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4 Habits of Highly Confident People
https://medium.com/personal-growth/4-habits-of-highly-confident-people-822fd0d6fc50
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Becoming more confident doesn’t mean eliminating fear from your life, it means learning to live with your fear. Build the right habits and you can learn to speak and act with confidence no matter how you feel.
* Accept your fear instead of running away from it.
* Communicate your wants and needs assertively.
* Make decisions based on values, not feelings.
* Be compassionate with yourself after mistakes.

1. Accepting fear instead of running away from it
Confident people don’t lack fear — they just have a healthier relationship with it. Eliminating your fear is impossible. Your brain evolved a threat-detection system for a reason — keeping you alive. A simple way to build your confidence and cultivate a better relationship with fear is to practice naming it and acknowledging it. By simply telling yourself I am afraid and that’s okay you’re beginning the process of retraining your brain not to be afraid of fear itself. And the more it believes that to be true, the more confident you’re going to feel.

2. Communicating assertively
Confident people communicate their own needs honestly and respectfully. On the other hand, people with low self-confidence routinely put aside their own wants and needs in favor of someone else’s.
If you always put other people’s wants and needs before your own, you’re always going to feel unworthy.
Confident people believe that their wants and needs are every bit as valid and important as other people’s and they act accordingly:
* They ask for what they want clearly and respectfully.
* They respect other people’s right to say yes or no just as they respect their own right to ask.
* They say no to what they don’t want and are willing to set and enforce boundaries with people.

Confidence comes from doing the right thing even if it feels difficult in the moment.
If you want to feel more confident, practice being more assertive.
* Ask for what you want clearly and respectfully.
* Say no to what you don’t want.
* Set and enforce healthy boundaries.
If you respect yourself enough to communicate assertively, confidence won’t be far behind.

3. Making decisions based on values, not feelings
Confident people build trust in themselves by prioritizing values over feelings.
The secret ingredient to feeling more confident is trust. But it’s a very specific form of trust: Confidence comes from trusting yourself to act on your values instead of your feelings.

4. Embracing self-compassion after mistakes
Confident people know that beating yourself up for mistakes is no way to succeed long-term. In many ways, confidence is less about what you do and more about what you don’t do. And there’s no better example of this than how we respond to mistakes, setbacks, and failures.
Confident people understand that it’s simply unhelpful to beat yourself up when you’re already down. It doesn’t do any good and should be avoided at all costs. Because in addition to making yourself feel even worse, it erodes your confidence in the future.
When they make a mistake, confident people simply treat themselves the same way they would treat a good friend — with compassion.

Being self-confident can lead to greater success and happiness in life while having low self-confidence can have a damaging effect on your mental health, relationships, and career.

✅ The most important ingredient of leadership: Integrity

Every great institution is the lengthened shadow of a single man. His character determines the character of the organization.

"In quality control, we are not concerned about the product. We are concerned about the process. If the process right, the product is guaranteed" - The same holds true for integrity; it guarantees credibility.

If you want to be a good leader, you should build your integrity. It will build a solid reputation. Your followers have choices because "What they hear, they understand. What they see, they believe!"

✍️ Source: Developing the Leader within You

✍️ If you have only one letter to write, you will take one day to finish it. But if you have twenty letters to write, you will get them done in one day.

❓When is our most efficient time in our work? The week before vacation!

Why can't we always run our lives the way we do the week before we leave the office: making decisions, cleaning off the desk and returning calls?

👉 Because: When time pressure mounts or emergencies arise, we become more effective and doing the right things.
So, be happy when you work under pressure and try to make things more effectively.

To achieve your most ambitious goals, you should break them down to their simplest form and just make marginal improvements along the way to improve your odds of achieving them.
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"There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing and be noting" - Aristotle
Don't let you down from rejection and this article will describe 5 lessons from "100 days of rejection". How is your fear of rejection holding you back? Do you want to play it safe, or do you want to open yourself up to possibility? These two outcomes can not co-exist.
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Here are Jiang's most important lessons he learned from being rejected 100 days in a row.

We can often turn a "No" into a "Yes."
Jiang discovered that often people say No because they don't have enough information, or because they feel at risk if they say Yes. The best way to change a No to a Yes is often with the question "Why."

When we ask "why," we give the person an opportunity to share what it is about our ask that is making them uncomfortable.

I experienced this with a long-time customer who initially said No to working together. I knew he wanted to work with me, and needed to work with me, but something was holding him back. Through patience, and by giving him an opportunity to share his objections, I was able to diffuse his hesitation, and replace the fear with trust and confidence.

No is often used as a protective measure when someone doesn't have all of the information they need to move forward.
Empathy is a great tool to break down barriers.
When Jiang initially asked Starbucks to be a "greeter," he was met with surprise and skepticism. As soon as he noticed this, he put himself in the shoes of the manager and said, "Is that weird?" Immediately, the manager could relate to him. He knew they were on the same page. "Yeah, it's weird," he said.

However, in that moment, the manager learned that Jiang was not there to do any harm. He gained his trust.
Persistence often turns a No into a Yes.
Jiang has always wanted to teach. However, he convinced himself that he would never be able to teach because he wasn't a certified teacher, and he had no experience teaching.

He mustered the courage to approach a professor at the University of Texas, and was rejected multiple times. However he stayed persistent, and eventually, the professor gave him a slot in the class.

Jiang learned that he could fulfill a life dream simply by asking.
Rejection never defines you. Your reaction following rejection defines you.
Throughout his experiment to desensitize himself to the pain of rejection, Jiang learned that it was not the experience of rejection that was causing him pain. Rather, it was the way he personalized it and internalized it.

Leaders such as Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, and Ghandi all had the ability to see the higher purpose and bigger picture beyond the rejection they experienced. They did not let non-believers diminish their own beliefs or goals.
We can use rejection to fuel our determination to succeed.
Steve Jobs was fired from his own company. His own Board terminated him. This motivated him even more to build a better company beyond Apple, and then eventually go back into Apple and reclaim it. Rejection can be one of our greatest gifts if we are open to learning from it.
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