09/03/2026
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When a child is experiencing separation anxiety, the words we use at the point of goodbye really matter.
Reassurance is important — but phrases such as “there’s nothing to worry about” or “just be brave” can unintentionally dismiss how real the fear feels to them.
The aim isn’t to convince a child that they shouldn’t feel anxious. It’s to acknowledge the feeling while also communicating:
You are safe.
You can cope with this.
There is a clear plan.
And I will come back.
Calm, predictable goodbyes and simple repeated language can help a child gradually build confidence in separation.
And remember — if separation distress is persistent or intense, it is worth exploring what is underneath it, rather than focusing only on the goodbye itself.
My Monday launch post also explains how to obtain the free Bitesize Guide to Separation Anxiety.