that our environment has shaped who we are today. No greater lie was ever told. It's not the events of our life that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean." - Anthony Robbins

31/07/2020

It's ok not to be ok (all the time)

Seemingly such a simple truth. So obvious. Yet for many of us so completely unacceptable.
Because being ok, feeling ok, doing ok - is great! Isn’t it??
So even when our circumstances and reality call for a completely different (and often opposing) ‘way of being’, we find ourselves putting all our energy into returning to the ‘right lane’ - of being ok.
I am talking to people who have lost a loved one and could not even say goodbye to them, others who lost their jobs or the freedom to see family and friends. People that are all alone day and night, others who cannot find quiet space to breathe, and are missing the hours spent in traffic, where they could just be with their thoughts and away from nagging children and demanding partners.
I am talking to people terrified of losing their jobs, working tirelessly day and night to show their employer how vital they are, neglecting their families and themselves, risking total burnout. I am talking to elderly parents, who are feeling trapped, unable to see their children and grandchildren, terrified of the possibility of dying all alone in a sterile hospital bed, or maybe not even able to get to that hospital... Children and teenagers forced to stay indoors, missing out on everything that counts, not able to socialize or interact with their friends.

WE ARE NOT OK!!

Maybe we should just give ourselves a moment to acknowledge that. To sit with this for a second. A moment to feel the pain, the sorrow, the fear, and the loss. Will it be ok, for just one moment to shed a tear or two? To sob? To feel sorry for myself?

Will I break down? (what does that even mean??)
Will I go to such a dark place and not be able to come back?
Will I cry so much – I will not be able to stop?
Will I?
No, no, and no.
I am human, these are all human emotions. The same as joy, love, and happiness - those also do not last forever. They come and go like the waves of the ocean. Sometimes powerful and can knock you down and other times gentle, but like the waves they recede and disappear and another one comes in its place.
I allow myself to take a moment (or more). To NOT be ok.

And when I do that, I do not feel guilty or ashamed. I feel ok. To not be ok.

22/03/2020

Let’s breath together

So many great questions and comments about our first Unlocking Us podcast episode on FFTs (effing first times) and how hard it is to be new at everything - from small things to pandemics.

I especially appreciate all of the comments from teachers getting ready to take their classes online for the first time and parents navigating all of the uncertainty. �

I’m sharing my thoughts in an article on the website: Collective Vulnerability, the FFTs of Online Learning, and the Sacredness of Bored Kids.

https://brenebrown.com/blog/2020/03/21/collective-vulnerability/

Open hearts. Clean hands. Spread calm.

21/03/2020

12/03/2020

“Completing the Grief Coaching course with Astro, is like finally being able to close the door and settle the soul. It feels like I can move on with my life with respect for my past but with joy and excitement for what is still to come. The weight on the holding ropes of my heart has been lifted and there is a peace finally, about the process of loss.”
Thank you so much Astro - PM

26/02/2020

I strive to understand my clients with great depth and scope and to converse with them in a way that opens up insights and possibilities, both in the present and in the future.

Astro Zack-Dishon
(Recovery Life Coach & Facilitator, Blue Kites)

27/06/2019

"Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true? Does it improve on the silence?" -Shirdi Sai Baba

So true... so hard to practice...

22/04/2019

My website had a facelift!

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31/05/2017

Learning to cope is never about ‘getting over it’ but expanding your abilities and arriving at a place in which you feel able to function well again, looking into the future with hope and a sense of excitement and challenge.

http://www.bluekites.co.za/index.php/grief-recovery-coaching

Grief Recovery Coaching Loss takes many forms. The death of someone we love, Loss of health, losing a relationship, moving away from our home and even the loss of our dreams for the future.