Minister D. K. Hill Gooden

A prophetic message for the body of Christ...

"The Bridegroom is Coming!"

URGENT MESSAGE!!!

God began speaking to me early yesterday morning. I started writing this message but got distracted at work, so I saved it in my phone's notepad. When I got home last night, the Spirit of God reminded me to post it—but I fell asleep writing what thus says the Lord.

There are sleeper cells among us here in America. I strongly urge every mother: stay in your homes and stay out of the way. Please avoid places with large crowds. You need to be with your children, because a major attack is coming to American soil. Protect your family at all costs.
Every Intercessor, Prayer Warrior, Watchman, Prophet, and Man of Valor, it is imperative that you seek God’s face for direction. Let Him guide your steps—where to go, where not to go, and when to go, when to speak and when not to speak. These protests and public gatherings will become traps for destruction. The enemy wants to stir your emotions and provoke violence.
God showed me that many will be taken to consecration camps in various regions—some surrounded by water and heavily guarded. Inside, there are laboratories where experiments are taking place. They are playing God.
Families will be forced to take a mark to prove citizenship, and many will be separated from their children. People will be categorized based on age, s*x, and religious beliefs. God revealed to me that data has already been collected on some of us from social media. The watchers know who you are. This is why God’s people will eventually need to go off the grid.
Stay out of other people’s business—it’s a setup to get you betrayed and locked up. Even though you want to help, God will specifically show you who to help and who not to. Be still. Be quiet. Don’t share your opinions. Comply and agree with your adversary to avoid wrath. Follow peace with all men. Do not appear aggressive.
Some of these law enforcement officers are not human—they are programmed and possessed, without compassion or conscience. The love of many has waxed cold, says God.
I was deeply grieved by the inhumane things I saw happening to people—especially to those who had lived here for 20 years or more, trying to live a decent life. I wanted to speak out and stand for their rights. But God stopped me and said:
"This is not your fight. It’s not even My fight."
He said this is happening because people refuse to worship Me or acknowledge that I am God. They have placed idols before Me. They worship mammon more than Me. But you cannot serve God and mammon.
Then I heard the Spirit of the Lord say firmly:
“Stay out of the way. Tell My people to PRAY! PRAY! PRAY! Seek My face,” says God.
“Wait for divine instructions. Do not move hastily. Don’t be distracted by the chaos.”
We are in perilous times. You will hear of wars and rumors of wars. You will see signs in the heavens and on the earth. You will be afflicted, and you will faint if you don’t stay in My presence. You will be consumed by anger and rage if you don’t pray and listen to My voice.
“My sheep know My voice, and a stranger they will not follow.”
Follow My voice at all times. Trust no one who does not follow Me.
I am the Lord God. I will never leave you nor forsake you.
Call on Me while I am near, and I will answer you. Seek Me while I may be found.
Meditate on My word day and night.
Fill your lamps with oil—the Bridegroom is coming!
No one knows the day or hour. I will come like a thief in the night. You don’t know when your flight will be—so get your house in order!
Be ready to preach the gospel at all times.
Be instant in season and out of season. Reprove, rebuke, and exhort with all long-suffering and doctrine.
Pray with your children. Cover all children.
The enemy wants your children just as he wanted my son when he was born.
I will pour out My Spirit upon all flesh. Your sons and daughters will prophesy. The wise will dream dreams. I will speak through those dreams and give divine instruction. Satan knows his time is short. He is deceiving many of My people. They have turned a deaf ear to Me. That’s why many will perish—because they rejected the love of the truth that could have saved them.
And for this reason, says God, I have sent strong delusion across the land, so they would believe the lie—because they rejected the truth.
All who take pleasure in unrighteousness will be damned.
⚠️ Warning comes before destruction!
I have warned the children of disobedience over and over again to turn from their wicked ways, but they refuse to listen. They don’t know Me. They don’t hear Me. They have touched My anointed.
Vengeance is Mine, says the Lord. I shall repay.
Then I heard God say:
“Move swiftly. Get in your secret place. I will cover you under My shadow. No man shall harm you. I am coming quickly to gather My flock.”
Again I say, PRAY!

Please avoid large crowds, concerts, games, and parties.
God is sending divine instructions. Seek Him early. Amen.

