11/16/2025
Last year, I was invited to lead a workshop at the WE Connect conference. My immediate reaction? Resistance.
They wanted 60 minutes. All my leadership development workshops are half-day or full-day sessions. I was convinced I couldn't deliver anything worthwhile in just an hour. Honestly, I wished everything I did could be a full day.
Here's the irony: My entire approach centers on helping leaders move beyond monologues. When communication feels like an edict rather than a conversation, it rarely creates the impact desired.
People aren't moved or influenced. Their attitudes and behaviors don't change.
In my workshops, we teach leaders to consider their audience's perspective first, then create messages that land, rather than simply broadcasting what they want to say.
Then it hit me. I was doing exactly what I counsel against.
I wanted to communicate my way, on my terms, without considering what my audience actually needed.
The conference organizers needed a 60-minute session. The attendees needed something energizing and engaging.
So I adapted. I created a one-hour workshop, though I was genuinely nervous.
What if it fell flat?
But I was wrong to worry. While they didn't have time to master a new skill, they connected, laughed, and experienced how storytelling brings us together.
Here's my challenge to you: What are you resisting because it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar?
Maybe you think WE Connect isn't for you, or you feel shy about attending. Question that resistance. Step outside your comfort zone. You'll learn something and connect with wonderful women right here in Happy Valley. But hurry as I know there are only a few seats left: https://happyvalley.launchbox.psu.edu/w-e-connect/
11/16/2025
๐ฌ๐ผ๐'๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ธ. Someone important. Maybe itโs your boss. Perhaps youโre at a fundraiser.
๐ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐โ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฑ. The slides are packed with bullet points as the speaker works through dense data.
You and the people around you are checking phones and wondering whatโs on Netflix tonight.
When the presentation is over, you can't remember a single thing. ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ, ๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ.
๐๐ฐ๐ณ๐ด๐ต ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ, ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏโ๐ต ๐ค๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ข๐ด ๐ด๐ข๐ช๐ฅ. Youโre just glad itโs over.
๐ง๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐๐ฟ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐บ๐๐ป๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป.
Presentations that don't change attitudes. Meetings that don't shift behavior. Leaders talking ๐ข๐ต people.
๐ฆ๐ผ๐น๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป: ๐ฆ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐.
You might be thinking: Why would I take a day out of my overwhelmed schedule for a storytelling workshop?
Because, you'll ultimately save time.
๐๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ข ๐ธ๐ข๐บ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด, ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ด๐ต๐ฐ๐ฑ ๐ธ๐ข๐ด๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐บ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด.
โฌ๏ธ Most of us default to top-down communication.
We tell our audience what we want them to know. We organize facts and logic.
But people don't change their attitudes or behaviors because of data.
If logic and data were so powerful, none of us would smoke. Or overeat. Or binge watch a series until 2 AM. And we could convince our 8-year-old to eat broccoli. ๐ฅฆ ๐ฅฆ
๐ข๐๐ฟ ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐ป๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป. Emotion.
What if you told a personal story instead?
๐ฉ Not one where you're the hero the whole time, but one where you struggled.
When you share that story with honesty, your audience sees their own hardships reflected. Suddenly, they become the person who will also overcome.
Last week, I taught six remarkable women who work for nonprofits in central PA. They need to motivate donors. So they told personal stories about why the work matters to them and the people they serve.
Because when these organizations don't raise the money they need, ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ถ๐ง๐ง๐ฆ๐ณ.
Families are left alone to manage challenges. Women and children remain in unsafe situations. Kids deal with grief alone. People wonder if life is worth living.
But with the right donors?
๐ JUST IMAGINE.
These six women learned how to tell compelling stories that stick. Now, when they stand in front of donors, they'll share stories that make people feel something. ๐
๐ฐStories that make people feel thrilled to donate.
Here's your choice: Keep preparing presentations the same way, getting the same lackluster results.
๐๐ณ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ค๐ฐ๐จ๐ฏ๐ช๐ป๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ช๐ฏ๐ท๐ฆ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ช๐ค๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ ๐ฑ๐ข๐บ๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด ๐ง๐ข๐ณ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐บ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต ๐ค๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด๐ข๐จ๐ฆ.
When you tell a story that moves people, attitudes shift. Behaviors change. Donors give. Teams act. Lives transform.
That's not just better communication. That's leadership.
11/16/2025
Every season unfolds like a drama series, complete with plots, compelling characters, and high stakes.
Your company needs to adopt the same approach to engage your team.
๐ ๐ญ๐๐: ๐๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฃ๐น๐ผ๐
The NFL structures its season as a journey with clear story arcs. There are underdogs rising, dynasties challenged, and redemption stories unfolding.
