10/07/2026
I sent this message out to my congregation today:
Dear Beth El community,
Sometimes when I sit with mourners, soon after a very close loved one has passed, we discuss the difficult emotions of grief. During the funeral and shiva, their mourning is front and center. Everyone rallies around and comforts them, and they are free to wail and express their grief fully. Then, weeks pass. Years even. The world returns to normal, but the heaviness of grief won’t lift. “How does the world keep on turning, people keep laughing and celebrating, and business returns to usual… when I am still in this much pain?” It can become a whole new layer of grief and alienation from those around you.
Today, on October 7th, many of us feel like those mourners. The horrendous attacks, slaughters, and kidnappings that occurred three years ago today remain vivid in our minds and in our hearts. It hurts perhaps even more when many people around the world say we have no right to mourn. The atrocities of that day and its aftermath have become overshadowed by war and other people’s pain.
I just wanted to acknowledge our sadness today. Whether others around us feel it too, or whether it goes unseen; it is still valid. I see you. And I feel it too. We get to still mourn and cry. Today is a hard day. But remember also that we - the Jewish people - are still here. Hineini. And we share this experience with one another.
יהי זכרם ברוך
(Yehi Zichram Baruch)
- May the memories of the victims of October 7th, 2023 always be remembered for a blessing.
עם ישראל חי
- Am Yisrael Chai - The Jewish People Lives.
With love,
Rabbi Ge**er