Heidi Dellaire

Don't be afraid to be exactly who you are.
There is someone out there who needs
to meet your
authentic you.

Spend time with people who are good for your mental health.

Some grief doesn’t get recognized because it wasn’t a “big enough” loss.

It was the loss of feeling chosen.
The loss of safety.
The loss of being understood.
The loss of the childhood you needed.

So the inner child keeps carrying it quietly… and it can show up later as anxiety, overthinking, people-pleasing, shutdown, or that stuck feeling you can’t explain.

This is the work we do inside Heal Your Story: calm first, so the body feels safe enough to let the truth move through—gently, without forcing.

If this landed in your chest, comment “me” or drop a 💛.

And if you want to go deeper in a private, supportive space, you’re welcome inside my Heal Your Story Community. The community link is in the comments below on FB or in my bio on IG.

𝐒𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐢𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬.
𝐖𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐧.

Be fine.

Stay busy.

Keep the peace.

Take care of everyone else.

And over time, discomfort can start to feel unsafe… even when it’s simply asking to be heard.

This weekend, just notice:

When discomfort shows up, what do you usually do?

Do you shut down, scroll, overthink, isolate, rescue, apologize, or stay busy?

No judgment. Just awareness.

That’s where coming back to yourself begins. 🤍

I just started a discussion about this for further exploration inside the Heal Your Story Community, where we work through tough emotions.

Come on in and join the discussion and start the "Calm & Connection Challenge", currently for free.

Comment "COMMUNITY" below or find the community link in my bio, or in the comments below.

Healing takes the time it takes.
You are not behind. You are becoming whole in your own way.

𝐋𝐨𝐰 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤.
𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐲, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠: 𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐚𝐥, 𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞, 𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠.

You overthink texts.

You try to be perfect.

You shrink your needs.

But love isn’t meant to feel like a job.

Calm first helps you come home to yourself so connection can feel simpler and safer.

Want a safe and caring space to never have to perform for love or kindness?

Join the Heal Your Story Community and get started on the Calm & Connection Challenge.

𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐰.

𝐒𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝: 𝐛𝐞 𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐲, 𝐛𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐟𝐮𝐥, 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡… 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝.

But love that requires you to abandon yourself isn’t love that feels safe.

You don’t have to earn love to deserve it.
And you don’t have to heal this alone.

Join us inside Heal Your Story.
Check the comments for the link to the community to join.

𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 “𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐧𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧,” 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐮𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐧𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧.
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐣𝐨𝐛—𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠.

Calm isn’t something you think your way into. It’s something you practice back into your body.

That’s what we do inside my private Community through the Calm & Connection Challenge—simple practices for real life, so you can feel steadier and more like yourself again.

Get The Calm & Connection Challenge for Free inside the community.
Find the community in my bio or look in the comments below.

Heal Your Story™ Emotional regulation for sensitive souls healing grief, shame, guilt, anxiety & overwhelm —so that you feel calmer, lighter, and open to joy again.

𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰𝐬 𝐮𝐩 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐢𝐭.
When a boundary was crossed. When you swallowed your truth.

Under anger there’s usually something honest: hurt, fear, grief, longing.

You don’t need to fear anger or shame it.

You need a calm way to listen to it—so it can stop running your life.

If you are finding certain emotions getting triggered, we help you tame those triggers inside the Heal Your Story Community.

The community link is in the comments below.