30/05/2026
The funny thing about growing up between cultures is that you spend years adapting. You learn how to explain yourself, translate yourself, and make peace with the parts of your identity that don’t quite fit.
And then a child arrives.
And questions you thought you had already answered start resurfacing:
What do I want them to call me?
What language do I sing in?
Which traditions matter enough to continue?
What parts of my childhood do I want to recreate?
What parts do I want to leave behind?
For many diaspora parents, the desire to pass on a heritage language isn’t really about raising a bilingual child.
It’s about deciding what pieces of ourselves we want to carry forward.
That’s why I think it matters when partners make an effort to learn each other’s heritage languages, even imperfectly.
Research on multilingual families suggests that supportive partners help legitimize the heritage language within the home. They help create an environment where the language feels valued, welcomed, and worth preserving.
And when children see that?
They learn that this part of their identity matters too.
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Filmed during my postpartum recovery at The Joyful Nest in Vietnam, a season that has me thinking deeply about home, belonging, and what I hope my daughter inherits beyond language alone.