This is the word of the Lord that He has given me please take heed...

Living A DoubleLife" brings exposure...

When a leader continually falls into sin while preaching the Word of God, there comes a time when it's necessary to sit down. Go back to the altar, seek deliverance, and allow God to restore you. The Bible says, “You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye” (Matthew 7:5). As leaders and believers, we cannot live a double life. God has already declared that nothing hidden will remain concealed.
Title or no title, we will all be judged for our sins—but leaders will be judged more strictly. James 3:1–2 warns us: “Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.”
Leaders carry greater influence. That’s why the Word says, “To whom much is given, much is required.” What we are witnessing in the Body of Christ today—especially among leaders—is truly disheartening. My personal prayer is simple: “Lord, keep me holy.” And He is a keeper, yes He is.
I would rather expose myself than be exposed by someone else—especially with the way leaders and their secret partners are now betraying one another. Man can't cover me—only God can. I don't want anyone to have dirt on me because I’m out here slipping in sin.
Honestly, I can't even pray for some of these leaders anymore because they keep falling into the same traps, living a double life. I’ve chosen to stop listening to them and keep moving forward. At the end of the day, I must work out my own soul salvation with fear and trembling.
I don’t have time to waste worrying about what the next person is doing. Exposing what others are doing wrong in the body of Christ is not my calling. As I see it, they’ve already gone through the Refiner’s fire—God has allowed their sins to be revealed. The Bible says, “Let the wheat grow with the tares,” and in the end, God will do the separating.
We’ve all fallen short of the glory of God, and every day we must crucify our flesh. Who knows—I might make the wrong decision and sin tomorrow. But I’m not supposed to stay in that place. I’m supposed to repent, turn away from it, and not go back.
The problem today is that many leaders have worn out the grace message. Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? No! There’s no more remission for willful sin. At some point, we have to stop deliberately sinning or face the consequences. If that consequence is public exposure—then so be it.
But Lord, when will the body of Christ stop fighting one another and start focusing on winning souls and witnessing to the lost? This is just my take on what’s happening with Brian Carn, Matthew Stevenson, Tiphani Montgomery, Eric Mason, Prophet Lovy, EJ, Abendego, Marcus Rogers, and so many others feuding publicly on social media. It doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong—God is the ultimate Judge.
I don’t pick sides, and I’m not lukewarm. But just like with the Diddy case, all this beef is a major distraction. We need to be preparing people for Jesus’ return and teaching those who may get left behind about the New World Order, the Antichrist, false prophet and the mark of the beast.
All I’m saying is—we have bigger fish to fry. If we truly have discernment and are truly filled with the Holy Spirit, then we’ll know people by their fruit, not their sins, or character flaws.
All of us have a role to play in the Body of Christ. If your calling is to critique and expose, then walk in that—but don’t forget the part that includes deliverance, restoration, and covering one another in love. At some point, we have to go beyond just pointing out the problem and become part of the solution.
Someone has to be mature enough to hold others accountable the biblical way—by going to your brother or sister in private first, not dragging everything to social media. I only expose someone publicly when God clearly tells me they’ve been warned multiple times and refused to repent. Then, and only then, it becomes an open rebuke or a word of correction—in love.
But to call a woman of God a witch without cause is nothing short of slander. That’s not correction—that’s character assassination. And God is not pleased with that kind of behavior, especially when it comes from within the church.
We are called to restore in a spirit of meekness, not destroy with the spirit of accusation. There’s a difference between discernment and dishonor. Let’s not forget it.
What she said was straight from the Bible—read Ezekiel chapter 3. I've warned many people that death was near and that God was calling them to repent and get their house in order. Sadly, I can name several who rejected the warning and came against me—and they did not live long afterward.
God has called us to judge with righteous judgment (John 7:24), not by appearances, but by the Spirit. He is not pleased with what’s happening in the body of Christ. Too many souls are being wounded, and the sheep are going astray because truth is being ignored.
This is not about fear or pride—it’s about obedience to God. When He gives a word, we must deliver it, whether people receive it or not. Their blood will not be on our hands .

Grace and PeaceFamily...

Here's the word God gave me for the Body of Christ...

There are three words that resonating in my spirit...

Prayer, Position and Prepare...

