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How do I get my wife to love me again

The problem may be with you trying to get her to love you again.

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[10/13/20]   What if your spouse constantly apologizes but continues to push the same Buttons?

[10/13/20]   You are not going to like this answer. But listen to it anyway.

[10/13/20]   Is it always up to one spouse to instigate sex? Wouldn't it leave the instigator feeling under wanted if they are always having to start the festivities? Here's the definition of instigate: To stimulate to an action or course; incite to do something; set or goad on; urge: generally in a bad sense: as, to instigate one to commit a crime.

Sacred Pause, simply excusing yourself from a conversation when you recognize you're about to be flooded.
Remember there is personalized guidance and coaching available to you. We cannot do this on our own.
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Sacred Pause, simply excusing yourself from a conversation when you recognize you're about to be flooded.
Remember there is personalized guidance and coaching available to you. We cannot do this on our own.
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[10/13/20]   The problem may be with you trying to get her to love you again.

In an interview with someone who shuts down, I asked them to share with me to help me understand what that is like. Please comment below or message the page if you can identify or have insights to add! Remember you're not alone, there is HOPE!
1. What is your trigger? "A perceived conflict or attack."
2. What is your internal language like? " When I get a text, email or phone call from that person I think, OH Crap! There is another....from....and I don't want to deal with it right now."
3. How are you feeling when you shut down? "I feel criticized, condemned and they are always telling me I am wrong and bad mouth me to people I care about."
4. Why don't you engage with that person? "I think no matter what I say, they won't listen, and will not value my thoughts or feelings, so what is the point?"
5. Additional thoughts "I would rather compartmentalize it, get my own responsibilities taken care of, rather than deal with this right now. I would rather sweep it under the rug and hope the conflict goes away. I don't know if I have ever felt safe or knew how to go through conflict feeling safe and heard."

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What does escalation feel like?
It feels like your mind is out of control, negative language is strong, you might feel like you've been attacked and you need to defend yourself or a loved one, like you need to be the one to set things straight. When you find yourself feeling like this, STOP!! Take a Sacred Pause, God is in control! Let go, surrender and breath.

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Heaven is just a prayer away!

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The single greatest predictor of success

A fellow learner wants to know, "What is the single best predictor of whether a couple who goes through your program will make it."

To some, the true meaning of family means a group of people related by blood or ancestry. To others, it has nothing to do with genes and everything to do with love, compassion, and support.

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We have created a family right here and offline, a group of people who love, support and are compassionate with one another, all working towards the same goals of loving their spouse from a healthy place, showing up in a healthy way. You are invited to join us! We have 5 more VIP memberships with 30 minutes of live, one on one, support with Dr. Michael Smalley.
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We have a super exciting announcement!!! Dr. Michael Smalley will be going LIVE on Facebook to answer your relationship questions! Here is where you are needed. Send us your questions on the website www.smalleyinstitute.com or post them below! Remember you're not alone! We are here for you!

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TikTok Sensation: Meet The Idaho Potato Worker Who Sent Fleetwood Mac Sales Soaring

Never give up! Love this!! When things were looking down, he didn't give up and had fun in his challenge! TikTok Sensation: Meet The Idaho Potato Worker Who Sent Fleetwood Mac Sales Soaring

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npr.org Nathan Apodaca, 37, of Idaho Falls, recorded a laid-back video while riding a skateboard downhill and drinking Cran-Raspberry juice. The Internet went wild and streamed Fleetwood Mac.

— LOVE —
A daily choice to be kind, patient, and forgiving whether you feel like it or not.

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Do you have the goal of creating closeness, communication, compassion, patience, joy, peace, openness, and unconditional love in your relationship? Join the club! No really! I mean it, most of us have that goal and that is just one of the reasons we created a support group, a family of people all working towards a better relationship!

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Yes! Never Give up! Never surrender!!

"Life is a journey, things are not solved overnight. It takes time to change." Dr. Michael Smalley

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"Pain is a good THANG! Engage lovingly as conflict is only an opportunity to create a closer relationship and more intimacy." Dr. Michael Smalley

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"For we walk by faith, not by sight." 2 Corinthians 5:7

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Be Kind!!

Oxytocin, the chemical responsible for feelings of love and connection, binds us as human beings.

This #MindsetMoment is about the power of kindness and the chemical reaction we have to acts of generosity.

Have you ever considered what level of learning you're at with marriage, conflict and reactions? If you're brave, feel free to post your thoughts in comments!

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Hey there folks! How about you do something scary - something that could be life changing. Take a risk. Give us a call and let us see what we can do for you. (800) 975-8748

The Lover: Primal Panic Reaction

The Lover: Primal Panic Response
"The goal for all of us when we are feeling betrayed, in difficult relationships, when things are going well is to be this style, the lover." Dr. Michael Smalley

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This is who you want to be if you ever want to overcome the pain of feeling betrayed. If an epic, in-depth online experience is something you’d be interested...

"We need to talk." Possibly the four worst words a runner panic reaction could ever hear! Dr. Michael Smalley
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The Lover: Primal Panic Reaction
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This is who you want to be if you ever want to overcome the pain of feeling betrayed.

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"Bravery is not because you can, it is because God can!" Dr. Michael Smalley

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You should ABSOLUTELY know your own love language as well as your spouse’s and your kids! Gary Chapman does an amazing job helping you figure it out, you can take his free quiz here:
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Early Registration Now Comes with a Gift!

Two for the price of one! Register to earn your Certificate in Marriage and Family Ministry before November 1st and your spouse (or a ministerial team member) is FREE (a $2,396 value!).
Now you both get the benefits of earning a Certificate from GTSS like:
-Confidence and credibility with couples from one of the most trusted names in marriage and family ministry
-Expanded knowledge and skills
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-A deeper understanding of major counseling theories in light of a Christian world-view

This offer expires on November 1st, so don't delay.
Excited to be part of your journey,
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Gary T. Smalley School of Marriage and Family Ministry

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"Isolation and the potential loss of loving connection is coded by the human brain into primal panic response." Sue Johnson author of Hold Me Tight

"We were created for two reasons, to love God and to love others." Dr. Michael Smalley

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"Our greatest desire is connection, to feel loved and to love." Dr. Michael Smalley

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