Teacher Nina Hampton

Teacher Nina Hampton 💛Teacher (B.Ed) 💛PANDAGROUPS- “Playful Music Classes” 💛Heart Matters EQ Classes 💛E-Guides

Love this idea - definitely a goal to stop rushing from one thing to another and creating moments of calm. ☺️
13/01/2024

Love this idea - definitely a goal to stop rushing from one thing to another and creating moments of calm. ☺️

A little winter week day ritual that has evolved in my home is a hot cocoa ☕️ gathering around the table after school .

Sometimes not much is said , sometimes they speak absolute nonsense and sometimes they tell me something important about their day .

It’s not about the what’s said …
🌀it’s about the safety created in predictable routines and presence in what is otherwise a very chaotic modern world
🌀It’s about marking transitions by sitting in them a little longer. Rather rush from school to the next thing : be it homework , sport or whatever , we create a space to sit in the inbetween , which expands our capacity to rest and just be.

I will measure my success in mothering in …
💗how quickly my children’s nervous systems can reset after a period of activation ⚡️ ,
💗how quickly they can find their calm after emotional arousal
💗how comfortably they can sit in non-activity .

Because this will tell me that my home 🏡 and my presence has created a foundation of safety for them.

First and foremost my work is to find ways to do this for myself because it was never taught to me and I was not raised in a home or by a generation that understood this. So my nervous system programming is one of hyperarousal. Even so , we don’t need to stay victims to our trauma and stories because the nervous system learns and adapts to new patterns fast 😉 with conscious choices and tools.

11/01/2024

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐄𝐃𝐔𝐂𝐀𝐓𝐎𝐑

As you prepare to begin another school year, just a few reminders: 🤓 📚

1. You’re teaching a WHOLE child. Understanding what’s happening in their brain is SUPER important. 🧠

Although the human brain is incredibly complex and beautifully designed, there are a few simple essentials that really matter in the context of your classroom:

Despite much education solely targeting the ‘top’ section, the brain works bottom up.

Can’t change that.

It’s for very important reasons that it works in that order so there’s VERY IMPORTANT INFORMATION coming up right here: 👇🏽

Bottom- Brainstem-Survival brain
Mid- Limbic System-Emotional brain
Top- Frontal Cortex- Thinking brain

Reframing that another way (which I think is pretty awesome), here’s the ladder: 🪜

Safety (Survival)
Love (Emotional)
Learning (Thinking)

This means: (Pay attention here- it’s always a WOW for me) 😱

Until a child feels SAFE (I’m not talking security guard at a door - I mean emotionally), they cannot feel LOVED.

And until they feel safe AND loved, they cannot learn…

Hmmm… Lots to think about… 🤔
but in a nutshell, you will NEVER get the best out of your children academically or on the sports field until you prioritize building a connected RELATIONSHIP with them. 🫶🏽

So instead of charging into this year and slamming curriculum from day one, 📖 take time to get to REALLY know the kids in your class.

YES THERE IS TIME. (You’ll get through your curriculum faster if a relationship is in place!) ⏰

Children work their butts off for educators, not subjects. 🫶🏽

They play their hearts out on the sports field for coaches, not the sport itself. ⚽️ 🏈

Focus on what matters and you’ll see results you never expected.

2. Although it’s important for you to love the subjects you teach, what’s so much more important is for you to love the children you teach.

Children thrive in classrooms where they feel truly seen, heard and loved by their teachers. 🤍

3. If you don’t love anything about a child (I know some children may initially seem impossible to love), you don’t know them well enough. 😬

Spend five minutes a day trying to get to know them- not the information on their academic records- THEM.

The actual human beings they are. What sparks their souls, 🔥 what ignites the light in their eyes, who they really ARE and what’s going on in their lives that you can’t see.

The ‘unlovables’ are really just children carrying heavy invisible backpacks, loaded with burdens you know nothing about. 🎒

4. How you talk matters. 🗣️

Not just your words.
Your body language and facial expressions too.

You can’t expect respect unless you’re willing to give it. Yip. Truth.

Children are not there to be controlled.
They’re there to learn.

Learning, growing and succeeding happens best in the context of that healthy relationship in which they feel respected and safe. 🙌🏽

No one does better or behaves better by being made to feel worse. 🤨

Sarcasm, belittling, public shaming, criticism. These just break children down.

They’re also usually only dished out by adults who feel broken themselves.

Important reminder: We rise by lifting others.

That child in your class who you dislike, needs lifting. We lift by showing interest and showing care.

You’ll see amazing things when you focus on that. 🫶🏽

5. When a child hasn’t done their homework, isn’t listening, is disruptive, distracted or in anyway not behaving how you think they should, there’s “stuff” going on…

Remember that backpack 🎒 and remember that behaviour is a message. 💌

There’s a need in there. Your role is to decipher the message AND meet the need.

If you don’t have a healthy relationship with a child, you’ll have a hard time meeting that need. 👥

6. Trying to control children through punitive punishment measures and threats thereof really isn’t going to help learning AT ALL.

