Wilder Boers Coaching

11/13/2023

Unplugging for Healing: Exploring the Correlation Between Trauma, Addictions, and the Benefits of Reflection

In our fast-paced, hyperconnected world, it's easy to overlook the intricate web of connections between trauma, addictions, and our reliance on technology. Let’s look at the profound correlation between unresolved trauma, the development of both healthy and unhealthy addictions and the transformative power of unplugging from technology to gain clarity and address the root causes of trauma.

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10/30/2023

Soon Night will fall, and Halloween will be upon us. What an ideal time to explore a truly chilling topic: the haunting path of overcoming abuse. The trail to healing from abuse can be a terrifying experience, filled with dark corners, eerie whispers, and ghosts of one's past. Just like the scariest tales of Halloween, overcoming abuse is a journey through the shadows of one's soul, where the monsters are very real. Let's explore the spine-tingling aspects of this journey, from the lingering ghosts of trauma to the eerie isolation survivors may feel.

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10/16/2023

Unlock the Power Within: A Guide to Finding the Resouces Within Ourselves.

In the journey of healing from childhood abuse, trauma, or surviving narcissistic relationships, it is essential to harness the inner strength and resources that lie within us. People have all the resources that they need to make the changes that they want. If we don’t seem to have the resources we need, we can create them. There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states. This NLP presupposition is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the untapped potential within us all...

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10/02/2023

Understanding human behavior and communication is absolutely necessary when it comes to dealing with trauma and abuse. One idea is that "Behavior and change should be examined in the context and environment." In the context of overcoming trauma and abuse or assisting someone through this process, this concept takes on great significance. Let's explore how this principle can guide us in comprehending and aiding individuals facing trauma and abuse.

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09/25/2023

I had an epiphany this morning. In talking with you about healing from abuse and trauma, I have solely been focusing from the point of view of those who have been abused. But what of those who may not have and yet find themselves in a relationship (be it a romantic one or even just a friendship) with someone who has been abused or survived a toxic relationship? How can we support them?

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I had an epiphany this morning. In talking with you about healing from abuse and trauma, I have solely been focusing from the point of view of those who have been abused. But what of those who may not have and yet find themselves in a relationship (be it a romantic one or even just a friendship) wit...

08/09/2023

We all have different ways of expressing ourselves and working through our past traumas. For some it's creation: artwork, writing, or journaling. For others it's physical: giving their all at the gym, running outdoors or blasting music that fits their thoughts and feelings.

Share a piece of artwork, a poem, a journal entry or a story that reflects your emotions or experiences related to your past traumas and how you've been able to express yourself during these times.

07/24/2023

The Journey of Unbecoming

I struggled with self-worth my entire life. Since my earliest memories, I have held beliefs that I wasn't enough. I wasn't smart enough, good enough, feminine enough, strong enough, pretty enough, outspoken enough, quiet enough, happy enough .... enough of this, enough of that, just ENOUGH!

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06/29/2023

There are two sides to every story, and I knew I would be cast as the villain in yours ... just as everyone before me was. "They were crazy", "they were psycho", "They were trash." That's when I realized that my partner was the director and I, simply an actress in a play. Being told what to say, how to act and when to speak.

Now that my audition is over and the spotlight is no longer on me, I look at life a bit different. When I think of that relationship, I can't help but to think of the scene from the Wizzard of OZ where the coward was hiding behind the curtain, trying desperately to keep up his smoke in mirrors act. I think of how awful it must be to live like that. Constantly worrying about being exposed, consistently keeping inventory of the lies told and never knowing when or if it will all fall apart.

That's not the life I want. So cast me as the villain if you must; if it helps you to fill some painful void in your black heart. I will create a new original script and rewrite my own damn story!
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Here is to all the men and woman who have survived a narcissistic relationship and have created a better life in spite of it! To everyone who took all that pain and hurt and turned it into something beautiful! There is a better life out there! Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain ... just move on.

Click the link in my bio if you need help to let go of the past and create the future you deserve.

06/23/2023

The "to-do list" will never end! Working on yourself will never end! ... until it all ends. Take time to enjoy life along the way. Enjoy the process. Find joy in the little mundane moments in life. Someday it will all be over.

06/21/2023

In case you forgot or that previous narcissistic relationship left you thinking otherwise:

YOU
ARE
ENOUGH!