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I got together with some old friends recently. As we caught up on our lives, conversation turned to our childhood stories—specifically our childhood traumas.

We shared intergenerational stories of gross neglect, unwanted marriages, unwanted children, emotionally unavailable parents, infidelity, abuse, war, displacement, abandonment. So much pain and suffering.

But despite all that we’ve gone through and all that we carry, healing is possible. There are those that are doing the work to heal and not pass down (or pass down less of) the trauma to the next generation.

I’m encouraged and inspired by all you cycle-breaking friends! You are showing me that no matter what we’ve been through, it doesn’t have to have the last word. 💗
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Posted • We've all experienced these events at some point in our childhood. It becomes traumatic when nobody supports or protects us from it repeating, or even helps us regulate our big overwhelming feelings.

The good news is that the brain can always be rewired. No matter how old you are. Yes it takes an awful lot of practice but eventually if you stick with it, you can unlearn the trauma responses. Start with telling yourself 'It happened a long time ago. It is not happening now. I am safe now.'
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“People are conditioned to see external displays of negative emotion and think, That’s disrespectful! What we should think is, What is my child trying to tell me right now? What does my child need?”

Love this invitation for curiosity.

Read this wonderful article by Deborah Farmer Kris for the Boston globe at https://www.bostonglobe.com/2021/06/22/magazine/anger-lessons-my-kids-im-mad-because-i-am-sad-duh/

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