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12/14/2022

Joy vs Happiness

Joy - is a selfless feeling of extreme happiness and pleasure; inward contentment and peace.

Happiness - an emotional state characterized by feelings of joy, satisfaction, contentment, and fulfillment.

Although joy and happiness are used interchangeably and similar in definition; they are actually very different and distinct. Specifically, joy is an inner feeling; happiness is an outward expression. Moreover, joy is constant while happiness is temporary. In addition, joy is about selflessness and happiness involves pleasing oneself. Joy is meaningful and happiness feels good. Joy involves trials and hardships, which ultimately result in growth and strength, while happiness is easier to achieve. Lastly, joy is transformative and happiness can hold you back. Joyful experiences can be life-changing.

During this holiday season I wish you happiness and even more joy. After all, it has been stated a person pursues happiness but chooses joy.

Enjoy the Journeys!

12/10/2022

Fear Not or Fear Knot?

FEAR is anxiety and agitation caused by the presence of danger, evil, pain, etc.; dread; fright — as defined by Webster’s. Unfortunately, the foregoing is unavoidable; in that, it has been experienced by all. Fear, if not managed, can and will stifle growth or worse, it can be totally debilitating. Moreover, fear can keep us from fulfilling our purpose; limit our accomplishments; and kill our dreams.

FEAR NOT!

Fear can serve as an internal alarm while keeping us out of harms way. Often times fear is used interchangeably with being anxious, nervous about something unfamiliar, something new. Thus, feeling uncomfortable, out-of-sorts, frightened — also known as fear knots — is often identified as fear; albeit, there is no real danger, evil or pain.

A theologian coined an acronym for FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real, which is another way to look at situations, circumstances, and/or things out of one’s control. Think about it, we tend to fear situations, circumstances, and things beyond our control.

Again, fear not! Instead, determine whether the fear felt (the fear knot), is merely anxiousness, a warning, or simple nervousness. Or is there a real danger, evil, or pain lurking. Once it’s been determined, hopefully stress levels over things one cannot control………but, can manage, will be lowered.

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11/23/2022

CHOICES

Which do you enjoy more……….having choices or exercising available choices? Contemplating choices and accessing the foregoing provides major insight. Specifically, whether you merely enjoy the fact that you have choices or it is more important how you choose, is relevant. Moreover, your feelings exceed having or exercising choices.

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10/20/2022

Reality Check

Reality. Reality check. How does one go about doing, conducting a reality check? What does it mean? First, perhaps what is real must be explored before “checking” it can be considered and/or done.

According to Webster’s (dictionary) reality is the quality of being true to life; in reality, in fact; actually. The root word real means 1) existing or happening as or if in fact; 2) authentic, genuine; Note: #3 omitted; 4) existing objectively.

The word “fact” (a thing that has actually happened or is true) was mentioned, which is reportedly in accordance with fact; not false. Based on the aforementioned, each of the words (real(ity), fact, and true) are reflective of the other. Adding to the mix, or fuel to the fire, is the most subjective element — the individual perspective.

In that the human element is an integral part of every reality check, be aware of emotions and feelings that may cloud your perspective. Moreover, albeit facts may be true—not false, “reality” may vary from person to person, from situation to situation. Even so, reassessing your thoughts, decisions, actions , and your truth can possibly enhance and heightened the likelihood of you securing desired results.

Thus, reality checks are an essential part of growth, of self-reflection!

Enjoy the journey!

10/20/2022

Unapologetically Yourself

What does it really mean to be “unapologetically” yourself (BUY)?

To be apologetic means “showing realization of and regret for a fault, wrong, etc.” — per Webster’s . Thus, to be unapologetic is having no regard or regret for being at fault, wrong, etc. Taking it a step further, it is living one’s life without regard or regret about being you, yourself — totally.

The foregoing can be liberating but it can also be detrimental. Upon examination it is the flip sides of the same coin. When you chose to BUY, you are being real, genuine, and HOT (honest, open and transparent). LIBERATING! Right? However, in order to progress and move forward as adults often times you may need to exercise restraint, tolerance and temperance. Otherwise the tendency is to get stuck; become stagnant; and to stop growing. DETRIMENTAL! Right? Being able to compromise, cooperate, and collaborate enables individuals to consider, create and conquer!

So, when should you BUY? The best and most appropriate time is after the situation has been unemotionally assessed. Accordingly, then you can decide when and where it is totally appropriate to BUY!

In the meantime, enjoy the Journeys!

09/20/2022

Who Are YOU?

When the foregoing words are read or heard, often the once popular “CSI” television show comes to mind—it was the catchy theme song! Yet, when “The Who” recorded the song, the exposure and recognition garnered probably exceeded the bands’ expectations.

Again, who are YOU? More importantly will YOU too exceed expectations? Moreover, who do YOU desire to be? Think about it, any and all things are possible if and when YOU remove limitations.

At the end of the day, who YOU are is all up to YOU!

Enjoy the journey!

08/16/2022

Next

The word “next” implies something will follow; or at least the expectation of something to follow. For example, plans are made for the next day, the next week, the next month and/or year. Further, people are often more excited about “the next” than about what may be happening at the time. Why is this?

Does this occur because one is no longer content in the state in which they are presently found? Or, is it because one has accomplished the goal, completed the task? Or, maybe it is best compared the feeling of anticipation after ordering your meal. Specifically, the first course/appetizers can not arrive fast enough before the mind is contemplating the drive/ride home. Then, while enjoying the bread, salad and/or starters, you are already anticipating the main course and dessert! Life is similar in that individual’s tend to fail to enjoy the moment before looking forward to the next thing.

Today, take time to enjoy the moment before moving to the next!