Last Wednesday I had a dream of a Prophet I know. I actually dreamt of this particular prophet twice in one night. The dream was a threefold dream. It was a dream about him and who he is connected to, who he had surrounding him, thier spirit, their location and so on and so Godwanted me to pray for him. It was a dream about me also, in the dream there were two parts that concerned me about myself, my hair came out on the side of my head and I was bald. I put on a hat to cover my head. Also I dranked some water from the faucet and there was some red chemical mixed in the water... God gave me the meaning of the dream concerning him, it was a personal word that God confirmed for me. The part of the dream I was in God let me know what that meant also. Hair represents a womans glory, it also represents her covering. So the bald side of my head meant I was facing a divorce or shall I say losing a covering. The third part of the dream was concerning the people who was going to see this prophet. When I arrived at the program the prophet was preaching at, all of the people who were there were women only. The building was filthy, the women were sitting at a long table near the wall and there in the center of the room was the set up of a podium and stage, but the floors was filled with trash and rollers was everywhere. All I could think of is that I needed to clean the building up because I couldn't stand the filth, and I knew when he came that he wasn't going to preach in that filth. Then I woke up. Both dreams were long and detailed, too much to type. I just wanted to mention some of it...
First and farmost I would like to say that God speaks to me various ways. I am a dreamer, my dreams are very deep and three demensional. When I woke I heard God say again tell my people to Prepare. Last month we had a invasion of ants all over the apartment. If we dropped a crumb of anything sweet, those ants found a way to enter in. They came in a straight line to the garbage can, the bedroom, the living room. I killed ants for weeks. Months prior we had a invasion of fruit flies, and I tried remedies like vinegar and soap but they kept coming, we did not know where they were coming from, we thought they were coming from the drain, but I found a bag of potatoes in the pantry hidden in a box that had been there for months, they were rotten and that's what drew them in.

The ants means to Prepare... The fruit flies meant distraction, contamination, deseases or spoils...

The scripture God gave me relating to the ants is Proverbs 6:6-9

"Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest. How long will you lie there, you sluggard? When will you get up from your sleep? "

Interestingly, the fruit flies are attracted to a rotting fruit, certain vegetables, garbage disposals, they are also drawn to food waste and moist environments. They are most common by the ending of the summer and early fall.Only because they're mainly attracted to extra ripe, and rotting food.

The scripture that relates to the fruit flies is
• Matthew 7:15–20: "Ye shall know them by their fruit. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit".

Matthew 12:33-37: "A tree is identified by its fruit. If a tree is good, its fruit will be good. If a tree is bad, its fruit will be bad".

Some of you follow me on my ministry page, I talk about 14 various ways that God speaks to us... In this case, he spoke to me in my dreams, he spoke to me by the appearance of insects in my home and He spoke to me in prayer through the Holy Spirit.

God is saying to his people to Prepare and Get in Position. What God was showing me about the scripture relating to the ant in Proverbs 6:6-9. He said some of us are lazy, thst we are like the sluggard, staying stuck in one place, in cycles, we won't move. We procrastinates and wait until the last minute to prepare. God is saying to wake up out of your sleep and prepare, don't let anything catch you off guard.

How do we prepare? First we get in the right posture and pray. I don't know about y'all but God told me to pray without ceasing for the next 90 days. He told me to fast and consecrate for the whole month of October. However., I know this word is not just for me, I truly believe this is a clarion call for the entire body of Christ to do the same. Believers we need to turn our faces, hearts, and minds to God... We need to seek Him now like never before. Isaiah 55:6 says "Seek the Lord while He may be found, call upon Him while He is near."
In the year 2025 the Lord says a major war is coming. There will be three types of wars, a war in the heavens, a war among civilians and a war in our government.

God said many of you do not understand why you lost homes, cars and may have had to move back with certain family members. God says he is bringing families back together for a reason. Many of you will need each other in this hour. A great disturbance, confusions and disasters are about to hit America all over. There is a spirit that had been released over the earth that is called the devourer.
In the book of Malachi, the Lord tells Israel “I will rebuke the devourer for your sakes, and he shall not destroy the fruits of your ground; neither shall your vine cast her fruit before the time in the field, saith the LORD of hosts”.
“Devourer” this word in Hebrew is translated as “eater” and it also refers to the locust or caterpillar or something that devours crops. God also gave this scripture to me: Song of Solomon 2:15 "Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes."