If youโre a football fan, Iโm guessing you have thoughts about the Chiefs, the Lions, the Rams, and the Colts. ๐
Each game becomes a chapter in a larger narrative that fans can't stop watching.
Your company should do the same.
Frame your quarterly goals as chapters in a larger story.
โข Where are you going or where did you come from?
โข What obstacles are you facing?
โข Are you the scrappy startup taking on industry giants?
Make your team feel like they're part of something building toward a climactic moment, not just another end of the fiscal year.
๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ: ๐ฆ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐น๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐
The league makes stars out of players by highlighting their unique backgrounds and personalities.
Patrick Mahomes is the golden boy chasing dynasty status alongside his coach Andy Reid.
Travis Kelce became a crossover celebrity who brings personality (and Taylor Swift).
Tom Brady was the ultimate protagonist as the underdog sixth-round pick who became the GOAT.
Maybe you love Ed Oliver, Emeka Egbuke, or Justin Herbert?
And yes, the NFL loves its villains too. Players who fans love to hate create natural tension that makes every game more compelling.
Maybe you hate Jalen Carter or Aaron Rodgers? Or, any of the teams or players I already named.
Take those emotional connections to your work comms.
What's the companyโs comeback story?
Who's the rookie exceeding expectations?
Who's the veteran mentor guiding others?
What are your wins?
And who are the villains? (Is it the competition?)
People connect with people, not jargon and spreadsheets.
๐ฅ ๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ฑ: ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ๐
Every NFL game matters because the stakes are clear.
๐ The playoff hopes hang in the balance, legacies are made or broken, and the one-and-done playoff format means lose once and your season ends.
๐ The Super Bowl isn't just a game. Itโs where careers are defined forever.
Your team needs to understand what's at risk and what success looks like.
โข What do those numbers mean for the company and their careers?
โข Whatโs the โso what?โ
โข What happens if you win this quarter?
โข What are you building toward?
โข What's the championship moment you're chasing together?
๐๐ต๐ฐ๐ฑ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ. ๐๐ต๐ข๐ณ๐ต ๐ด๐ต๐ฐ๐ณ๐บ๐ต๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ.
Your team deserves a story worth believing in.
And if you need help figuring out how to tell your story, I can help.
11/16/2025
I help leaders and managers figure out how to talk so people want to listen.
But, if you want to instantly build a deeper connection with your team, you might be overlooking the simplest trick: the impossible dream you keep hidden.
One that has nothing to do with your company's mission statement.
๐ถ My secret: If I could have any job I'm utterly unqualified for, Iโd be a rock drummer.
๐ฉโ๐ฆณ A full-on, touring-the-world, grooving-like-Sheila E and Neil Peart badass. I'd have the same wild hair, but I'd also have a really great singing voice.
When I share that ridiculous, unattainable fantasy, two things happen:
People smile. Then they share their impossible dreams.
๐ฅฎ The finance manager who wants to be a pastry chef.
๐ The IT director who dreams of restoring vintage cars.
๐โโ๏ธ The professor who wants to be a world-class surfer.
Everyone has one. And as a leader, sharing yours is a subtle, yet powerful act.
๐ช๐ต๐ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฎ ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ฝ ๐ฆ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ
Hereโs why it works:
โค๏ธ ๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ต, ๐๐ฐ๐ต ๐๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ.
Leaders often feel pressure to be polished and predictable. This makes you feel distant. When you admit you value something unexpected, you stop being a job function and start being a human being. Your team learns what energizes you, revealing personal values.
๐งโโ๏ธ๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐๐ถ๐ช๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐๐ข๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ด๐ต ๐๐ณ๐ช๐ฅ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐๐ณ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ท๐ช๐ข ๐๐ถ๐ญ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ข๐ฃ๐ช๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐บ
When you share a personal fantasy, you signal that it's safe for others to share too. You give your team permission to be themselves. They realize they don't have to leave the other versions of themselves at the door. This unlocks creativity by deepening psychological safety.
๐ ๐๐ต ๐๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ด ๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐๐ฐ๐ต๐ช๐ท๐ข๐ต๐ฆ๐ด ๐๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ
"What do you do?" is a boring question.
Imagine asking: "If you could do any job you're totally unqualified for, what would it be?"
This question gets straight to the core of their energy and passion.
And this information is gold. It helps you understand what motivates them, allowing you to connect their current work to their personal drivers.
๐ก๐๐ต ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐๐น๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ต๐ช๐ด๐ฆ ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ข๐ต๐ข๐ฃ๐ญ๐ฆ
If you're great at your job, people can sometimes put you on a pedestal. Sharing that you have a road not taken reminds everyone that expertise doesn't mean you've stopped being a whole person. It makes you the relatable, human leader everyone wants to follow.
๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ฒ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ: ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐บ ๐๐ผ๐ฏ
Share it as a genuine piece of who you are.
Because when you do, your team can see how you think and why they can trust you.
๐ฅ Rock on!
11/16/2025
Now, Iโm 61. But letโs go back to 2006.
Iโm 42.
๐ป Iโm sitting in a radio studio. State College, PA.
And I hear a song with the lyrics "Cuz I'm the son of a third generation farmer. Iโve been married ten years to the farmer's daughter. I got two boys in the county 4-H, I'm a lifetime sponsor of the FFAโฆ..Hey!"
๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ, โ๐ ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ฑ, ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐ ๐ด๐ผ ๐๐ฟ๐ผ๐ป๐ด? ๐ฃ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐ฒ๐น?"
๐ธ Big Froggy 101. The Morning Splash with Boss Frog and Ann Phibian.
Iโm โAnn Phibian.โ
๐ฆ๐ผ, ๐ต๐ผ๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐ ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฝ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ?
Well, Iโm in grad school. Penn State.
I have a huge paper due in the morning.
So I better go out for a jog to wake me up.
๐ Iโm jogging.
And my left arm hurts.
Weird.
Long story short, I call my neighbor when I get home.
She takes me to the hospital.
Iโm having a heart attack.
I lived, obviously.
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน A few weeks later, Iโm on the phone with my cardiologist. He asks me if I can go to some local radio stations and talk about what happened for a heart health day called ๐๐ฐ ๐๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฏ.
So I do. And they offer me a job.
And, that first week was rough.
I seriously couldnโt believe that anyone who wasnโt married to their sister would listen to this stuff.
And thenโฆover the course of time, I started to dig it. Like really, really like it.
Luke Bryan had just come out with a song called "Country Man," so I drove by myself down to Towson, MD where he was performing in the student union!!!!
And then I started going to fairs and venues to meet the artists and see shows.
And when it came time to pick a topic for my Masterโs thesis, I decided to write about the horrific lack of country music in national TV ads - unless it was for beer or trucks.
Now, country music is one of my favorites. And even though I no longer work in radio, I still go to the Country Radio Seminar in Nashville every year.
And I still cherish the memories of all the musicians I got to meet, concerts I went to, and radio folks I befriended along the way.
My journey from country music skeptic to superfan isn't just about discovering a new genreโit's a reminder of how powerful storytelling can be in shifting our perspectives.
Every song I heard on Big Froggy 101 told a story, and those stories chipped away at my preconceptions until I found myself genuinely moved by the very music I'd once dismissed.
This experience taught me that stories have an almost magical ability to bypass our defenses and open our minds in ways that facts and arguments never could.
Whether it's a three-minute country ballad or a personal narrative shared over coffee, the right story at the right time can fundamentally reshape how we see the worldโand that's something worth celebrating.
11/16/2025
When I was 19, I was modeling in New York and Germany.
At 22, I spent a summer volunteering in the Mission District in San Francisco and living with nuns.
That same summer, I also worked backstage at the Missouri State Fair just so I could meet my favorite band, Mr. Mister.
At 23, I interned at MTV in New York back in 1987 when they still played music videos. And in the late 80s, I spent a semester going to school in southern Sweden.
People often asked me: "How did you make all that happen?"
The answer is both simple and not simple.
Simple because I had a blissfully ignorant streak in my personality and never assumed anything was impossible. If I wanted something, I simply went after it.
Not simple because it required putting myself out there, over and over. I entered a modeling contest with Elite, then spent a year modeling.
When it was time for a college internship for my Broadcasting degree, I sent resumes to Johnny Carson and MTV and got accepted to both.
I called the Missouri State Fair and asked point-blank if I could work backstage. And that's how I ended up spending a few days on the road with Mr. Misterโsome of the kindest men on the planet.
As for that semester abroad, one of my favorite professors invited me to go and said I'd be crazy not toโso I went.
Each time, I created opportunity by asking. Or by saying yes to an invitation.
Decades later, that lesson still rings true. Recently, I met a friend named Jason who facilitates workshops. Instead of admiring from afar, I asked him about it.
He generously shared tips and connected me with Scott at the Pennsylvania State Association of Township Supervisors. I followed up with Scott, who invited me to watch Jason speak at a local event.
The night before, I saw Jason at a Rotary Club social. When I mentioned I'd be at his presentation, he unexpectedly invited me to speak for a few minutes about storytelling and persuasion during his session on team communications.
