29/01/2025
Dr. Ovide, pediatric neurologist, warns about a silent tragedy unfolding in our homes today. There is a silent tragedy unfolding in our homes today, and it concerns our most beautiful jewels: our children. Our children are in a devastating emotional state ! Over the last 15 years, researchers have given us more and more alarming statistics about a sharp and steady increase in childhood mental illness that is now reaching epidemic proportions: The statistics don't lie: • 1 in 5 children have mental illnesses mental health. • 43% increase in ADHD. • 37% increase in adolescent depression. • 200% increase in su***de rates among children aged 10 to 14 was seen. What is going on and what are we doing wrong? Today’s children are over-stimulated and over-given with material objects, but they are deprived of the foundations of a healthy childhood, such as: • Emotionally available parents • Clearly defined boundaries • Responsibility • Balanced nutrition and adequate sleep • Movement in general but especially outdoors • Creative play, social interaction, informal play opportunities and spaces for boredom Instead, the last few years have been filled with children with: • digitally distracted parents • indulgent, permissive parents who let kids ‘rule the world’ and be the ones who make the rules • A sense of entitlement, deserving everything without earning it or being responsible for getting it • Inappropriate sleep and unbalanced nutrition • A sedentary lifestyle • Endless stimulation, technological nannies, instant gratification and no boring moments What to do? If we want our children to be happy and healthy individuals, we need to wake up and get back to basics. It's still possible! Many families see immediate improvement after weeks of implementing the following recommendations: • Set boundaries and remember, you're the captain of the boat. Your children will feel safer knowing you have government control. • Give children a balanced lifestyle filled with what children need, not just what they want. Don't be afraid to say "no" to your children if what they want isn't what they need. • Provide nutritious food and limit junk food. • Spend at least one hour a day outdoors doing activities such as: cycling, hiking, fishing, bird/insect watching • Enjoy a daily family dinner without smartphones or technology distracting them. • Play board games as a family or if the children are too young for board games, get carried away by your interests and let them be the ones who send in the game • Involve your children in a task or household task depending on their age (folding clothes, ordering toys, hanging clothes, unwrapping groceries, setting the table, feeding the dog, etc.) Worldwide • Establish a consistent sleep routine to ensure your child is getting enough sleep. Schedules will be even more important for school-age kids. • Teach responsibility and independence. Don't be too protective of them against frustration or mistakes. Making mistakes will help them develop resilience and learn how to overcome life’s challenges. • Don’t load your kids’ backpacks, don’t carry their backpacks, do not take them away from them, do not peel their bananas nor peel their oranges if they can do it themselves (4-5 years old). Instead of giving them the fish, teach them how to fish. • Teach them to wait and delay gratification. • Provide opportunities for "boredom", because boredom is the moment when creativity awakens. Don’t feel responsible for always keeping the kids entertained. • Do not use technology as a cure for boredom, nor offer it at the first second of inactivity. • Avoid using technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, malls. Use these moments as opportunities to socialize by training the brains to function when they are in the mood: "Boredom" • Help them create a "Boredom Bottle" with activity ideas for when they are bored. • Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills: • Turn off phones at night when children need to go to bed to avoid digital distraction. • Become an emotional regulator or coach for your children. Teach them to recognize and deal with their own frustrations and anger. • Show them to greet, to take turns, to share without staying without anything, to say thank you and please, to admit the mistake and apologize (don't force them), be a model of all these values he instills. • Connect emotionally - smile, hug, kiss, tickle, read, dance, jump, play or spoil with them. Article written by Dr. Luis Rojas Marcos, Psychiatrist. http://palermonline.com.ar/wordpress/?p=65783