Lelia Schott

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After a traumatic chain of events my body became increasingly at odds with my true nature.

My heart often longs to connect but my body tells me to protect.

My eldest daughter took these photos of me as a reminder of how to gently provide safety and sovereignty within when dealing with recurring anxiety.

Sometimes I see a person who loves swimming in the ocean and sometimes I see a person posing uncomfortably on a rock in the middle of the sea reminding themself that they love swimming in the ocean.

There is a part of me who is anxious about almost everything, including doing things on my own that bring fulfillment.

I have found a way to observe myself with compassion, breathe slowly, and create the smallest feeling of inner safety and sovereignty as I take the plunge into the deep where I am held by full acceptance and belonging.

It feels so good being the adult I've always wanted to be. This means appreciating when I am actually wading into the deep and trusting that the waves may tumble me but I will always find my way back to shore, AND accepting that sometimes I am posing on a rock in the middle of the sea envisaging myself into the swimmer I want to be.

That's okay. I'm not waiting for someone to rescue me anymore. I know I will find myself where I am and adult-me will hold little-me as we bravely dive into the deep and safely wash onto the shore. Together. Whole.

💗Lelia.

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When I feel small I grow curious.

How old do I feel?
What does this situation or emotion remind me of?
What do I need to feel secure in my body again?

I remind myself that I’m not a powerless child or fearful teen anymore, I am my own nurturer, connector and protector. 🤎

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Inspired by the beautiful souls I have the great honor of working with. May you find the words you need in your heart, always.

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See you on the inside…

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EMPATHY: WHEN THE NERVOUS SYSTEM REJOICES

The most beautiful quality of all in a human being, in my humble opinion?

The ability to listen deeply.

To listen from Presence. From stillness.

To listen without trying to fix someone, or change them, or ‘save’ them.

The ability to allow another to be exactly as they are.

Not giving unsolicited advice. Not lecturing them about the latest psychological research or the ‘most true’ spiritual teaching. Not trying to mould them, manipulate them into matching a concept of who they ‘should’ be. Not projecting your own trauma – or traumatic answers - all over them.

Just listening. Listening with an open mind and an open heart and a receptive nervous system.
Allowing them to breathe, to express, to weep, to question, to be completely unique, to expand into the space, to discover their own truth.

I have met world experts in intimacy, relationships and honest communication who are unable to do this.
I have met spiritual gurus, so-called “enlightened masters”, expert psychologists and life coaches who are utterly unable to do this.
I have met popular teachers and authors on ‘listening from the heart’, ‘holding space’, ‘pure awareness’ and ‘embodied spirituality’ who are unable to do this.

It is a rare gift – the ability to allow others to be exactly as they are.
Broken. Whole. Sad. Angry. Afraid. Lost. Awake or asleep. Whatever.
To listen to them with every fibre of your being.
To receive them through the senses, to listen like the wild animals of the forest.
To swaddle them in undistracted, fascinated attention.
To envelop them in a silent, warm Presence.
To make them feel – in those precious moments that you are together – like they are the most beloved One in the whole Universe.

When you sense this kind of sacred listening from someone, it’s unmistakable.

It cannot be manufactured.
It cannot be faked.
It is utterly rare and holy.
It is nothing less than unconditional love.

Your nervous system senses it and rejoices.

- Jeff Foster

When great trees fall,
rocks on distant hills shudder,
lions hunker down
in tall grasses,
and even elephants
lumber after safety.

When great trees fall
in forests,
small things recoil into silence,
their senses
eroded beyond fear.

When great souls die,
the air around us becomes
light, rare, sterile.

We breathe, briefly.
Our eyes, briefly,
see with
a hurtful clarity.

Our memory, suddenly sharpened,
examines,
gnaws on kind words
unsaid,
promised walks
never taken.

Great souls die and
our reality, bound to
them, takes leave of us.

Our souls,
dependent upon their
nurture,
now shrink, wizened.

Our minds, formed
and informed
by their radiance,
fall away.

We are not so much maddened
as reduced
to the unutterable ignorance
of dark, cold caves.

And when great souls die,
after a period peace blooms,
slowly and always
irregularly.

Spaces fill
with a kind of
soothing electric vibration.

Our senses, restored, never
to be the same, whisper to us.

They existed. They existed.
We can be. Be and be
better. For they existed.

