Feminist burnout coach, helping professional women take a step back and enjoy their lives by healing exhaustion and burnout.
How does this impact your schedule? And stress levels?
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06/04/2026
Picture the following:
Your document is already attached to your email, everything has been checked, and you’re ready to hit “send,” but your brain says “WAIT! Just open it up one more time to make extra sure everything’s fine.”
So you open it, re-read it , maybe rephrase one small thing. And you go to send it again. But you still can’t do it!
Before you know it, it’s 7 pm when you were hoping to leave at 5:30. And you are about to send the same email that was ready to go 90 mins ago.
That compulsion to keep editing is your brain trying to protect you from feeling terrible in the future. The logic goes: if someone catches a mistake, I will feel less terrible if I can tell myself I worked to exhaustion and I did everything I could.
Sadly, overworking as insurance against shame doesn’t work. If you are used to feeling terrible when you make mistakes, that pattern continues no matter how many extra hours you put in. Your brain will just find a different thing to berate you about (“you should have been more careful earlier,” “you should have worked three extra hours instead of one,” etc.)
The way to get out of that cycle is not by working more, but by teaching your brain to not be terrible to you NOW. So that it won’t be terrible to you in the future either, even when a mistake does happen.
That’s exactly what I’ll be walking you through at my upcoming free webinar:
Too Perfect, Too Nice, Too Tired
June 25th at noon ET
Can’t make it live? I’ll send you the recording.
Register at restovergrind dot com / webinar (or click the link in my bio).
Do you go through a whole trial in your own head every time you make a mistake? And, if so, where did you learn that?
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Do you do that? And, if so, how does it feel? Lmk in the comments ⬇️
I’ll teach you how to retrain your brain to stop overworking as an insurance, and to start being nice to yourself now! Join me for the free “Too Perfect, Too Nice, Too Tired” webinar on June 25th at noon ET. Registration link is in my bio!
If you are prone to perfectionism, chances are you often don’t see a lot of the options available to you, because your brain is used to only seeing things in extremes.
For instance, if you’re in a stressful job, it might feel like you have absolutely no alternative (short of leaving your job) to being constantly overwhelmed and overworked. Even considering approaching your work differently can feel like a fire alarm in your head, because you equate that with doing a worse job.
The truth is that living with perfectionism is like wearing blinders - there are a lot of other options, you just can’t see them yet. And right now those blinders are not letting you see all the ways in which you can continue doing a great job with a lot less stress and overwhelm.
Let me help you take those blinders off, so you can see all the alternatives available to you. Download the “Getting Out of Perfectionism” video to get started (link is in my bio).
Procrastination is a sign of something else going on in your brain at the moment. And has nothing to do with laziness.
And calling yourself lazy is very counterproductive. It just makes you feel terrible, judged, yelled at. It puts you back into the mind space when your parents were yelling at you about how you need to clean your room. It’s just a helpless space that makes you want to hide under a blanket and not deal with anything.
Not to mention that it’s untrue. Procrastination has many root causes, but laziness is not one of them. And to actually solve procrastination for yourself, it’s important to find out what the root cause is for you!
To learn how to finally fix the cause of procrastination for you, watch the “Getting Out of Procrastination” video (link to watch is in my bio!)
Discipline is not the issue. And fixating on that just wastes time. And it’s unhelpful. And it feels terrible.
When you’re facing a task you’d rather avoid, and you end up scrolling on your phone, or re-organizing your email inbox, or cleaning the kitchen instead, there’s something happening in your brain at that moment that finds the task to be a threat and wants to get you to safety by diverting your attention.
The issue here has nothing to do with discipline!
What we need to do is find out why the task feels threatening to your brain in the first place. Only then would you be able to actually get your stuff done consistently, and without all the delaying, stress, and wasted time.
When you’re ready to finally solve your procrastination, head over to the link in my bio and watch the “Getting Out of Procrastination” video!
A super common misconception people pleasers have is that, once you start healing your people pleasing, you will start being selfish and terrible to others.
The truth is that, when you are used to trying to control how others think of you by doing things for them, your brain is often in a state of panic. What if I said this in the wrong tone? What if they are now annoyed at me?
And when you’re in that state of panic, you can’t see that there’s a lot of ground in between trying to always do what others want you to and being intentionally hurtful.
You need to clear out that layer of panic first, before you can start seeing that being respectful and loving can absolutely coexist with taking care of yourself!
Want to learn how to do that? I bet you do! Check out my “Getting Out of People Pleasing” video, which you can download for free using the link in my bio!
04/29/2026
I want you to think about overworking the same way you think about overexercising. It is very clear how pushing yourself to the brink during exercise is not helpful, because you just end up with an injury and unable to do stuff for awhile.
The same happens with overwork, except the injury is not as obvious, so we just end up plowing right through it.
Here are some symptoms that you might be close to a breaking point at work:
- You feel a knot in your stomach, a weight on your chest, or a freezing sensation in your hands and feet every Sunday afternoon, when you think about starting a brand new work week.
- You feel a twinge of panic every time you hear an email alert come in.
- You wake up at night thinking about all the stuff you have to do
- When you do fall asleep, you have stress dreams about work
- You keep dreaming about a time when you’d be able to leave work and finally be happy
Any of those sound familiar? Let’s get you out of that place of overwork and to a sustainable pace of work where stress and panic are replaced by making progress and having time to rest and enjoy your life. Watch the 3Ps of exhaustion videos that will provide you with very specific steps to make your work life infinitely better! Use link in bio to watch the videos for free.