So the fruit flies represents multiple distractions. The little foxes represents the small things the body of Christ that is easily distracted by, things that we are addicted to, while the devourer come kill our fruit. Your fruit is your character, your lifestyle, your witness, your relationship with God... The fruits of the Spirit. You must bear good fruit. You must make sure your heart is right and pure to ser God.
Can you hear from God? Have you lost faith? Have you lost hope? Have you allowed pain, distress and finances to shut your spirit down to the point you have become numb? Are you too tired to pray? Are you mentally drained? If so, this word is for you. God wants you to position yourself. He wants you to prepare. He wants you to pray.

Now what are we preparing for?

For many years God has been telling ME TO PREPARE. Since 2015, over 9 years ago he gave me visions, dreams and told me what was coming. What I am saying in this post is nothing new. If you have followed my page I have put up for years to get your spiritual amd physical houses in order. I have many prophetic words telling people to stock up and prepare. I am no where near perfect
I have flaws to work on to. I havem't been totally obedient. But I thank Hod for grace to redeem the time.
God told me in 2015 that a death train was traveling all over the world. I was am a watchman assigned to watch, interceed, and warn certain cities. Back in 2018 I saw thousands of black birds cover my yard and the Lord told me death was going to hit America. He told me about a airborne desease in 2015 and I had dream about the jab, right after I put up what I saw, that's when Covid happened. He told me about blackouts in 2015... I also saw total blackness all over America. I saw hostages in courtrooms, terrorists taking over, and God said that we will experience many attacks & blackouts all over America. Not having electricity will cause alot of foods to spoil, alot of businesses to close, many people will not have access to their money. God also showed me many major cities under Water. I have named several of them in my prophesies. I had a dream of a dock or cruise ship getting hit by missel. God said that the water will be contaminated in many areas that will cause many people to become ill. Don't drink any water unless you have purified it first this is what he was showing me in the dream I had last week.

God said in 2025 there will be a famine coming. There will be famine in the land, not just a famine in the natural for food, but a famine in the spirit for the word of God. Not because the word of God will not be available but because many people are turning away from God, many people God is giving them over to their own lusts, they will be turned over to a reprobated mind. Many people will be seeking other Gods or a new word having itching ears, running to and fro by every wind and doctrine. Some people will be yearning and thirsty for a rhema word, many people will wonder where is God. Prices of food and gas will increase in many areas. Also be careful of purchasing certain meats. We must constantly pray over our food...

God told me the dream I had where the women were sitting in a filthy building waiting on the prophet to come in. He said they all were seeking a prophetic word for a husband. The rollers on the floor were all pink, they represented a item to enhance their beauty, but their beauty was corrupted. Some of these women was full of hidden lust, deceit, witchcraft and uncleanliness, but others were just off course. Their fruit was corrupted, spoiling or not in right standing with God. They had no coverings, neither did they trust God.. And I was standing in the midst of these women and I was losing my covering, I was uncomfortable because it was so dirty and I automatically wanted to clean up the mess. After I noticed my hair was gone on one side, I put on a hat and immediately left the building, I went to the hair store and fixed my hair. God told me that he was my covering first. He wants his people to know he has you covered but we must position ourselves, we must go through a cleansing and we must trust that he will provide for us. Also as it pertains to hair loss and rollers on the floor God said be prayerful of the hair products you buy. Some products are deliberately causing your hair to fall out and causing illness in the body. Pray before buying any hair products.

I put up a prophetic word about Sonya Massey a month or so ago, and God told me that this type of behavior from law enforcement will become the norm. NC will be exposed for the crimes they have covered up. If we do not pray and go into heavy warfare there will be alot of injustice, unsolved murders and systemic racism. The enemy plan is to turn back the hands of time... The year 2025 will be a year of much bloodshed because Satan is trying to speed up bible prophecy because he knows his time is short but God is still in charge. Some areas will be protected by prayer but God told me to warn his people in 2015 that a war will happen. Civilians will be not only fighting within America with each other, there will be curfews, because of outages, robberies, burgalory and violence will increase. Other countries are waiting on their cue to strike us. God said to tell his people to not panic, not fear, not to go into a rage but pray for direction.

