18/12/2025
During the holidays, it can be especially lonely for many families, particularly those caring for disabled or medically fragile loved ones. This is why inclusion always matters, but it matters even more during this season.
Many friends and family want to be inclusive but are unsure where to start. Here are a few simple, meaningful suggestions for inclusion over the holidays:
• Invite them to gatherings, even if you are unsure they can attend. Being invited matters.
• Ask if there is anything you can do to help make attending easier.
• If they are homebound, ask if stopping by for a short visit would be okay.
• Bring a meal or offer the gift of time. Help with cleaning, shopping, or sit with their loved one so they can run errands or prepare for the holidays.
• If they are coming to your event or meeting you out, plan ahead. Call ahead to ensure the location is truly accessible so no one is trying to rearrange seating after everyone is dressed for the holidays or, worse, arrives at the restaurant or venue and realizes they cannot get their loved one inside.
• Offer a quiet space in your home in case their loved one becomes overwhelmed or needs privacy for diaper changes, medical interventions, or a nap. Social events can be a lot for our loved ones.
• FaceTime or video call to say they are missed and help them stay connected if they are immunocompromised and cannot be around others during sick season.
• Be honest if you or your household has been exposed to flu or other viruses and allow families to decide what feels safe for them.
• Prepare other children ahead of time. Explain why someone may use a mobility device or why someone may not be verbal but still has plenty to say, it just looks different.
Here is a peek into one of VMF’s family celebrations. Look at Oliver, surrounded by his loving family. This is what inclusion looks like.
Sometimes, even with these efforts, families still cannot attend. But knowing they are remembered and included means the world.
The holidays may look different for our families, and that is okay. What matters most is love, respect, and belonging.
