Siqalo Nlp&life coach and speaker

“Jesus didn’t choose the most religious people. He chose the most available ones.”

The 12 disciples were:
- 4 fishermen - working class, not scholars
- 1 tax collector - hated by his own people
- 1 zealot - political extremist
- The rest? We don’t even know their jobs. No Pharisees, no priests, no influencers.

Why it’s interesting:
In a culture obsessed with pedigree and credentials, Jesus built his movement with people who had zero religious clout. He wasn’t recruiting for a resume. He was recruiting for trust.

The word “disciple” in Greek literally means “learner” or “apprentice.” Not “expert.” Not “perfect.” Just someone willing to show up and follow.

That’s why it still works 2000 years later. The gospel isn’t for the polished. It’s for the available.

Something’s been on my mind.

When we were kids, wetting the bed meant shame. Some of us got beaten, scolded, told we were disgusting. The message was clear: “This behavior is not okay.”

Fast forward: I watch parents drink daily, pass out, wet themselves, put the same clothes back on, and go looking for the next drink. No shame. No change. Life goes on like nothing happened.

How does that make sense?

How do we grow up carrying that double standard?
And what does it do to a family’s reputation and a child’s sense of worth?
I’m not here to insult anyone’s parents. I’m here because I know I’m not the only one who’s watched this and felt the cost.
If you’ve lived this too, drop a too in the comments. If you have a different perspective or found a way to deal with it, I’d really value hearing that as well.
Let’s talk about it without shame.



This is heavy stuff. If you’re living with a parent’s alcohol use right now, talking to a counselor.

Psalm 4:8

Theological meaning
Sleep as an act of faith: In the ancient world, sleeping was risky. To sleep was to say, “I trust someone else is guarding.”

Practical application
This verse is used a lot for insomnia and anxiety because it reframes the problem:
The issue isn’t just “I can’t sleep.” It’s “Do I believe I’m alone with this?”
It doesn’t deny the threat. David still had enemies. But his trust re-centers on God’s presence.
“I will” shows it’s a decision. Trust is practiced, even when feelings don’t match.

Jesus Forbids Oaths
“Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform your oaths to the Lord.’ But I say to you, do not swear at all: neither by heaven, for it is God’s throne; nor by the earth, for it is His footstool; nor by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. Nor shall you swear by your head, because you cannot make one hair white or black. But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one. Now, how do we respond to " your honour?"

“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you…”

About Section
This page is for parents, caregivers, and anyone unlearning what they grew up with.

“Children come through you, but not from you.” – Khalil Gibran

We talk about:

- Breaking cycles of anger, neglect, and silence
- Healing your inner child so you can show up

Myth vs Fact: “Myth: Kids need strict discipline to respect you. Fact: Kids need safety to connect with you.”

“Treating customers like god” is a common phrase in customer service, especially in Japan and India. It comes from the Japanese idea _okyaku-sama wa kamisama desu_ - “the customer is god”.

Here’s what it actually means, and where it breaks down:

1. The meaning
It doesn’t mean customers are literally divine. It means:
- Highest respect: You treat every customer with politeness, patience, and humility, regardless of their mood or status.
- Their need comes first: Your job is to solve their problem, not win the argument.
- Service without ego: You don’t take rudeness personally. The focus stays on delivering good service.

Think of it like how a host treats a guest at home - attentive, respectful, willing to go out of their way.

2. Why it works
- Builds trust: People return where they feel respected.
- Reduces conflict: A calm, respectful response usually de-escalates an angry customer.
- Professional standard: It sets a clear bar for behavior, even on bad days.

In high-context service cultures like hospitality, airlines, and retail, this mindset is why some brands get a reputation for “legendary service”.

3. The risk if taken too literally
“Customer is god” can go wrong if it means:
- No boundaries: Allowing abuse, unreasonable demands, or harassment because “they’re the customer”.
- Staff burnout: Employees feel they have to suppress everything and can’t push back.
- Bad business decisions: Saying yes to everything to avoid conflict, which hurts the company long term.

