Louise-De-Beer

Our beliefs not only mold the way we see ourselves, but the way others see us. Brilliant read by amazing Medium who I went to after my husband passed away and again after my mother passed away.

https://odysseymagazine.co.za/the-power-of-belief/?fbclid=IwAR3PyoGHpwb33Q9nT2_goySJ3czcYov2e14fAkJBag4S5rPqu4F19dYNlyE

The Power of Belief - Odyssey Magazine Oh there they are – we all have them, we all act according to them, they differ greatly at times, they are extremely powerful, they can divide, they can heal, they can lift up, they can destroy, they can bring sorrow, they can bring joy. We hold them, we feed them, we defend them, we accommodate t...

Self care is the most important part of life. You have to look after yourself before anyone or anything else. As the saying goes "You can't pour from an empty cup"

Rest is not just sitting down not doing anything or sleeping.

This TED article explains different types of rest and why we need them - https://ideas.ted.com/the-7-types-of-rest-that-every-person-needs/?utm_campaign=social&utm_source=linkedin.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=2023-6-09-quotecard&utm_source=facebook.com

Many of us were brought up to believe that asking for, or needing help is a sign of weakness.
It's not!
Some of us have spent so much time in survival mode that we don't know how to switch it off and ask for help.
Time to retrain our way of thinking!

Burnout is real and can be debilitating. Look out for the signs.
https://www.facebook.com/100064467174917/posts/633658915459675/?mibextid=Nif5oz

We all need to take time to rest and do some self care.
Not everyone in your life may agree, but that's ok!

At some time we have all had to or will have to deal with a narcissist. Here are a couple of points to help you along the way:
1. Recognise & acknowledge that the person is a narcissist.
2. Recognise the techniques they use to try and manipulate you.
3. Set your boundaries, make them known and stick to them.
4. Let them know when a boundary has been crossed.
5. If it gets too much, walk away.
6. Don't be afraid to have open conversations with this person in front of others.
7. Remember that you are in charge of your emotions & reactions. However you show them, is up to you, there is no wrong or right way.
8. Know that they will never take the blame for anything, stick to your beliefs, values & boundaries despite what they may say.

The first picture really hit home with me. As mothers we really don't need to be perfect, the anxiety that comes with striving to be perfect can rub off on your kids and end up having a negative effect, rather than the one you are trying to create.
Give yourself a little slack, slow down and be happy rather than perfect!

This post is as much for me as it is for everyone else.
Sometimes you just need to take a step back and look at things from the sidelines, re-evaluate and step forward.

I can't stress this often enough, set your boundaries and stick to them!

Grief is a funny thing & different for everyone. You are told there are 5 stages - denial, anger, bargaining, depression & acceptance, but aren't told that they don't happen in any particular order, or that you may go back to some of them every now & then, or that some last longer than others.
Today would have been my 31st wedding anniversary, my husband passed away 4 years ago.
Denial didn't last long.
Anger lasted a long time & still rears its ugly head sometimes. Bargaining wasn't really a thing (what will be will be). Depression, don't know that I'd call it depression as such, but I needed some help in the form of medication. Acceptance goes in fits & starts, I'll be fine, life is good, I'm having fun, then our anniversary, his birthday or the day we started dating comes around and I realise that maybe I haven't really accepted it.
Life is for the living & to be enjoyed, but it's ok to have a day or 2 where you are a little off your game!

Burnout is a real thing! While this link is aimed at those in the hospitality industry, it applies to all industries.
https://www.facebook.com/660553731073608/posts/1677315816064056/?mibextid=Nif5oz

Burnout isn’t something which goes away on its own.

Rather, it can worsen unless you address the underlying issues causing it.

The stress and demands of the bustling workplace setting can prove too much for hospitality professionals when they don’t have enough support and time off.

𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁:
•Feeling tired or drained most of the time
•Feeling helpless, trapped and/or defeated
•Feeling detached/alone in the world
•Having a cynical/negative outlook
•Self-doubt
•Procrastinating and taking longer to get things done
•Feeling overwhelmed

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝗿𝗲𝗱𝘂𝗰𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗺:
•Offer targeted employee training
•Offer two successive days off
•Company policies around mental health, including access to support and counselling
•Show them that you appreciate them
•Check in with them frequently

We do recover 💪🖤

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