22/08/2026
I have often sat with this question:
Who are you when nobody is looking?
Who are you when the titles are stripped away? When you no longer have the job title you once carried so proudly. When the possessions, the car, the house, the clothes, the jewellery, the holidays and even the circles you moved in are no longer there to tell the world who you are.
Who are you then?
If someone had to describe you using just one word, what would you hope that word would be?
This is a question I have been grappling with lately, because life has a way of stripping things away and forcing us to look beneath everything we thought defined us.
And I am learning to embrace what I find there.
I am learning that perhaps who I am is not found in what I have, what I wear, where I go, or what title sits next to my name.
Perhaps it is found in how I make people feel.
In whether people feel safe with me.
In whether I show up.
In whether my word means something.
In whether, after everything is stripped away, I can still say:
I am someone you can trust.
And perhaps that is enough.
Perhaps that is who I am.
And perhaps the real work of becoming is learning to recognise your own worth when life removes everything you once used to measure it.
So I'll leave you with this: Who are you when everything else is stripped away? And who are you becoming?
If you're on a journey of rediscovering yourself beyond the roles, labels and circumstances that have defined you, perhaps it's time to do the inner work.
