In My Feelings

Good morning Everyone, we are officially coming to the end of our mental wellness party season for the year.

We are ending off with a very spicy topic 🥵 - Umjolo vibes !!

How are relationships treating you?

Are you dating ? And if so how has your dating journey been so far?

Are you in a serious relationship? How are you nurturing and growing your relationship?

Are you married? How does dating your spouse in marriage look like? How do you keep your relationship mentally healthy?

Are you divorced? How is single life again? Are you ready to build again and what changes will you be making to your approach this time?

These are some of the questions we will cover and more in our Umjolo Vibes Mental Wellness Party!!

And we have an after party of fun and music to cool off after some much needed venting and therapeutic conversations.

Join us for a unique mental wellness journey!!

The In My Feelings Game is extending its mental wellness program to preschools!!
Children age 4-5 years old already can vocalise their feelings. This a good time to start laying down the foundation for mental wellness practice.

We use play learning and structured fun activities to help children learn to use coping tools for their mental and emotional struggles. We help children understand how to build healthy relationships too

The Kindness Star is one of our preschool activities. We use the kindness star to encourage children to do daily kind acts for others and themselves. We call the good energy transfer "magic''. The children give off good energy when they do kinda acts for others and they are rewarded with gratitude and joy. It's a circulation of good energy. The star is a physical reminder to practice kind acts daily.

Kindness is recognizing that a positive act done with the intention of making someone feel good, can light up the darkest days.

The In My Feelings Kindness Stars activities teach children about being intentional when it comes to kindness.Acts of kindness are rewarding to both the giver and receiver.
It is a good energy transfer activity. We give with open hearts and are rewarded by others feelings of gratitude and joy. Only good energy is circulated between the giver and receiver.

Children need a lot of patience and people who won't right them off immediately.

Starting my mental wellness games at preschool level has taught me a couple of lessons about younger children.

The lesson that stood out for me today was not giving up on children who display antisocial behaviour.

There are many reasons why children withdraw from a a group or activity. They tend to use defensive language when confronted by adults.

The best solution I found is to give them space and after a few minutes get down to their level to ask what is wrong. Take the time to listen to what they have to say and not try to convince them to join others. The decision must be theirs.

When we listen to children and validate their feelings, there is a shift for them emotionally. They allow themselves to trust you and are more willing to engage in the group activity.

Children's feelings matter. Show them you care by taking the time to chat to them instead of writing them off.

Rock bottom...

We are all afraid to find ourselves in this place.

Many of us don't even know how we would survive rock bottom.

Here is the thing..

Once you reach rock bottom, the fall stops. You can't fall any further. All you have to do now is sit in those uncomfortable feelings and pain while looking at what is left of the life you had.

It's a painful experience for anyone.

I see rock bottom as a reset button. The opportunity to rewrite your story and become the person you wanted.

This can only happen when you are sitting in the ashes of your life and a whisper from your soul says "this is not how my story ends''.

You will begin the climb up once you shed your past self, traumas and mistakes. You will be climbing with purpose and towards the person you want to be.

Some of us are scared to take this journey and choose to stay in the middle. A place that's not fully living but us controlling our emotions through suppression. We stand on this emotional tight rope and do a balancing act for the world. When that rope starts shaking, we go to our coping mechanisms to numb the edge of our overwhelming feelings. Our coping mechanisms are usually extreme and effective for a short while. We want to look "fine'' for the world staring back at us.

Falling is much better than swinging like a pendulum whenever we are triggered emotionally.

Rock bottom allows us to face all our traumas and choosing healing in order to survive.

Choose to fall and if you are afraid to do it alone, find a support system to help you up from rock bottom towards you greatness.

We all have rock bottom stories to tell. Let us share our stories for others to know that rock bottom is not the end but the beginning of having the courage to chase the life you want.

Most of us are so concerned with receiving external validation from others that we forget the message our actions are saying to the world.
Are we people that appear confident in themselves and can make decisions without needing other people's approves?Do we love ourselves enough to not violate our boundaries to please others? Do we like ourselves? Do we spend more time shaming our bodies and wishing we were someone else?
All these things you think about yourself send a message to the world and the world responses to that message.

What message are you sending out to the world about yourself?

Someone once asked me why forgiveness was so hard.
Forgiveness is a journey that requires us to feel the vulnerable emotions that we have suppressed to heal and forgive others.

When we experience great pain, our subconscious protects us by suppressing those intense emotions to help us survive.

We use anger as a defense mechanism to cope with such pain on a daily basis. In the long run this defense mechanism becomes unhealthy and prevents us from healing and moving on.

Forgiveness is a process. It's more than saying the words " I forgive you''. It's about giving up the pain and making peace with the hurt someone caused you without seeking revenge.