Private D. Wears

Give Your Child the Tools to Recognize S*xual Abuse Talk to kids about their bodies and empower them to speak out.

Beyond 'Good' Vs. 'Bad' Touch: 4 Lessons To Help Prevent Child S*xual Abuse Twenty states now require sexual abuse prevention education as early as preschool. Educators say it's up to adults to know the signs and symptoms of abuse — and teach behaviors that could prevent it.

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Body Safety Fridge Magnet - New Design! 5"x 7" indoor magnet. A great way to keep a reminder for family & visitors! Our Body Safety Rules 1. We use the correct names for private parts. 2. No one is forced to hug, kiss or be touched - we are the bosses of our bodies! 3. We don't look touch, or play games with other people's privates. 4.…

And teach them to LOVE, RESPECT & PROTECT their body!! ❤️😀😉

A little independence goes a long way!

Excellent info!

I get this topic may be controversial, sensitive, icky etc but it's a serious conversation and concept to discuss and one I believe all families should be discussing.

One of the biggest issues in our house at the moment is the concept of body sovereignty. I've noticed a few times lately when someone has gone to hug my girls without permission, my daughters can sometimes look uncomfortable. So after some research and a fabulous Tedtalk by my dear friend Rebecca Hopkins, we've been talking about how it feels to say "could you please ask for permission before you hug/touch me?".

I asked my youngest Lila if she'd feel comfortable saying this sentence and she replied, "No. I worry that I'll hurt someone's feelings even though I don't want them to hug me."

She also said, "It's weird when some adult who's so much bigger then you, forces a hug on you. I know they think they're being nice but they're so big, and they take up so much space already. And then they take up my space."

I asked her how it made her feel.

Her response, "Small".

And then she said, "But if I said 'no' to a hug, I would feel guilty that I'd hurt their feelings".

I felt CRUSHED. Small or guilty? Are they really the only two options our girls (and boys) face????

The rate of sexual abuse is on the rise which is kinda shocking considering the recorded statistics are already 1 in 3 females.

Teaching our children to EXPECT permission, and to give consent before being touched is one of the greatest gifts we can teach our kids. But it also means that we have to accept that our children may reject our own hugs and kisses of affection.

But we need to teach them that they own their bodies.
Not us and certainly not any of their family members, including their grandparents, cousins, stepfamily, siblings etc (remembering that most abusers are known to the child).

We need to teach our children, boys and girls, what consent means. Consent isn't just a 'yes'.

Consent is a SOBER and ENTHUSIASTIC 'yes'.
ANY sign of hesitation is not consent.

The age of experiencing sexual assault between peers is also getting younger. Recently I heard about a 13yrs girl being assaulted (he put his hand inside her knickers without consent) by their 13yrs male classmate during their science class. She never spoke up because she didn't want to get the boy in trouble and she didn't want to disrupt the class.

We are teaching young children to put their own needs and rights aside in order to not upset others. And this is dangerous.

Teaching our kids to expect permission, by always asking permission first is the best way to teach our children what appropriate touch is. And that they have a voice and they have the right to use that voice!

And it works both ways. They'll know what to expect of others but they will also know how to treat others and respect others too.

Always ask your child for a hug. And always wait for a response.

1. Let other people know that you practice consensual touch so that they don't force themselves on your children. While it may be a playful tackle or a big bear hug, teaching our children that their personal space can be invaded by anyone bigger than them at any time, teaches them that their body does not belong to them but is at the mercy of anyone around them. This above all things is detrimental to our daughters.

2. Let your kids know that they can say hello and just make eye contact, give a high five or a hug - that it is their choice.

3. Be prepared to rock the boat because other adults who think they do have the right to assert their physicalness on anyone WILL argue how ridiculous this is and how political correctness has gone too far.

4. Do some research and back yourself up with stats, figures, facts and links to Tedtalks about these topics so that you can send those that oppose you useful information to educate themselves on.

5. Be prepared to stop inviting people over if they continue to choose to ignore your boundaries and the physical boundaries of your children.

6. Talk to your children about permission-based touching and empower them to own their bodies. Give them the correct names to label their body parts so they grow up being comfortable within their bodies and confident in talking about their bodies.

7. Have open conversations about this with your kids. Ask them how it feels when people hug them when they don't want to be hugged. Ask them if they've ever felt uncomfortable when someone has hugged them. Listen to their feelings and respect them.

Start teaching body safety (private training) early and often! It’s easy to start the conversation with Private D Wears!!

We need to talk to our children about “strange behavior” not just “strangers”!

Pedophiles Groom Both the Child and the Family Up to 95% of child sexual abusers are male ( Bagley, 1995 ). They can be single, married and have families of their own. Up to 1/3 of reported offenses are committed by adolescents ( Bagley, 1995 ). 95% of abusers will be known to the family ( Child Protection Council, 1993 ). They will be a trusted