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20/08/2026

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐩𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐄𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭?

Rather than telling you what I think you’ll get from it, I thought I’d let the people who have already completed it tell you!

𝐒𝐰𝐢𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐬. 👉

The feedback I’ve received has honestly exceeded my expectations.

People have spoken about being better informed, more connected to themselves, more confident in supporting their patients, and seeing menopause differently.

They’ve described healing, appreciation, self-love, deeper understanding, new perspectives and practical ways of navigating this transition.

𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐈’𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐛𝐲 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐩𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫, 𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡, 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 — 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠.

𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐡𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞. 💫
𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐩𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 — 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭.

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17/08/2026

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧?

In menopause, what changes within us can begin to shape 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐮𝐬.

𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞. 𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐨𝐝𝐬, 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲, 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐬, 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐟𝐭. 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 — 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐬, 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲, 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐠𝐮𝐞𝐬.

We might respond differently to familiar moments — wanting more space or more connection. Intimacy may shift. Even a relationship at work could feel different.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞:

This is where something from my work as an ontological coach has become increasingly interesting to me. There is a difference between what is happening and the meaning we make of our experience.

𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐱𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞:

My partner doesn't initiate intimacy.

That's an observation.

"They're no longer attracted to me."

That's an interpretation.

A colleague doesn't respond to something I've said.

That's an observation.

"They don't respect me."

Again, that's an interpretation.

And once we believe our interpretation, we can begin to respond to it as though it were fact.

𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐫:

One of the practices I return to is becoming curious about the observer I am being. Instead of immediately asking:

"What's wrong here?"

𝐈 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐚𝐬𝐤:

"What am I noticing?"

"What am I making this mean?"

"What else might be possible?"

This isn't about ignoring what is happening. It's about creating enough space to recognise that our first interpretation isn't necessarily the only interpretation available to us.

And menopause can be a powerful time to practice this — because so much about ourselves can be changing.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞?

Think about one relationship in your life that feels difficult or different right now.

𝐏𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐬𝐤:

What am I observing?

What am I making it mean?

What else might be possible?

Sometimes expanding the observer doesn't change the situation.

But it can change the possibilities we can see within it.

𝐀 𝐖𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐞-𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐀𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡:

This is the kind of whole-person understanding we explore in 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐩𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐄𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞. We go beyond symptoms to understand the physiology, relationships, sexuality, work, identity and lived experience of menopause — and what becomes possible when we understand this stage more deeply.

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16/07/2026

Today, 16 July 2026 marks one year since my mom died.

I’ve found myself reflecting less on her death and more on her life.

And on inheritance.

Not the things we leave behind in a house or a will, but the ways of being that quietly pass from one generation to the next.

The older I get, the less interested I am in asking whether someone was good or bad. I’m more interested in asking what they were carrying, what they passed on, and what is now my responsibility to transform.

I’ve come to see that so much of what we call personality is, in fact, adaptation. Ways of thinking, coping, protecting and relating that were shaped long before us.

We don’t simply inherit eye colour.

We inherit stories.
Beliefs.
Silences.
Ways of coping.
Ways of loving.
Ways of making sense of the world.

Most of these are passed on without awareness.

One of the greatest gifts coaching has given me is this: transformation begins the moment we become observers of our own way of being. Only then can we choose differently.

Not to erase our history.

But to honour it by keeping what gives life and gently releasing what no longer serves.

That understanding has shaped both my life and my work.

Today I remember my mom with gratitude for all she taught me, compassion for all she carried, and a renewed commitment to leave those who come after me a little freer than I was.

Perhaps that’s one of the deepest forms of love.

06/05/2026

At some point in midlife, many women notice:

Something has shifted.

In the body.
In energy.
In how we experience ourselves.

And often… without explanation.

It’s not that you’re doing something wrong.
It’s that your body is asking for a different kind of understanding now.

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02/05/2026

What happens when grief, trauma, and perimenopause collide—at the same time?

Ten years ago today 2 May, my brother Calvin died.

His illness moved quickly, and his passing was sudden. Losing him was one of the most defining moments of my life.

In the months and years that followed, I found myself navigating grief in ways I didn’t yet understand. What I know now—both through lived experience and my work—is that grief and trauma don’t just live in our thoughts. They shape the body, the brain, and our capacity to cope.

At the same time, I was unknowingly moving through the later stages of perimenopause—a significant neurological and hormonal transition that can profoundly affect mood, cognition, and resilience. The overlap of these experiences left me depleted, overwhelmed, and searching for answers.

Over time, through coaching, deep study, and the right medical support, I began to rebuild. Discovering menopause hormone therapy was a turning point in restoring my sleep, stability, and sense of self.

This journey has become a cornerstone of the work I do today.

I am deeply committed to educating and supporting women—and the organisations they work within—around menopause, mental health, and the often-overlooked impact of trauma. There is still far too much silence and misunderstanding in these spaces.

Ten years on, I still feel the loss in my body. And–alongside it sits something else: meaning, purpose, and a deep respect for the body’s wisdom.

We don’t “move on” from grief. We learn how to carry it—and, sometimes, how it shapes the work we feel called to do in the world

18/02/2026

As 2026 began, I felt a surge of excitement about change —like I was standing at the edge of something new and alive, ready to leap. I welcomed the idea of bold, courageous decisions and fresh perspectives, believing this would be the year I truly stepped into possibility.