Another chance to share my passion and serve others.
Here's what I've discovered: None of this happens without askingโor at least being open to opportunities when they present themselves.
I want to be honest with you: this isn't always easy. It can feel challenging and scary to put yourself out there. Sometimes it's downright anxiety-provoking.
But here's what I've learned: that anxiety you feel isn't a stop sign. It's just a feeling, and you can learn to feel it and move forward anyway.
What's waiting on the other side of that discomfort?
Connections. Experiences. Growth. Moments you'll remember for decades. The chance to share what you love with people who need to hear it.
You don't need to be fearless. You don't need perfect confidence. You just need to be willing to try.
So what if you stepped outside your comfort zone? Sent that email. Made that call. Proposed that idea. The opportunities are out there, waiting for you to reach for them.
Your next great experience might be just one question away. All you have to do is ask.
09/16/2025
Why Do We Beat Ourselves Up for Failing at Things We've Never Been Taught?
Youโre in another meeting. You think, I'm so boring. I sound like really bad AI reading an obituary. Across the table, Janet tells a quick story and everyone's leaning in and smiling.
So you beat yourself up. I'm just not good at this. Some people are natural storytellers, but Iโm human va**um.
But those natural storytellers? They learned this stuff somewhere. And they had to practice. It just looks like innate talent.
The Awkward-First Rule: You have to be willing to be awkward at something before you can be smooth at it.
If youโve ever played a musical instrument or a sport, you know that natural talent is just part of it. Serena Williams had to learn how to play tennis and then spent a lifetime on the court.
So, maybe youโre not a riveting speaker right now.
But, youโre not broken. You just never learned the skill. Or you just need to brush up.
Take Janet from the meeting. She saved a colleague from quitting not because she was born with some magical gift, but because she knew how to share the right story at the right time.
That's not natural talent. That's learning and experience.
My storytelling workshop teaches you both sides of the equation:
How to CREATE better stories: We dig into your life and work to find the gems you've been overlooking. Iโll show you how simple it is to turn your experiences into stories people want to hear.
How to DELIVER them like a pro: No more mumbling through anecdotes or rambling without a point. You'll learn exactly when to pause, how to use your voice and gestures, and how to land the ending so people actually get it.
We practice with your real work situations, so you leave with actual stories ready for Monday morning.
Stop beating yourself up for not knowing something you were never taught. Learn the skill instead.
Time to give yourself a break? Send me a message and let's talk about how my storytelling workshop can help you go from "human va**um" to someone people actually want to listen to.
Everyone deserves to feel confident when they speak.
09/16/2025
The Empathy Gap: Why Your Brilliant Ideas Fall Flat
Ever mess up a presentation? Hereโs one explanation.
Letโs start with Sarah.
She walks into the company meeting with a huge smile. She has amazing news to share about a new project, complete with charts and data. Her masterpiece.
It looks weeks to prep. And lots of practice: in front of the mirror, while she was driving, and in front of her 3-legged Doberman.
But as she talks, she notices everyone looks like theyโd rather be somewhere else.
They're staring at her with the same face she always had when Father Benedetto droned on and on about "The Seven Deadly Sins.โ Her audience looks like theyโre already in hell.
What Sarah didn't know was that her audience was still upset. Theyโd just spent months working on a different project that completely bombed. While Sarah was bubbling with excitement about the future, they were still feeling bad about losing a big account.
Here's what Sarah should have done instead: She couldโve started by saying something like, "I know the Wilson project didn't go as planned, and I can see how disappointed you are."
Then, she couldโve shared a story about a time one of her own projects failed. She couldโve acknowledged their feelings first, before asking them to get excited about something new.
The Simple Rule for Better Communication:
Figure out how people are feeling right now - Are they stressed? Excited? Worried? Tired?
Start by acknowledging those feelings - Let them know you get it.
Slowly move them to where you need them to be - Don't jump from sad to excited in one leap.
End with how you want them to feel - Hopeful, motivated, or whatever fits your message.
Most of us make this mistake. We get so caught up in what we want to say that we forget to think about what the other person is ready to hear.
Think about it: If you're worried about paying rent, you're not going to care about investment opportunities. If you're still hurt from an argument with your spouse, you're not ready to plan your next vacation together.
And if your team just had a major setback, they're not ready to hear about the next big thing.
Before you say anything important, ask yourself: "What's going on in their head right now?" Then start there.
The best communicators don't start with their message. They start by showing they understand what the other person is going through. Once people feel heard and understood, they're much more likely to listen to what you have to say.
And if you need help crafting good stories that show demonstrate both understanding and inspiration, Iโd be happy to help you and your team too.
