Been There Got Out

We’ve been so busy announcing our second, but there’s LOADS to learn about dealing with how to deal with a high-conflict ex in family court!

Comment SANITY for a link to our first book, subtitled, “Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances. 📚

Most people believe that once the divorce is final, the chaos finally ends. With a high-conflict, narcissistic, or unpredictable co-parent, the opposite is often true. As they lose day-to-day control, they learn to control you from afar—through the kids, the money, and the legal system. In this honest, practical conversation, UK coach and psychotherapist Louize Yafai joins Lisa Johnson to explain why the abuse can ramp up after separation, and exactly what to do about it.

Louize knows this from the inside. After a 16-year marriage, she survived severe financial and post-separation abuse, came close to homelessness twice, and relied on food banks while raising three daughters and litigating on her own. Then she turned her pain into power, trained as a counsellor and psychotherapist, and now helps parents navigate the same storm with their dignity intact.

Together they unpack the “Friday Night Bomb”—the email or filing timed to ruin your weekend—and why peace doesn’t come from your ex changing. It comes from learning to trust yourself to handle whatever arrives. You’ll learn how to stop reacting, when not to respond at all, how to protect your legal fees and your nervous system, and why an impartial guide matters when friends and family keep telling you to “just move on.”

✅ WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
✅ Why a high-conflict ex often gets worse, not better, after the divorce is final
✅ What the “Friday Night Bomb” is—and how to stop it from ruining your time with the kids
✅ How to build a “Teflon suit” and respond from a calm, grounded place
✅ The in-the-moment “buffer” to use the second a hostile message lands
✅ Why you should not respond to every lie—and what judges actually care about
✅ How reactivity quietly drives up your legal fees
✅ Why being “coached” by AI can backfire badly in a high-conflict case
✅ How to know it’s time for support—without waiting until burnout

ABOUT LOUIZE YAFAI

Louize Yafai is a divorce, separation, and co-parenting coach with a degree in counselling and psychotherapy. Drawing on her own experience of financial and post-separation abuse—and years of helping men and women face unpredictable, narcissistic co-parents—she specializes in emotional regulation, boundaries, and the practical strategies that help people move through high-conflict divorce with strength and self-respect. She is a contributing author to the #1 best seller “Emotional Alchemy” and to a recent anthology curated with Olympic medalist Fatima Whitbread MBE on overcoming adversity.

Ahhhh, so grand to have a break from the relentless court motions, right?

We often say that legal/litigation abuse is fortunately and unfortunately our specialty. Ten years and dozens of court appearances gave me the best education possible - in the trenches.

THIS is how we start to change the system - by turning the injustice we have experienced into powerful, effective arguments which get judges' attention and compel them to take action - and it starts with taking STRATEGIC OVERSIGHT of your case.

Need support with stuff like this? Let us teach you how to HELP YOURSELF! 💜

If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND with our EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on years of success.

➡️ Comment ALIGN to schedule a free discovery call (Zoom) and check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group. 💪

Who else wakes up full of gratitude to the fact that you are no longer breathing in that kind of air anymore? 😁

But, If it's been years and you're still feeling overwhelmed…

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Are you parenting more with your ex's new partner?

Need help with stuff like this? If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND with our EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on years of success.

➡️ Comment ALIGN to schedule a free discovery call (Zoom) and check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group, and let us teach you how to HELP YOURSELF. 💪💜

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If you need help dealing with your own personal terrorist…

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