Modern customer service training usually reframes it to: “Treat customers with respect, but treat staff with respect too.”

4. Kind, practical way to apply it
You can keep the spirit without burning out:
- Respect + clarity: “I understand this is frustrating. Here’s what I can do for you right now.”
-Active listening: Let them feel heard before you offer a solution.
Separate person from behavior: You can respect the customer’s dignity while not accepting abusive behavior. Most companies have a policy for when to disengage.

Siqalo Nlp&life coach and speaker Developing and Motivating you to be great at work, home, and socially.

This is Matthew 5:43-48— part of Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount. It’s one of the hardest teachings,
1. Pray for people you struggle with. You don’t have to start by feeling good about them. Start by asking God to bless them, give them what’s good. Prayer changes you first.
2. Do one small good thing you don’t owe them. A kind word, not returning an insult, refusing to gossip. Love is action before emotion.
3. Remember you’ve been loved the same way. Romans 5:8 says Christ died for us “while we were still sinners”. We were the enemies. God didn’t wait for us to get lovable.
4. It’s not about being fake. You can love someone and still have boundaries. Jesus didn’t stop calling out sin, but He didn’t stop seeking people’s good.

Simple takeaway for the family:
Our love shows we belong to God when it looks like His love — freely given, even to people who don’t deserve it.
That’s hard. That’s why Jesus says it. But it’s also what makes us stand out.

*_Chapter Excerpt: _Son of a Priest_
Title: The Lead That Chose a Lifestyle_*

One of my so-called friends introduced me to alcohol.
He never mentioned the consequences that came with it.
Not the hangovers. Not the high blood pressure. Not the way “just a drink” can turn into a path toward diabetes and a body that starts betraying you before you’re thirty.

At home, I didn’t see a different model.

My father worked as a contractor. When he came home late, he had to mentally prepare for the rituals of church. His body was home, but his mind was already in service.
My mother worked as a domestic worker. She gave unconditional love, patience, and attention to the children of her employer all day. She played with them, fed them, cleaned them, checked their schoolwork, checked their teeth for hygiene. When she got home, she had to do it all again—cook dinner, manage the house, and sometimes put me, the firstborn, in charge of preparing the meal.

There was no time left for affection.
No time to sit with us, check our schoolwork, look at our teeth, or ask how our day was.
Both my parents were working to survive the system they were born into.

And that is why I came to despise the legacy of apartheid, and everything it left behind.

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I have to ask:
What was I longing for before alcohol was made available to me at an age when I should not have had access to it?

Why is alcohol so easy to get, when products that are far less destructive are tightly controlled?
You need substantial evidence to prove your age for almost everything else. But liquor is on every corner.

How many children in South Africa are drinking right now?
Why isn’t it called an epidemic?
Where is social development when we need it most?

To heal, we need love, guidance, and a place to belong.
But instead of rehabilitation programs, we have shebeens, taverns, and liquor stores on every street.
A war could break out tomorrow, and I wonder—would the South African youth even have the discipline and health to stand up and fight for their country?

Maybe I won’t get answers that satisfy me.
So for now, I leave it in the hands of parents: educate your children about substance abuse. Tell them the cost before someone else sells them the first drink.

I went to shebeens looking for acceptance and healing.
I paid for it with money I didn’t have, and with parts of myself I’m still trying to get back.
Because alcohol isn’t cheap. Not in rands, and not in what it takes from you.

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Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." — Proverbs 4:23

This verse is saying your inner world runs everything else.

What it means:
1. Guard your heart = Be careful what you let influence your thoughts, emotions, and values. That’s your mindset, what you consume, who you spend time with.
2. Everything flows from it = Your actions, decisions, relationships, and work all come from what’s going on inside you. If your heart is bitter, distracted, or unfocused, it shows up in how you live.

Every encounter is a lesson. Be a student first — listen, observe, and don’t reveal yourself to everyone. Not everyone deserves your story.