06/07/2022
Have You Struggled w/ Boundaries?
Have you ever struggled with setting firm and loving boundaries and actually following through with them?
I remember the days of fearing to claim want I needed all too well.
Can you believe that I actually used to FEAR asking my employers to pay me?! Even if they didn’t pay on time. I used to be scared to ensure that I was being paid for what we agreed upon!
It took me being taken totally advantage of by them (asking & EXPECTING me to do work outside of the terms), for me to realize that what I was actually not honoring my self worth, and not loving myself.
This fear of boundaries was necessary to helping me to learn to use my voice and value my time and energy.
Now that I have some perspective, I can clearly see why people assume boundary setting and follow through is the reason for their struggle.
But the answer is simple.
They’re making the mistake of not upholding their value and worth.
I know that sounds surprising but it’s true.
Having healthy, loving, and firm boundaries are an act of self-love.
A BIG reason people aren’t successful at boundaries is not because other people take advantage of them… it’s because WE TRAIN PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US!
OUCH! I know…
The change happens when you STOP allowing people to treat you as they will and START using your voice to claim your needs… and follow through when they are not honored.
Implementing these changes is the guaranteed way to more self-love, value, worth and getting your needs met.
Why?
Because it doesn’t matter if you have the best heart or intentions, if your boundaries aren’t successful your needs will not be met.
BOUNDARIES work because…
People take you seriously
Your needs will be met
And if not, you remove toxic relationships from your life
The MOMENT you learn how to set boundaries and follow through, things get MUCH easier.
Not sure where to start or how to implement this?
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