Remain prayerful and calm. If you live by the sword, you will die by the sword. The world is not ending, bible prophecy must be fulfilled, however, again God is still in charge. He will not do anything that will take us by surprise. God warns his people before any destruction happens. He always reveals his secrets to his servants the prophets. God says to prepare your households to live off the grid. Get the necessities that you'll need if you don't have electricity, or gas to go to stores, or have acess to money, also buy the items you'll need for illness. Build up your first aid kits. Buy barbecue grills, solar generators, solar flashlights, radios and dry foods that will last a few months.

The spirit of God said to me to tell believers to turn your face to the wall and seek God face. Stop depending solely on your pastors and others to pray for you only, but pray for yourselves. Cry out to God for yourselves. Don't be lazy. Stop being distracted about other people business, work on your soul salvation. The Lord says don't be distracted by the exposure of celebrities and leaders. Your idols must fall, many giants will fall, because many people who knew God once but are misleading God people now are about to fall. We will see many crisis, natural disasters after natural disasters. The judgement of God has already hit many counties, cities, regions and countries, but his wrath has not come. God is giving his people grace to Prepare for his coming. His spirit will not always strive with man...

If I forgot anything God told me I will add later, I will allow this word to sit up here for a day or two before I log off for good. I did not write any of this down before tonight. I remembered it off the top of my head. This is why it took me so long to post, I ask God to bring it all back to my remembrance. The HolySpirit kept promptimg me to write this since last week but I was mentally drained and distracted. This is why I know I got to fast and pray because this word is for me first... I got to get all that God has for me and not let the enemy take me off course. Pray for my strength in the Lord and I will be praying for many of you who asked me to stand in the gap for you. God Speed!

What bothers me about believers, not so called Christians, but true believers you seem to forget you are Spirit Beings, you are not of this world. You are triume beings who is created with- Spirit, Soul and Body... There were many fallen Angels/spirits. Each spirit has names given to them. And just because you have not read about them or seen them, it does not mean they don't exist. There are billions of demonic spirits that you all have yet to learn about. Because you haven't studied your enemy, his tactics or how he operates he will always be one step ahead of you. And you will be ignorant when it comes to his devices and spiritual warfare because you are not walking in the spirit. You are trying to feed off of others when God has said to you, I am a Spirit and they that worship me, must worship me in spirit and in truth. You must be filled with the Spirit of God to stand.

Not all Christians are True Believers. Let me say that again, Not all Christians are True Believers. This is why they do not understand the realms of the spirit. They believe in too many things that God did not say, the traditions and doctrines of men has them stuck in the fleshly realm. God told John who was thrown on the Island of Patmos to come up hither, I want to show you a Revelation. You have to go higher in God in order to receive certain revelations, you cannot be afraid of spirits.They are all around us. When I see the numbers 444... I know God is talking to me about 4 particular things I must pay close attention too, (one) is Death and The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, (two) is Time & Prayer, the 4 prayer watches, (three) is Signs and the 4 Seasons and the 4 corners of the earth which represent direction, and (four) is the 4 elements of warfare that I must pay attention too such as the spirits of the (Air), the spirits of (Fire), the spirits of the (Earth), and the spirits of the (Waters)... If you do not pray and walk in the spirit, you will be defeated and deceived by spiritual wickeness in high places.
Yesterday when the global tech outage happened, so many of you do not know spiritually it was a test of what's to come... This is why we as believers must Study the word of God, pray to God daily and seek his face for guidance and direction, because some of you will be out of place when this attack occurs. God has shown many of you the plans of the enemy in certain areas of the world. You are the watchmen of your cities and the territory that you reside in. You must get in the spirit, and hear what the Spirit of God is saying in this hour. You do not want to miss your assignment or have anyone blood on your hands... Stop fighting each other, because our weapons of warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds; (2 Corinthians 10:4) says this. We are not fighting against flesh and blood, we are fighting against spirits that are attached to people and possessing people to do evil acts. Put on the whole armour of God so you will have strength to stand up against the wiles of the devil. If you are doing what the world is doing then you may just be another casualty of war because you are allowing what 1 John 2:16 says: "For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world." God want us to be different, he want us to to be set apart, he want us to be a light in a world that is full of darkness. We are a city that sits on a hill that cannot be hid. We are the salt of the earth. We give the earth seasoning and meaning. Without true believers interceeding I don't believe no one would survive. God himself says he has to shorten the days for the very elects sake. If God does not shorten the number of those days, no one will be saved” is a verse from the Bible, Matthew 24:22. The verse continues by saying, “But those days will be shorten because of those whom God has chosen” You better make sure you are chosen. Because the pressures of life will increase and some Christians are already denouncing their faith in God because they have no root. They want what they want, and they don't understand why God is not giving them what they desire, so they stop believing in him. God is not a Magician, he doesn't give us everything we desire or wish for especially when we are walking contrary to his word, disobedient and living like the world. There is a spiritual war going on and if you all don't know you are Supernatural Beings and use the power and authority that God has given you, then you will remain asleep walking in cycles. I pray that the sons of God Wake Up and take your Dominion back! You are seated in heavenly places and God is saying Come Up Here let me show you what will come to pass! Be blessed! Prophetess Debra Hill and I approve this message!

