08/13/2026
I've been coming back to Marisa Peer's work again lately.
I got to spend time with her when we were filming for the movies I'm producing, and she is one of those people whose whole presence tells you she means every word she says.
Marisa has spent thirty years helping people rewire the beliefs that quietly run their lives, and her teachings hit differently for me because so much of my own story was about coming out of depression and addiction and learning to actually like myself.
Today I want to share five of her insights that still shape how I live, lead, and coach.
1. "When you know that you are enough, you give the whole world permission to also know that you are enough."
For years I performed my way through life, hoping the next win would finally make me feel like I mattered. It never did. The shift came when I stopped chasing enough and started living from it, and the people around me started standing taller too.
2. "More than anything else we need connection and we avoid rejection."
Marisa traces so much of our pain back to this one fear. When I was in my addiction, I was starving for connection and terrified of being seen at the same time. Naming that fear out loud was the beginning of it losing its grip on me.
3. "Form a partnership with your brain, communicate with it better."
I used to treat my mind like an enemy I had to fight every morning. Learning to speak to myself the way I'd speak to someone I love changed the entire tone of my inner world.
4. Your subconscious beliefs shape your outer reality.
The story you tell yourself in the quiet moments becomes the life you build. When I changed the story from "I'm too broken for this" to "I'm here on purpose," everything downstream started to change with it.
5. Rapid change is possible.
I used to believe healing had to take decades of slow, painful work. Marisa's whole life is proof that the mind can shift fast when you go straight to the root instead of circling the surface.
These five insights remind me that so much of the work is less about fixing and more about believing something new about who I already am.
If this lands for you, let me know, and tag Marisa Peer to thank her for the work she puts into the world.