A reminder that the word discipline means to teach, to lead, to guide, to mentor- NOT to punish. 😳

Finding out the real reason a child is behaving in a certain way, speaking to them with respect and role modeling empathy is how we grow brains and change behaviour. 🧠

7. We are human beings. We raise our voices from time to time.

But if you are frequently a “shouty” teacher, know that shouting creates an environment of fear. 😧

Learning CANNOT happen in fear. Back to that brain bit above- the brain in fear is in survival mode.

Ziltch, zero, nada, nil learning can take place here.

None. 🙅‍♀️

If you find you are often “losing it” in your classroom, get the help and support you need so that you don’t feel so overwhelmed.

Teaching is TOUGH, but shouting is a sign of feeling out of control and it really won’t help your relationship with the kids or your own state of regulation.

Speak to colleagues, hit the self care ⛽️, get professional help.

Do it for the kids in your care, and do it for YOU.

8. On that note, you absolutely have to look after yourself in whatever way you can.

You are not a mechanic that can go buy a new tool when one breaks. 🔧

You ARE the tool, and broken tools do more damage.

Burnout among educators is REAL.

Do what you need to fill your soul. You can’t dish out from an empty bucket. 🪣

You matter.
What you do matters.

For many children, you are THE most important and stable adult figure in their lives.

In this extremely challenging calling (because that’s what teaching is- a calling) LOOK AFTER YOURSELF! 🫶🏽

9. A final reminder:

“No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship.” (James Comer)

Make THAT your focus. 👆🏻

Within relationships we feel safe.
Within relationships we learn.
Within relationships lives are changed.

Thank you for all you are doing to change so many little and bigger lives. You are appreciated. You are seen. You matter.

With love
Naomi ♥️

PS. Heart-led teaching is an area of real passion for me. I have SO much more to share on this. If you are keen for more posts and videos on this topic including how to ensure that classrooms are a safe place in which optimal learning can occur, pop it in a comment below. Xx

Looking for a small, fun and stimulating music class for your little one for January 2024? 💛🐼 Book your spot now and onl...
06/12/2023

Looking for a small, fun and stimulating music class for your little one for January 2024?

💛🐼 Book your spot now and only pay for Term One 2024 on 1st February🐼💛

Why choose a Pandagroup Music Class:
🎵 Small group maximum 10 children to keep the class intimate and prevent sensory overload.
🎵 Run by passionate, experienced and qualified teachers
🎵Warm, friendly and nurturing atmosphere ensuring little ones feel safe and secure
🎵 Tried and tested termly themes children love
🎵 Mix of free play time and structured class time (30 minutes of each)
🎵 Use of percussion instruments, props, bubbles etc to create an exciting and stimulating class
🎵 Each class ends with a story time 📖
🎵 Come for a FREE trial class before signing up or book your spot now

WhatsApp me, Nina, on 0781411636

24/10/2023

A quote from my book 🌀BOUNCE, and one of my favourites of all time.

Our words as parents are so significant…
So powerful…
They break or they build,
and their impact lasts for generations.

Our children see themselves through our eyes. They become what we believe them to be- what we speak them to be…

Speak wisdom,
speak beauty,
speak kindness…

Be amazed by the human beings your children already are,
and watch in awe and wonder while they unfold into all they are becoming…

With love
Naomi

Ps. 🌀BOUNCE is available in all major bookstores, Amazon, and Barnes and Noble. I have been so humbled by all the incredible feedback. Thank you. It is so appreciated. 🫶🏽

24/10/2023

Limit-pushing behavior can confound even the most attuned parent or caregiver. Why would our sweet darling throw her toy at us when we’ve just asked her not to, and then add insult to injury by smirking? Is she evil? Does she have a pressing need to practice throwing skills? Maybe she just hates u...

This advice is golden! 💙
15/10/2023

This advice is golden! 💙

13/10/2023
10/10/2023
THIS. I still need this reminder!
06/10/2023

THIS. I still need this reminder!

“MOM, I’M WORRIED”

My little/big guy is having a tonsillectomy on Saturday. We have been talking about the procedure for a while, but today the words (which were not unexpected)- “Mom, I’m worried…”

Here’s what I didn’t say:

“You’ll be fine”
“Don’t worry!”
“Lots of kids have their tonsils out. Come on! There’s nothing to be scared of”
“Stop thinking about it! It will be over before you know it!”
“It’s no big deal”
“Be brave! You’re a big boy!”
“Just think of all the icecream and custard you can have afterwards! What a treat!”

And I didn’t try ensure that the next few days are filled with as many distractions as possible…

All of those things will only dismiss his emotions and result in him feeling completely unheard, more alone, and even more anxious.

This is what I did say:

“Of course you’re feeling worried! That’s SO normal! This is a whole new experience and your brain has never made a pathway for this before. Worry is just your brain’s way of saying, ‘Hey! This is a new experience for me. I’m not sure what’s going to happen here’. Absolutely- this feels a bit scary. ALL your big feelings are totally normal and I’m so glad that you can talk to me about them!”