Maya Angelou
Honoring a Great Spiritual Father Desmond Tutu

I release my parents from the feeling that they have failed with me.
I release my children from the need to make me proud, so that they can write their own ways, according to their hearts.
I release my partner from the obligation to make me feel complete.

I lack nothing in myself.
I learn with all the beings that surround me through all time.
I thank my grandparents and ancestors who met so that today I breathe life.
And I release them from the faults of the past and from the wishes they did not fulfill, aware that they did the best they could to resolve their situations, within the consciousness they had at that moment.

I honor them, I love them, and I recognize their innocence.
I bare my soul before their eyes and that is why they know that I do not hide or owe anything, more than being faithful to myself and my own existence walking with the wisdom of the heart.

I am aware that I am fulfilling my life project, free of visible and invisible family loyalties that may disturb my peace and my happiness, which are my greatest responsibilities.

I renounce the role of savior, of being the one who unites or who fulfills the expectations of others. And learning through LOVE, I bless my essence and my way of expressing, although there may be someone who cannot understand me.

I understand myself, because only I lived and experienced my story; because I know myself, I know who I am, what I feel, what I do and why I do it.

I respect and approve.
I honor the Divinity in me and in you.

We are free.

- A Traditional Náhuatl Prayer

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Children learn out of necessity how to repress their emotions or needs when their adults cannot tolerate their own.

Highly sensitive children struggle to depend on adults who cannot help fulfill their many needs. They demand emotional authenticity and require emotional safety to develop their own.

Given a nurturing, supportive, predictable, dependable environment highly sensitive children (also know as orchid children) THRIVE!

I am re-parenting my inner orchid child at the same time as parenting each unique child to feel safe being authentic and securely attached.

[Special mention to my HS children for shining a light on my buried emotions & needs so I can rise into the parent we both need!]

My Nurturing Inner Parent whispers what I need.

“I don’t need them to be calm, respectful or cooperative in order for me to be.”

It’s a process and I will continue sharing my experience…in the hope that it helps others.

With love,
Lelia Schott

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I WANT TO KNOW HOW HUMAN YOU ARE.

“I don’t care how spiritual you are. How long you can melt in the sweat lodge and meet your ancestors. How many pe**te journeys that have blown your mind, or how well you can hold Crow pose. I don’t care what planets fall in what houses on your birth chart, how many crystals you have, or how vegan your diet is.

Honestly, I don’t.
As intriguing and valuable as these experiences are, ultimately, I want to know how human you are. Can you sit at the feet of the dying, despite the discomfort that arises? Can you be with your grief, or mine, without trying to advise, change, or maintain it? I want to know that you can show up at the table no matter how shiny, chakra-aligned, or complete you are, or not. Can you hold loving space for your beloved in the depths of your own healing without trying to be big?

It doesn’t flatter me how many online healing certifications you have, that you live in the desert or in a log cabin away from society, or that you’ve mastered the art of ta**ra. These things are great. But what matters to me is what you did with it. Can you come down from the high and attend to the laundry? Clean the toilets? Create magic in the mundane?
What turns me on is busy hands and planting roots. That despite how tired you are, you make that phone call, board that plane, love your children, and feed your family.
I have no interest in how well you can ascend to 5D astral travel or have out-of-body s*x. I want to see how beautifully you integrate into ordinary reality with your unique magic, how you find beauty and gratitude in what’s surrounding you, and how present you can be in your relationships.
I want to know that you can show up and do the hard and holy things on this gorgeously messy earth. I want to see that you can be sincere, grounded, and compassionate as equally as you are empowered, fiery, and magnetic. I want to know that even during your achievements, you can step back and be humble enough to still be a student.
What’s beautiful and s*xy and authentic is how well you can continue to celebrate others no matter how advanced you’ve become. What’s truly flattering is how much you can give despite how full you’ve made yourself. What’s honestly valuable is how much better of a human you can be, in a world that is high off of spiritual materialism and jumping the next scapegoat for “freedom.”
At the end of the day, I don’t care how brave you are. How productive, how popular, how enlightened you are.
At the end of the day, I want to know that you were kind. That you were real. I want to know that you can step down from the pedestal from time to time to kiss the earth and let your hair get dirty and your feet get muddy and join the dance with us all.” 💗

Taylor Godfey’s full article here: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2020/01/i-want-to-know-how-human-you-are/