11/14/2022
Hello lovely’s, I have a busy week ahead of me but wanted to post some thoughts I’ve been having.
If you have someone who loves you, is loyal, understanding and trusting of you, don’t waste it or abuse it. So many people I know have been in horrible relationships and when they finally get someone good they self sabotage and ruin it because they aren’t used to it. They blame the partner for their actions when in fact their partner has been loving and kind to them. Make sure you don’t hurt the one who loves you because karma will come back to you. If you treat the person you who loves you like you don’t love them back, prepare for one day to be in love with someone who does the same. All that hurt you caused them will come back ten fold.
Secondly, a friend mentioned this to me when discussing relationships. Be careful of whom you take advice from. I have seen what could have been amazing relationships end from influence or friends or family members. Some people will never let go or want you to grow even if it will cause you happiness because that means their life will change. It is not your job to keep them happy or loved, it is your job to love and grow into a strong independent woman or a healthy strong man. Taking advice from loved ones can often times cause you to make the wrong choice because they are biased in their love for you and can’t see the other side of it. They want you in the same situation you have always been in so their situation doesn’t change, but my lovely’s, how will you ever grow from that.
This one is especially for my ladies, stop being stubborn. If a man is trying for you, appreciate that man. So many men try until they get what they want, other men get want they want and will do anything to keep it. How many guys do you know have only wanted to sleep with you and make you a number, compared to the guy who wanted to love you and tell you you’re beautiful even on the days you felt the lowest. Stop holding grudges if you have a good man or woman by your side. Stop believing in fairy tales and realize a man who is trying to make things better, make you happy, make you comfortable and feel loved is the best man to have. Nobody is perfect. So don’t expect perfection from anyone.
To the men, realize a good woman makes mistakes. If she loves you, appreciate her, love her back. Don’t clam up and put up walls. It’s okay to be vulnerable and it’s okay to tell her your feelings. You have to be open with her. The more you clam up the more you push away a good woman. And you will learn never push away someone who loves you because sometimes you get what you asked for, them to be gone. Going to the bar every weekend will not help your relationship either, if you are choosing to be drunk instead of building a home with her expect to one day make your drinking about her and what you lost. If you have someone trying to make you a home, keep you warm, cover you with blankets when you’re sleeping, hold or touch you in some form when you’re upset, hold your hand even when they are upset with you or tell you they love you or even sending you paragraph messages when they know they should but they can’t go a day without loving you, appreciate it, one day it could be gone and you will miss every second and regret not doing better. A lot of people are going to cross your path in life, but we are lucky to have one that has good intentions for us and love us with all their heart. Stop being selfish and love your partner to the best of your abilities.
My last piece of advice is never go looking for something better if you have something good and amazing already. It’s when you do that you fail miserably and miss what you had. You miss that person taking care of you, bringing you meals when you’re hungry, holding you at night. Even the attention of someone who just wants to call you, get a text, someone who just wants to spend time with you. Does it make you feel special to have someone love you like that? I bet it does my lovely’s, but make sure you don’t get used to it and think everyone will after them and take that person for granted because if everyone would, why didn’t they before your person.
Be kind my lovely’s, appreciate what you have, love is beautiful and we must remind ourselves of how lucky we are to have it. So many people want it and never get the chance. There is a saying, is it better to have loved and lost or never have loved at all. The awnser is to never have loved because truthfully losing someone who loves you that you took for granted will break you and destroy your heart. Sometimes you might feel like you need a change, but often times people live a life of regret after when they go back into the world and realize no one will love them or treat them the way the person they hurt did.
Remember you might have options, but if someone makes you their choice, don’t take it for granted. Especially if that someone has seen you at your worst and still looks at you like they did the day they met you. 💚🤍💜
Trust me lovely’s, if you waste the love of someone trying for you, you won’t get it back the same. Send that text, make that call, put in effort and show them you love them.
Okay my lovely’s I have to go. Next time I’m available to post it will be a serious post and the opposite of this post. It will be over something personal to me, domestic violence. Even thinking about speaking on it starts to trigger me and I know it’s hard but I want to be able to help any woman (or man) in a situation where they are being abused. I will be busy for awhile but I will post it and I will help if anyone get reaches out. I got away, you can.
That’s all for now my lovely’s. Remember you are strong, beautiful and amazing and I love you.
❤️💜🧡🖤💛🤍💚🤎💙
Xoxo