You know sometimes I feel like when I seriously try to talk to people about my perspective on certain things and if it differs from theirs, they don't listen. People don't listen to understand where you are coming from, because they always want to be right about how they see things, they will only listen to respond. Why, because they are already offended because you are not in agreement of their perspective or they may feel like you should just agree with what theu are saying. I know everybody is not the same, and that everybody handle things differently, but there comes a point in life where we should not wear our feelings on our shoulders and get offended by everything people say and do. You set the tone for your life and how you view things, if you walk up to people talking loud and your energy is off, and although you may have goid intentions and mean well, people aren't going to recieve you because of your tone and body language, because you don't hear yourself and not what others feel. Yes people are entitle to express themselves and say how they feel about something, but if you assume you know what a person is going to say before they say it, and you cut them off, you aren't a good listener, you are a person who is not only rude but you like to argue your point across and you aint trying to hear nobody else.
I have learned in life to not purposely misunderstand people, because I want to hear what they are saying to me, because there are many sides to one story. I don't express how I feel to others when they are talking loud or upset because energy transfers and I choose not to match people energy anymore. I avoid negative energy, if you don't want to talk to me like a mature adult to understand where I am coming from then why do you care about my opinion. Some people think you are talking behind their backs about them so they don't trust you or your opinion anyway, but before you assume people are talking bad about you, you should go to them and try to understand where they are coming from. I am learning to keep my mouth close. Because I am not always right, I may say some things that are not professional, not what you want to hear or I may not be in agreement with you. Alot of times I will play the devil advocate just to get a person to see things from a opposing perspective. I try to meet people where they at because I know people don't think like I do, but most of the time I'm trying to bring people in a place of maturity, peace and unity. But I have learned that you can't unify or connect with a person who is angry, always frustrated, always argumentive or complaining or feed off of gossip. And some people don't always value your opinion. If you always repeat what you heard or what someone said about someone else then you are the messy person. Some things you got to learn to keep to yourself or only tell that one person you can confide in that you know it is not going anywhere. But when you are always talking to (everybody) about what you heard or what's bothering you, you will tend to be a person who cannot hold information, handle preasure, or conflict. You will not be a hoid leader if you cannot keep things to yourself, leaders don't cause discord. The devil likes conflict and confusion, he likes breaking up friendships and relationships because he does not want unity. If he knows you can't be trusted with a secret, he will tempt you to talk about the very person you say you got their back, behind their back. Because you are too afraid to talk to them about what is bothering you. Maybe you won't talk about what is bothering you because you are not ready to listen to what others got to tell you, because you hate to be corrected or shown something from a different perspective, because you always view things one way. So when you walk through life only viewing things one way and not multiple ways you will never GROW IN LIFE because you will only judge things by your experiences and not the way God will judge a matter. My point is, God allows certain things to happen to you in life to change you, not others. He will handle others, he just want you to focus on you, on how you respond to issues. You may say you don't care about what others say, think or do, but you really do because your tone and body language will speak before you open your mouth. So learn to let things go, learn to forgive and give people chances because God gave you a chance, but never be anybody fool... Last but not least, listen to people to understand them, don't hear them and cut them off as if what they are saying is not important. And stop taking everything so personal... We all have our days but don't apply everything to yourself because it is not always about you.