07/13/2026
AITA for hanging up the phone on my Mom after she didn’t invite me to a brunch that all my immediate family were at… because they “didnt have enough food”
I (24F) moved out of my childhood home one year ago. My sister (20F), who we’ll call E, still lives in our family home with our parents. I’ve been in the same relationship for several years, and always brought him around to dinners and beach days, birthdays and yardwork days. My sister however has been dating her boyfriend who we’ll call B for several months. I haven’t met him yet. I expressed interest in having a double date, or at least meeting the guy face to face. My sister always had something going on where that couldn’t be made to happens
Today while at my parents house my mom asked me if I could “guess” what they did that morning. To my surprise she said they had had B over for brunch. I was shocked as this hadn’t happened before, and they hadn’t told me anything about it. I asked why they hadn’t let me know about it since every other member of my immediate family was there. My mom genuinely seemed confused why I wasn’t excited to hear all about this brunch, and I told her she should’ve called me. My mom got defensive and stated she “didn’t think I’d want to come” (despite me clearly expressing interest previously) and that they “didn’t have enough food in the house” to invite myself and my partner for brunch as well. A ridiculous excuse, as my family are well off AND live 3 minutes from a grocery store. My sister, E, even started to make excuses about how she thought I might’ve “been sleeping” as I work shift work. I asked why no one had even texted me and they had nothing to say.
This is the third time I haven’t been included in distinct immediate family gathering or events since moving out of the house. And every time I bring it up there is some excuse, and eventually someone will bring up the fact that I “don’t live there anymore”.
This time I told my parents they were excluding me whether intentionally or not, and I was sick of it. They called me dramatic and said I should get over it. I walked out the door and drove home. They called me three times on the way home, I picked up the third call. It was my mom calling to say “just wanted you to know we love you very much”, I told her I loved her too but they keep making me feel like I’m not a part of the family. She dismissed my feeling entirely and l told me that it’s “not about you”. I hung up the phone on her.
AITA for telling hanging up the phone on my mom? Should I forget about it and move on?