Then, almost without warning, it felt as though I was wading through mud. The weight of world news pressed in, and the wildfires in our area turned the air thick with smoke and unease. My optimism stumbled under the heaviness of uncertainty and grief for the world around me.

AND, a thread of determination and passion pulls me forward. I want to stay focused, to remember why I began this year with hope. Even in the mess and the mud, I know that speaking up for change and holding onto radical hope matters. In the face of significant challenges across the world, RADICAL HOPE is the mood in which we hold a commitment to possibility.

Guided by the words of Joanna Macy: “When our responses are guided by the intention to act for the healing of our world, the mess we’re in not only becomes easier to face, our lives also become more meaningful and satisfying.”

I constantly remind myself to pause, to center, to connect with nature and to soften into the present moment. I tune into my own intuition amidst the noise, stay open to possibilities, and let self-compassion guide me.

There’s a quiet power in continuing: in releasing what no longer serves me, in challenging old patterns, and in using my voice to advocate for a fairer, more connected world. This year still asks for honesty, for courage, and for the belief that even in the hardest seasons, change is possible.

I invite you to reflect on the necessary changes you want to create in your life —to prioritise self-care, and permit yourself the space to do so.
This year urges you to pursue deeper honesty with yourself and those around you.

Acknowledge the transformative power of your words and mood in shaping reality and designing your life. I am here to support you, your team and your loved ones.

Working with me offers a transformative Ontological coaching journey that goes beyond tools, strategies and surface changes —to explore beliefs, perceptions, and identity.
This approach fosters a new way of observing self and the world, potentially leading to a profound shift in way of being. I provide a compassionate, insightful space for exploring and rewriting limiting beliefs and stories.
Together we'll uncover possibilities — an opportunity to navigate life's complexities with renewed purpose and clarity. My commitment is to partner with individuals and teams in designing their best life.💫

01/02/2026

Dear Followers

I'm soooo excited to share this offer with you. I've bought the license to screen this amazing series in community. I'd love to share this with as many women (and men) as possible which is why we're doing this online.

We have an expert panel for a Q&A after the first Episode. The hope is to create a diverse online community.
Please join us for the online screening of Balance Docuseries | BALANCE: The Docuseries | A PERIMENOPAUSE JOURNEY – on 19 February 2026 at 18h00– 20h00 SAST.
Watch with us. Become curious with us. Learn with us. Create community with us.

Two amazing female Jain monks (and film producers), Sadhvi Anubhuti and Sadhvi Anubhuti, (who I have been in contact with since 2024) enter perimenopause and uncover one of the biggest health crises of our time—misinformation, prejudice, and silence that has left millions suffering in the dark.

BALANCE: A Perimenopause Journey is for every woman who has ever felt “off,” dismissed by doctors, or wondered why her body suddenly feels unfamiliar. Through personal journeys, raw patient stories, celebrity voices, and leading experts, BALANCE pulls back the curtain on the truth about perimenopause and menopause—and shows that you are not alone. Honest, eye-opening, and deeply relatable, this is more than a docuseries—it’s a path toward answers, healing, and hope.

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/themenopausecoach
Dr Fumi Kokoali
Dr Robyn Milton
Claire O' Sullivan | Health Coach Claire

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02/01/2026

I’ve delighted in creating this post as my love for horses has been re-ignited. As a child I used to draw them in great detail. Over and over. Sadly I never kept any of the drawings. I feel inspired to create again. I say that, knowing that I create in my work and life everyday ~ through language, my nervous system, gestures, my connections. It’s been a while since I’ve drawn or painted or sculpted though. Perhaps an invitation to do so.
I feel excited about this year. I’m dreaming BIG! 🔥💫

What moves you in this moment?

#2026

31/12/2025

As this year draws to a close, I’ve been reflecting on all it has held.

It’s been a year of contrast—joy and grief, opportunity and loss, learning and deepening self-awareness. A year that asked me to show up fully human, both in my work and in my broader life.

Professionally, I’m deeply grateful for the opportunities to amplify the menopause conversation—through interviews, films, workshops, webinars, and education.
From bringing The M-Factor film to South Africa early in 2025, to facilitating menopause education in workplaces, researching, developing and delivering a 10-week course with two cohorts, and supporting women and leaders (both women and men) through coaching, this work continues to expand in meaningful ways. I’m also thankful for new connections across South Africa, Europe, India, the UK and the US.

Alongside this growth, there has been profound loss.
This year, my spiritual teacher Joan died. My mom died. And my uncle Bob—who was like a father to me—died suddenly. Grief has always been a quiet but powerful teacher, deepening my empathy, presence, and compassion in ways I couldn’t have anticipated.
I’ve learned that gratitude and grief are not opposites—they co-exist.

As I look ahead, I feel a steady sense of possibility. One grounded in integrity, research, connection, and compassion.

May we carry forward what mattered.
Rest where we need to.
And meet what's next with courage and kindness.

21/12/2025

🧡🧡🧡

Day 21 of my advent.

For those with bruises on the soft tissue of your heart please be reminded that it’s actually made of the strongest stuff known to mankind. Or any kind.

It will break a million times in this life, if you’re living it right. 💔❤️‍🩹

My love to you all x