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If You spend hours on your phone every day… scrolling, watching, liking this post is for you.

But if I ask you right now what skill have you gained from all that time?

Nothing.

And that’s the problem.

The same phone you use for entertainment is the same phone others are using to learn AI, build skills, and get ahead.

Every day you stay comfortable, someone else your age is becoming smarter, sharper, and more valuable.

So the question is…

Are you just passing time, or are you preparing for your future?

Join the bootcamp. It’s time to use your phone the right way.

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I remember when I was learning how to drive 8 years ago.

I learnt it using a bus owned my one of my brother in christ.

I have always love to learn new things and I don't mind if I do mistakes countless times learning.

When I was learning how to drive, I never allowed my dad's car(bus) to rest because I want to practice what my teacher taught me.

My dad will always fight me to come down and not drive because I may end of bashing cars lol.

Since then I have droven again but I'm giving it a try now.

I have set my mind on it and I'm achieving it.

Oh! I don't want to tell you how I drove a bic in my maternal village that gave me an everlasting scar.

That is a story for another day.

POV: Just learn, keep learning you can't go wrong.

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I was once accused...

I have this mark on my left cheek, I noticed it after I had my twins.

It was big, I was disturbed because I'm not used to normalizing something new on my skin or body.

I try to find a means to dissolve it.

I tried everything possible even applying honey for it not to spread all to no avail.

People said it was vitiligo aahh I rejected it.

I saw scared at some post asking myself if this is how my face will be.

I took Pic then but can't find it.

Now, I'm loving it because it saved me one time.

I went to a shop to buy, I didn't owe this guy.

I came back the second time to pick up something thus guy said I'm owing him so so amount of money, I shock oh because i don't like to owe.

It became an argument, he said it was me that he's very sure. I refused to pay.

After, two days I came to buy again behold the lady standing by the shop as well. The shop owner was busy steering at us. The lady said, take your money I'm owing you this amount.

Hmmm I had to relax well to really understand, the shop owner looked at both of us, he saw the mark on my cheek and then confirmed it wasn't me.

The othe lady was sorry and same time laughing at this guy.

The guy was apologizing to me, I accepted but I told him that he humiliated me and I would have got him arrested.

I went back home and was thinking God for that same marl lol.

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Anytime, I request for a ride(bolt, Uber or Indrive) I check the prices, the time and then the drivers.

One thing with indrive is they Fare affordable, when I offer my price(an affordable one) it takes them forever to accept my request.

They did this to me countless time this month of March, I was surprised they accepted my offer yesterday to and fro to pick up something at Woolworth.

Let's talk about bolt, The oga kpatakpata of them all, good with high prices. They claim to give discounts during the month but once it's month end they will add up all the discounts given to you before and you must pay it.

One thing I love about them is, they don't take time to accept request.

Uber, ahh that one is a no go area for me. You can wait 5 to 10 minutes waiting for the driver driving towards you to puck you, all of a sudden he will cancel then another driver picks up and that's you waiting for another 5 minutes plus to ride.

This morning, stopping out for my business, I ordered a ride this driver accept and stopped in front of my gate. We drove off.

One thing I always do once I enter the car is exchange pleasantries( to actually know his nationality)then check the driver's mood to know if I will engage him in a conversation.

Back to my story, We exchanged pleasantries immediately I captured his accent, he was my igbo brother I kept quiet.

He then asked me, are you from Congo? I said know, I'm Nigerian. We switched from English to Igbo. We asked about what I'm selling I told him.

Getting to our destination, he patronized me in a big way.

Ahhh I was so surprised.

I appreciated him and left.

Share with me what you captured in this whole scenario.

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BUYING SOMETHING FOR MYSELF IS A WASTE OF MONEY

This is my reality, I have been living with this fear all my life as a Teen till date.

I overcame this fear last year, it made me add more value to myself that I deserve more and something good.

I will see nice dress, shoes, wigs and jewelry and pass after admiration not because I don't have the money but the fear of spending it.

This is me telling you that I'm an overcomer.

I overcame my fear.

Today, I can boldly treat myself like a baby girl that I am.

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Let me be honest with you…

There was a time I thought talking more would fix everything with teens.
So I showed up with advice.
I corrected.
I “guided.”
I had the answers.

But you know what I kept getting back?
Silence.
Eye rolls.
Distance.

I remember one moment clearly…
A teen I was trying to help just looked at me and said,
"You don’t get it."
That hit me.
Because in that moment, I realized something painful…

I wasn’t actually listening.
I was trying to fix, not understand.
And that was my mistake.
I had to unlearn the idea that being helpful means always having something to say.

Sometimes…

The real connection starts when you pause, sit back, and truly hear them.
No interruptions.
No quick advice.
No judgment.
Just presence.

That experience changed how I coach, how I speak, and how I show up.

Now I know:

Teens don’t open up because you’re “right.”
They open up because they feel safe.
And safety starts with being heard.
If you’re struggling to connect with a teen right now…

Try this today:

Don’t rush to respond.
Just listen a little longer than usual.

You might be surprised what they finally feel safe enough to say.

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I wasn’t a “difficult teen”…

I was a misunderstood one.

Let me take you back.

There was a version of me who got labeled “stubborn.”

The one who stayed quiet when adults were talking.

The one who got eye rolls for “attitude.”

But what nobody saw?

I was thinking.
Deeply.

Questioning everything.

Trying to make sense of who I was… without the space to express it.

I remember one day so clearly.

I tried to explain how I felt about something that mattered to me.

Before I even finished, I was shut down:
“Stop talking back.”

That day, something shifted.

I didn’t become rude.
I became silent.

And here’s what most people don’t understand:
Silence in a teen is not always respect.
Sometimes… it’s resignation.

I learned to nod.
To agree.
To keep my real thoughts to myself.
And on the outside, I looked like the “good girl.”

But inside?

I felt unseen.

So here’s my truth:
Many teens are not rebelling against authority…

They’re reacting to disconnection.
If you don’t feel safe to express yourself,
you either explode…

or you disappear.
I chose to disappear.

And that’s why I’m so passionate now.
Because I know what it feels like
to be present… but not heard.

So no, I don’t rush to label teens anymore.

I listen.

Because sometimes,
the “attitude” you’re trying to correct
is actually a voice trying to survive.

If this hit home, drop a ❤️ or share your story.

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“You’re still young, you have time.”

Let me say it the way nobody says it

Time is not your advantage if you keep wasting it.
Yes, you’re young.

The way you:

Procrastinate
Avoid responsibility
Quit when things get hard

That doesn’t magically disappear at 25.

It grows with you.

Some of you think life will “start later.”

No.

Your life is already happening.

You’re just not taking it seriously yet.

And the scary part?

One day, you’ll wake up and realize Qqq # # ̌dqqq you used it casually.

That regret hits different.

Start now. Small but serious.

What’s one thing you know you should take seriously but you’ve been playing with?

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Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Ubah Ifeoma Linda - Ejike, Mambi Treasure