Enjoy the Journeys!

07/21/2022

Now what?

There inevitably comes a time in one’s life when the proverbial question is asked, now what? The aforementioned, in contrast to its counterpart—what now?—does not suggest or imply something sinister or menacing. Instead, the former, what now suggests a dream fulfilled, a goal accomplished, and/ or a desire achieved!

Thus, when accessing growth (which must be planned), take inventory on which side your dreams, goals and/or desires land. Are you looking at “now what!” or “what now?”? Leaning in to one of my favorite quotes by Wayne Dyer “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” Accordingly, it truly is all in one’s perspective! A perspective that impacts one’s outcomes.

Take away: It is all up to you/me to decide and then follow through. How situations, circumstances, and things are seen and subsequently handled begin at the point of perception!

This is truly your journey, enjoy it!

06/09/2022

ACTion

ACTion — agree to do, drive — a noun. The foregoing word has many definitions — it is also deemed “the doing of something, motion or operation; an act, thing done”. Furthermore, in a different context the word ACTion encompasses and addresses “behavior.”

In the former capacity, ACTion describes movement (motion); thus, it requires taking steps to complete a task(s), to implement a plan(s), and/or acquire a desire(s). In addition, ACTion describes motion or operation (the process, method). Accordingly, taking action involves utilizing a process, a method of doing something or the plan in motion. Lastly, delving deeper, the word ACTion as indicated above depicts behavior; which again involves and requires movement. Behavior is the external manifestation of thought; it is our thoughts in motion. Therefore, one cannot think about something that requires ACTion without associating with it some form of physical movement! ACT; do something! MOVE; even if the plan is not formalized! We are what we think, we become what we do!

As Nike so adequately coined the phrase, “just do it!” It really is as simple as that; ACTion is required! Moreover, the likelihood of remaining inACTive increases with the passage of time; inevitably, resulting in procrastination. However, we can agree to do, legs are added to our thoughts and move! Take ACTion…Now!

Enjoy the jOURney!

05/26/2022

VISION ✅

The word vision, like most, has more than one meaning. It can describe what is seen; how well it is seen; or the ability to see beyond. The former depicts what the brain interprets for the eyes — visual perceptions. Ultimately, said visual perceptions lead to opinions, thoughts, and beliefs which result in actions, behaviors, and habits.

Moreover, what we see (visual perceptions) become, morph into perspectives. Our perspective, is then impacted (either positively or negatively) by how well we “see” something. In essence, is there something physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually effecting our vision? Physical Example: I did not know I needed glasses until I realized although I could see I was not seeing things clearly. Accordingly, there are times we may not see situations, circumstances, or people clearly; the foregoing could happen for various reasons. Specifically, we may not have all the relevant facts; or not be in a good space emotionally/mentally/spiritually; or there is something impeding our view — to name a few. The main takeaway is we may NOT be seeing things clearly!

Lastly, vision is the ability to see beyond — visionary. It is to have the capabilities to tap into the creative, intuitive, imaginative parts of our beings. Reality, our current, yet ever changing world demonstrates mankind’s vision to see beyond what exists; we are literally surrounded by visionaries! Most important, there is a visionary, the capability within each of us to see beyond; it is just waiting to be unleashed!

In that, we are what we think, and what we think is based on what and how well we see things, it is imperative that we check our vision! Just as glasses and eventually lasik surgery restored my vision physically we are all in a position to apply corrective measures, as needed!

When was your last vision check?

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05/13/2022

I/2 Full?

Do you see a glass as 1/2 full or empty? The manner in which you conceptualize the thought, whether you put the positive (full) before the negative (empty), or in reverse, speaks volumes!

It is a known fact you can neither control nor foresee what happens in life, however, you can control how you respond. Think about it, what is your natural inclination when the unexpected occurs? Do you first see obstacles/problems (glass 1/2 empty) or challenges/opportunities (glass 1/2 full)?

There is a saying, when life gives you lemons make lemonade. This is easier said than done. In order to make lemonade (glass 1/2 full) out of lemons (glass 1/2 empty), other essential ingredients are needed; basically, water and sugar (a sweetener). Without these two ingredients, the sourness of the lemons will not change. Amazingly, just as water and sugar turn sour lemons into a heavenly elixir, dilemmas can also be altered. Consider adding a calm mind and spirit, with a more positive (less negative) approach. By merely changing what you can control most negative situations become palatable and manageable.

The next time you are facing a obstacle (negative), view it as a challenge (positive). You might be surprised at the difference it will have on situations and circumstances!

Moving forward, hopefully, you will see the glass 1/2 full rather than 1/2 empty!

Enjoy the jOURney!

05/04/2022

ReMIX

The word remix evokes thoughts of possibilities, enhancement — improving; things being different but the same. In music, when the MC or the deejay yelled “ReMIX” the song was taken to a new level! Albeit, the lyrics, notes, and/or beat remained the same, the remixed song had a different tempo, instruments added or removed, and the beat noticeably manipulated. Nonetheless, the words remained the same. Although the voice may have been enhanced (reverberated), slightly altered (falsetto, bass, alto or soprano), the message, the meaning remained identical.

There are times when it will not be necessary to change directions or alter your goals. Rather, a remix, is warranted. Accordingly, the ability to move forward does not always require a new plan, altering goals and/or dreams. Wayne Dyer stated “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” In essence, altering your perspective can bring about the desired results. Is the glass half full or half empty?

Thus, as you face your next roadblock, change how you look at the situation, task and/or dilemma. In addition to accomplishing your goals changing ones perspective
also broadens and expands ones frame of reference.

It is never too late! Is it too late, never! ReMIX