09/29/2026
Over the years, I’ve noticed a pattern in the stories people tell about trying to change their health.
They remember the moment.
The diagnosis.
The realization.
The decision to finally do something differently.
But the most important part of the story often comes later.
What happened when motivation faded?
When life became difficult?
When the plan stopped working?
When they slipped back into an old pattern?
I’ve become increasingly interested in those parts of the story.
Not because people need more pressure to “stay on track.”
But because I think we sometimes ask the wrong question.
Instead of asking, "Why can’t I stick with it?"
Perhaps we should also ask: "What would make the next good decision easier to repeat?"
That question has shaped much of my thinking about health, behavior, and sustainable change.
My new essay, *The Moment Is Not the Change*, explores this through Roman’s twenty-year journey—and through something I believe we don't talk about enough:
*Knowing how to return is part of change.*
A turning point can begin a different life.
But the moment itself is only a point.
**Change happens in the trajectory that follows.**
If this question resonates with you, I’d love to hear what you think.