09/16/2025
What Being A Server Taught Me About Leadership in 1983
It's 1983.
Sedalia, Missouri. I'm working at Ken's Pizza while going to State Fair Community College.
Itโs midnight on a Saturday. The last of the high school kids are headed to their cars for one more cruise down โthe strip.โ
That means it's time for us to get the place cleaned and closed. The jukebox is blaring โBillie Jean,โ โHeart and Soul,โ and โTotal Eclipse of the Heart,โ which makes whatโs ahead much more tolerable.
Weโll break down the salad bar, do loads of dishes, mop - and one of us gets to clean the bathrooms. Barf.
And like clockwork, Brad has vanished.
Maybe he's "taking out trash" that somehow requires a 20-minute cigarette break. Or, once again, heโs "organizing" the walk-in cooler (aka eating shredded mozzarella straight out of the box).
Here's what a 19-year-old working for $2.50 an hour taught me about leadership that I still remember today: The manager who doesn't address the problem becomes part of the problem.
The Brad Rule:Your Silence Speaks Louder Than Their Slacking
At Ken's Pizza, our manager, Jimmy, had two choices every time he closed:
Call Brad out on his disappearing act.
Accept that the rest of us would resent both Brad AND him.
There's no magical third option where Brad suddenly develops a work ethic.
Night after night, Jimmy watched the same pattern. Brad would be Mr. Refill King during the dinner rush when customers were tipping, but the minute it came time for the icky work, he vanished like a pitcher of Miller Lite on a hot day at the fair.
Meanwhile, the rest of us were busting our butts, staying late to finish what should have been Bradโs work. We'd exchange those looksโyou know the ones.
The one that says I hope Brad slips on the wet floor and breaks a patella.
Jimmy kept thinking Brad would figure it out on his own. Spoiler alert: He didn't.
What I learned way back then: The moment you stop protecting your best people from your worst people is the moment you become the problem.
The courage to have one difficult conversation today creates the trust for a thousand easy ones tomorrow.
09/16/2025
Whatโs happening vs. Why it matters.
Have you ever used facts in a presentation or meeting in the hopes of convincing someone of something?
Most of us do..
But thereโs a better way to communicate effectively.
But first, letโs talk about facts
Theyโre logical. They tell us whatโs happening.
You might say โ72% of customers will ditch you for a competitor after just one bad experience.โ
But, thereโs something else that works much better than simply stating that fact.
Itโs telling us why that matters.
When you only give people facts, their brains donโt really engage.
Itโs the difference between learning facts about the Great Depression in a middle school history book vs. reading the book โThe Four Windsโ by Kristin Hannah. No comparison.
Facts are easy to forget. Stories are not.
And itโs the same in workplace communication.
You can tell your team that poor customer service accounts for lost business, but they may not know what you meanโฆ.exactly.
But what if you talked about customer service like thisโฆ
โFor eight years, Sarahโs been a walking billboard for her favorite nail salon. Her nails are tiny canvases. Every two weeks, she'd have a new masterpiece created.
Itโs how she expresses herself. Theyโre a conversation starter.
People often ask her where she gets them done and she always has the same answer, โPolished Perfection. Just ask for the owner, Tammy.โ
Sarah sent dozens of new customers through their doors over the years. She was fiercely loyal.
And then, one day, Sarah arrived for an appointment with a coupon sheโd tucked away in her purse, 10% off a set of gel nails. It had expired a week prior.
"I'm so sorry, but we can't honor this," said Tammy.
Sarah didnโt know what to say. So she got her nails done, then left. She knew sheโd never go back. Truth be told, she was a little hurt.
It wasn't about the few dollars she wouldโve saved. It was about the lame refusal after so many years of being their biggest cheerleader. It was like her decade-long relationship with the salon meant nothing.
She couldnโt believe Tammy risked their relationship over a measly $5.
The impact? Sarah went to a new salon and started referring people there instead. Over the course of time, it meant lost money for Tammy. And a disheartened former customer.
And the lesson?
Facts tell you what is happening.
Stories show you why it matters.
While spreadsheets and data are essential, they donโt inspire action or build loyalty.
Only using facts is like trying to get your kids to eat vegetables by showing them a nutritional chart. Itโs logical, but it wonโt work.
This is where the power of storytelling comes in.
Stories make things stick in the brain because they:
engage our emotions
activate multiple parts of the brain
cause our brains to release hormones that help us empathize with the characters and remember the plot
connect events, causes, and effects in a way our brains are wired to process
make the info easier to recall later
So the next time you find yourself ready to give a bunch of facts, take a minute to think of why they matter. And then tell a short story that illustrates that impact.
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