Validate, normalise, empathise.
Don’t sweep or try “cheer up.”
Listen and listen and listen- without trying to fix and sugar-coat.

We downloaded an ebook- ‘Ollie and his tonsils’, and read it together on the couch while he cuddled his favourite soft toy- Cluckles. (Side note: Storybooks are great ways to let kids know that others have experienced the big feelings they’re feeling too, and to help give their brains a bit of context in terms of what they will be experiencing.)

We’ve spoken about the doctor and the anesthetist and the, and the, and the… And we will keep speaking about all that needs to be spoken about as often as it needs to be too…

And then I also said this. The most important words we need to hear:

“I am here. And I will be there. I will be with you until you go to sleep and waiting for you when you wake up” (And so will Cluckles!)

And I will patiently keep listening to the “Mom, I am worried”s, and hold the space for all the emotions to come out as messily as they need to…

Don’t dismiss your child’s big, overwhelming emotions.
Don’t sweep them away.
Don’t minimize them.
Don’t haul out every bribe and distraction you can think of…

These don’t make our children feel better. They just make them stop talking to us about their overwhelm and increase the chances that they’ll feel even worse.

Be the one they know they can come to.
Be the one who walks through the storm with them- not the one who tries to convince them that sun is actually shining.
Be the safe place.

No matter what we go through in life, that’s what matters most.
Connection in vulnerability…
THAT’S what regulates…
THAT’S what calms all uncalm…
THAT’S what gets us through the struggle.
Be THAT.

With love and tonsils,
Naomi ❤️

Ps. The chapter on supporting our kids and teens big emotions is probably the longest one in my book, 🌀BOUNCE, and it’s SUCH an important one. It’s in these big storms that our kids learn the safety in connection. That they know they are safe. That they build the foundation of resilience. 🫶🏽

13/08/2023

Great advice. Acknowledge. Allow. Accept.💛
Thanks Greg Santucci, Occupational Therapist

05/08/2023

Being the best parent you can be isn’t as much about gaining parenting skills as it is about gaining skills to manage yourself, regulate yourself, heal yourself.

The more you are struggling to understand your child’s behaviour, the more you first need to understand your reactions to it. Your inner child is trying to tell you something- tune in to that voice.

The irony is, when you focus on connecting with yourself and meeting your own emotional needs first, the inevitable result is a deeper connection with your child. ♥️

25/07/2023

ADVICE FROM KIDS

My book that I mentioned I was writing back in April is finally, finally, FINALLY in the last rounds of editing. I remember someone at the time commenting on my post that the back and forth revisions had only just begun! (They obviously had experience in this area and fully understood what was to come 🤔) It’s certainly been a back and forth journey indeed. 😬

One of the last requests from the editor was for me to add my Top Ten ‘highlights’ list. I was sitting on my bed last weekend working on it when my kids sauntered in. I decided that I would LOVE their perspective about what they would list as their top ten pieces of advice to parents all over the world. Although we talk about these things often our home, I have to say, I was taken back by their wisdom. 🫶🏽

Here’s what they said- in no particular order and in their own words:

💟 Listen to your children👂

💟 Don’t freak out when they cry 😢

💟 Don’t shout at them for no reason 😠

💟 Don’t be on your phone all the time when your children are talking to you. 📱

💟 Give them as many hugs as possible to cheer them up. 🤗

💟 Don’t ignore your children. 🤐

💟 Have fun with your children. 🥳

💟 Always be there for your children when they cry. 😭 (Freedom of emotional expression in my home is a big thing!)

💟 When they are feeling sad after school, say sorry (in adult terms- empathise), and hug them. ☹️

💟 Then I asked my two, “What should parents do when they feel that their children are misbehaving?” (Reminder: We know that there’s always a valid developmental reason or emotional message behind any behaviour, but here’s what my kids replied and I LOVED their answer.) 🤍

My son began: “Do NOT give them smacks. Talk to them in a nice way.”
My daughter added: “And if they don’t want to listen, talk to them 𝒂𝒈𝒂𝒊𝒏 in a nice way.”

Summing up Parenting Advice from the mouths of babes:

▶️ No one likes being shouted at for any reason, at any time. 😤

▶️ Put all else aside and pay attention 🧘‍♀️

▶️ Play and fun is where connection happens 🤪

▶️ Hold the space for big emotions 🤍

▶️ Hugs and physical nearness give many children a sense of safety 🤗

▶️ Devices are a danger to our closest at-home connections- they really really are! 📱

▶️ How we speak to our children matters. 🫢

▶️ Listen, empathise, be there. Just be there. 🫶🏽

▶️ Punitive punishment results in disconnection with our kids. Our children’s behaviour is just a message- and what they most need in their ‘worst’ moments is patience and kindness. Gentle Parenting all the way! It’s how we raise resilient kids and teens in an upside-down world. 🌎

Ask your kids what their advice to the world of parents would be.
You may just be amazed at their wisdom and insight into exactly what they need from you. ♥️

-Naomi xx

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